Hello everyone, I am Empty Valley Youlan, a second-born mother!
I remember when Dabao was 5 months old, he came back to his hometown with his child, and the etiquette of visiting the door was always indispensable. Unexpectedly, Dabao was particularly "not to give face", just stepped into the threshold of other people's homes, and was greeted warmly by the neighbor's aunt, and Dabao suddenly cried.
"This kid's voice is so loud!" The neighbor's aunt looked embarrassed. I also explained, "The child probably wants to sleep at this time!" "I made an excuse to sneak home, but I didn't expect that the little guy who was still crying just now suddenly became quiet.
I told my grandmother about the incident as a joke, but I didn't expect the old man's face to change, and he said lowly: "The little baby is not enough yang, maybe he saw 'other things'." ”
"Grandma, you're saying that superstitiously. Now is the new century, and everything is based on scientific basis. I interrupted Grandma.
Why do babies suddenly cry when they see "someone"? Scientific explanations to know!
In order to answer this doubt, I consulted a lot of authoritative materials and consulted many professionals, and the summary answer was not the "superstitious explanation" in the mouth of the older generation, but the real "cause of the matter".
First of all, from the visual point of view, the world seen by babies and adults in infancy is different.
Because the visual system is not perfect, newborn babies are equivalent to "highly myopic patients", and basically things that are more than 30 cm away from the eyes cannot be seen clearly. Even if they come to the baby, all they see is a vague outline, the facial features of the face, sorry, the baby really can't see clearly!
Secondly, as the baby's age grows, the child's vision also begins to improve by leaps and bounds, gradually transitioning from a single blurry world to a colored world, at this time we will find that the baby prefers bright colors such as red and green. If your baby is exposed to a more gray and dark color environment, they will use crying to express their uneasiness.
Finally, the baby began to have the consciousness of "raw people" and "acquaintances", in the face of the sudden appearance of "raw faces", the baby no longer showed curiosity, but caused the inner vigilance, "outsider invasion" led to their sense of fear, not to mention the intimate physical contact with the baby, even close will make them cry loudly.
In addition to the above factors, if someone has some unpleasant smell, such as smoke, which makes the baby feel uncomfortable, it will also cause them to cry. Or if someone carries something that the baby doesn't like, they will also use crying to express their dissatisfaction.
Don't blame him! After all, it is only a baby, a baby who does not understand language expression, and crying is the only cathartic channel for them at this stage.
In the face of "someone" can not stop crying, how to do parents well?
Soothe your baby.
Babies in infancy and infancy have a lack of inner security, and if we forcibly hand it over to what they think is a "raw person", it will only make them feel afraid. So at this time, what we have to do is to comfort the baby, and the most trusted person in the baby on weekdays should hold the child more, so that the child understands that he has not been abandoned, still stays with his parents, and the environment in which he is located is a safe environment.
Take your baby out more.
The child's world is too small, and what is seen in the eyes is rarely seen by the parents, and the proximity of the birth will naturally trigger the baby's vigilance. Therefore, to avoid children being too timid, parents should also have a conscious guide, such as taking the baby out more, so that the baby can see different scenery and meet different people. In different environments, the information received by the baby is different. Once babies have seen different worlds, their resistance to unfamiliar environments and strangers is not so strong.
In addition, parents' educational methods also play a crucial role!
In life, parents should also pay attention to educational methods and do not artificially set psychological barriers for their children. When some parents treat their children naughtily, they can't help but "verbally threaten" their children, such as: "If you don't obey, let the bad guys arrest you", "If you don't leave, let people pick you up" and so on. Parents only say these words casually, but it is easy to cause psychological obstacles to children, instinctive rejection and fear of living people, and when they encounter the saints approaching, they can't help but start crying.
Again, teach children not to be impatient. Each child's development has its own natural law, not the same horizontal line, some children are more timid by nature, more cautious about accepting external things, if parents are eager to achieve, with scolding and other ways to force children to accept, I am afraid that only let the child "worse", get the opposite effect.
Everything needs a process to grow, and children are no exception! As babies age, physical and mental development, and the scope of life continues to expand, they have emotional self-control. Negative behaviors such as crying in the face of strangers approaching, or fearing people, disappear.
Does your baby cry when he sees a living person? Remember what method you used at the time? Welcome to leave a message to share and discuss together!