On November 15, 2020, Liu Liwei, a freshman at Yantai Engineering Vocational and Technical College, received a news that made her unbelievable.
Your mother is in the operating room for rescue, the situation is critical, return quickly!
The phone call came from a relative, and Liu Liwei held up his mobile phone and stood stupidly on the campus for a long time before he reacted.
She quickly found the teacher to ask for leave, packed her bags, and rushed back to her home in Qingdao.
Liu Liwei's mother, fan Ruimin, is only in her early forties this year. How can a mother who is in her prime suddenly get sick?
Sitting on the train to Qingdao, although the sun was shining outside the window, Liu Liwei's heart fell to the bottom. It is not an exaggeration to use the four words "the sky is falling"!
The reason why he was hit so hard was because Liu Liwei came from a single-parent family.
When she was in junior high school, her parents divorced because of personality incompatibility. Her mother took her out of the house and lived with her. The young brother lived with his father, and the two sides have never been in contact with each other since.
Now that something has happened to my mother, no one can discuss it or share it. Everything needs this girl who has just turned 18 to bear and face alone.
Scene after scene of the past, like a replayed movie, emerged in Liu Liwei's mind.
At that time, the mother and daughter who had left the house had no tiles to cover themselves and no place to stand under them, and could only rent a dilapidated hut to live in.
Although the economic situation is not good, Fan Ruimin has never owed her daughter, and always gives Liu Liwei the best life within her own ability.
The deepest impression is that when she was a child, Liu Liwei was doing homework at home, and her mother returned from work. After entering the door, she will laugh and call out to her: Li Li, see what your mother brought you?
Liu Liwei would excitedly run over to her mother's bag, at this time, she would usually turn over two lollipops.
The mother and daughter looked at each other and smiled, and each one ate with relish. Life is very difficult, but my mother will always find a way to make a little sweet and make life tasteful.
Later, Fan Ruimin opened a small shop for beauty and nail art, and the life of the mother and daughter gradually improved.
After growing up a little longer, as long as there is time, Fan Ruimin will dress Liu Liwei beautifully. The mother and daughter went shopping and played together, and agreed to wait for better conditions in the future, and go to Yunnan and Tibet together to take a walk and take a look.
Despite living in a single-parent family, Liu Liwei has a good mother who loves her deeply.
Under the best efforts of her mother to cultivate, Liu Liwei was successfully admitted to the university in July 2020.
After all the hardships, the days are getting better and better, and both mother and daughter are full of hopes for the future. But now, my mother is suddenly seriously ill and her life and death are uncertain.
Liu Liwei constantly calmed his anxious mood and secretly prayed that his mother could turn the crisis around.
That night, she rushed to the hospital. From Fan Ruimin's colleagues in the unit, I learned about the specific situation.
It turned out that Fan Ruimin suddenly fainted at work and was subsequently sent to the hospital for emergency treatment by a kind colleague.
The doctor's diagnosis was that the rupture of the cerebral aneurysm triggered subarachnoid hemorrhage, and emergency craniotomy was performed immediately. Because the condition was too serious, two craniotomys were performed in succession.
Fan Ruimin was in a coma for a whole month after the operation, and although the person survived, he became a semi-vegetative state.
What made Liu Li slightly frightened was that although her mother after the operation woke up, she only had one hand that could barely move.
Not only is life completely unable to take care of itself, but even intelligence is seriously degraded. Can't move, can't speak, can only use the "wow" cry to express their emotions.
What made her even more desperate was that her mother did not know herself anymore.
Although the reality is heartbreaking, Liu Liwei knows that this is his dearest and dearest mother. Even if she no longer recognizes herself, he will have an obligation to take care of her.
But difficulty, like a mountain, straddled her.
After all, I am still a student! If you stay and take care of your mother, what will you do with your studies? What about the economy?
Relatives advised Liu Liwei: "Send your mother to a nursing home!" Whether you go to school or get a job, life always has to pass. ”
Liu Liwei said: "No matter where I send my mother, I am not at ease, who can take better care of her than my daughter-in-law?" ”
In this world, I am the only one that my mother can rely on. Only you can take on the heavy responsibility of taking care of your mother.
After the winter vacation of his freshman year, Liu Liwei immediately returned to school to go through the suspension procedures. She took a year off from school to focus on taking care of her mother.
This year, the mother and daughter basically spent time in the hospital.
The most serious problem in front of Liu Liwei is the lack of money.
In the early days of Fan Ruimin's illness, the family's small savings were quickly spent. In the later period, Liu Liwei raised more than 90,000 yuan through the "easy fundraising" platform. And the money was quickly spent on Fan Ruimin's three craniotomy operations.
By August this year, Fan Ruimin's rehabilitation expenses and the living expenses of the mother and daughter had already overwhelmed Liu Li.
She had to take care of her mother while finding a part-time job.
In order to balance left and right, Liu Liwei arranged every day to the fullest.
morning
6:00 Help mom get up, freshen up, and do simple activities
Breakfast at 7:30
9:00-10:30 Take your mother for rehabilitation
11:30 Lunch
13:30 p.m. is Liu Liwei's clock-in time
Throughout the morning, she needed to help her mother with various rehabilitation maneuvers; buy meals and feed them to her spoonful by spoon; clean up the bowels and blaze and change her clothes; and turn over her mother every three hours.
When the weather is good, Liu Liwei will take her mother out to bask in the sun and breathe fresh air. In the courtyard downstairs in the ward, Liu Liwei would tease Fan Ruimin and pick a small flower and wear it on her sideburns.
At this time, Fan Ruimin will be particularly happy. Although she couldn't express it, there was a glint of excitement in her eyes.
However, sometimes Fan Ruimin will be in a bad mood and refuse to cooperate with the rehabilitation. Liu Liwei coaxed like a child for half a day, often sweating profusely.
Every day at 1 p.m., after settling down her mother, Liu Liwei dragged her tired body to rush to work.
Before leaving, she would gently say to Fan Ruimin, "Mom, I'm going to work, I'll be back soon, you have to obediently wait for me." ”
A few hours later, she returned to the ward with a weary face. Take a deep breath, pick up your spirits, pretend to be full of energy, and greet your mother in a cheerful voice: "Mom, I'm back."
Then, just like her mother did to herself when she was a child, Liu Liwei took out a lollipop from her bag. With the only hand that could be moved, Fan Ruimin took the lollipop and put it in his mouth to eat with relish.
For a girl who has just reached adulthood, it is difficult to take care of paralyzed dementia patients and work to earn money.
While girls of the same age are busy studying, shopping, and even enjoying a sweet relationship, Liu Liwei serves in front of her mother's hospital bed all day long.
The hardest period of time Liu Liwei, can only sleep two or three hours a day. After a few months, she lost more than twenty pounds.
Although he was very bitter and tired, Liu Liwei always smiled and accompanied Fan Ruimin. The patient number and family members in the same ward never saw her discouraged, let alone heard her say a word of complaint.
As long as Liu Liwei appeared in the ward, there would be a burst of laughter. Everyone was deeply touched by this optimistic and strong girl.
In fact, no matter how much suffering and how much tiredness, Liu Liwei was not afraid. What made her feel most helpless was her mother's physical condition.
Fan Ruimin's condition has been deteriorating sharply, he has been bedridden for a long time, and his legs and feet have begun to deform. In order to control the disease, she needs injections every day, even several times a day, and her body is full of needle holes and bruises...
Liu Liwei looked in his eyes, the pain was in his heart, and he often hid in no one and wept silently. How she wished she could bear some pain for her mother, so that her mother would not suffer so much.
Although Liu Liwei has been doing her best to take care of her mother, because the condition is too serious, the doctor regrets that Fan Ruimin has run out of time.
After some ideological struggle, Liu Liwei finally accepted this cruel reality.
In the last days of Fan Ruimin's life, Liu Liwei decided to pour all her tenderness and love into accompanying her mother.
Mom is going to have a birthday, Liu Liwei gave her mother light makeup, nail polish, and dressed up beautifully. Fan Ruimin was a big beauty when he was young, and when he dressed up slightly, he immediately looked like a different person.
Liu Liwei put on the birthday cake and lit a candle. In the flickering candlelight, she sang a birthday song for her mother, and then blew candles and ate cakes together.
Liu Liwei also specially prepared a cute doll as a gift, if he goes to work, this doll can replace himself to accompany his mother.
When the weather is good, Liu Liwei will use a wheelchair to push her mother, go out to bask in the sun and walk.
She carries small toys such as balloons and bubble machines with her, and takes her to play with them in a variety of ways, just like her mother accompanied her when she was a child.
Strings of colorful bubbles flew up in the air, and Fan Ruimin's eyes widened, staring closely at the flying bubbles. Yelling like a child and even trying to grab it.
Liu Liwei kept playing bubbles with the bubble machine, looking at her mother so happy, she couldn't help but laugh.
November 15, 2021, is the first anniversary of Fan Ruimin's illness.
Liu Liwei once took her mother to the park, and the mother and daughter watched the autumn leaves dyed in the forest, and also took a lot of funny and interesting photos, and spent a pleasant and unforgettable day.
In order to continue to take care of her mother, Liu Liwei decided to withdraw from school and has been communicating with the school.
Perhaps sensing her daughter's thoughts, she did not want to continue to drag her daughter down. In the next two days, Fan Ruimin's condition took a sharp turn for the worse.
On the morning of November 18, she left her daughter and left this world forever...
After Fan Ruimin's death, Liu Liwei could not suppress his thoughts about his mother, so he edited the small video he usually shot and posted it to his Douyin account.
Unexpectedly, this video caused countless netizens to be moved to tears and became a hot spot in major media reports for a time.
Netizens have left messages in the comment area to encourage her: "Mom went to heaven, she just changed places to guard you", "She loves you, will look at you in heaven, she doesn't want to see you sad and sad, wants you to be happy." ”
The People's Daily also wrote in the article: "Dear girl, I hope you can live strongly. We believe that the mother who loves you will continue to accompany and guard you in another way. ”
Some people say: If you have ever raised a child with true love. Well, the rest of your life is worry-free!
This sentence, applied to Fan Ruimin, could not be more appropriate.
Over the years, she nourished her daughter with selfless maternal love, and finally got her daughter's love in return!
For a whole year, Liu Liwei put down everything, stayed in front of the sickbed, and carefully took care of her mother.
On the day of Fan Ruimin's death, Liu Liwei made a final farewell to his mother at the time of his death.
She attached herself to her mother's ear and said softly, "Mom, in the next life, you will be your daughter, and I will be my mother..."
At the same time, Fan Ruimin also cultivated a daughter with great love.
Liu Liwei not only loves his mother, but also loves everything in the world.
June 22, 2020, is Liu Liwei's 18th birthday. She decided to give herself a special coming-of-age gift – donating blood for the first time – and signed a volunteer form for the donation of the body.
When this decision was made, Liu Liwei had tested his mother. At that time, I was still a little worried that my mother would block it, but I didn't expect That Fan Ruimin was very supportive of her decision, which made Liu Liwei very moved.
When handling the formalities for Liu Liwei, even the staff of the Red Cross Society were sighing, only 18 years old, there is such a law, this girl is not ordinary.
In September 2021, shortly after his 19th birthday, Liu Liwei made another unexpected move - donating hematopoietic stem cells.
Liu Liwei hopes to do his best to help other people in difficulty and do something meaningful and valuable for the society.
Loving oneself, loving one's people, and loving all sentient beings, this is Liu Liwei's best return for his mother's love!
The weather is sunny and sunny.
When 19-year-old Liu Liwei finished taking care of her mother's affairs and walked out of the door of the funeral home.
She looked around and tears rained down. What is death? Death is that all things are eternal, except for Qing's absence.
The person who loves and loves himself the most really has gone!
But Liu Liwei did not immerse herself in grief for too long, although her mother went, her mother's love was still there.
In this life, this mother-daughter relationship has not left any regrets.
Where her mother once wanted to go to Yunnan and Tibet, she would take her mother's photos and walk through them one by one.
"Big Fish and Begonias" says: From now on, eight thousand years is tsubaki, eight thousand years is a soup, spring and autumn are summer, and death and life are not seen.
Liu Liwei said: "Across the world, Mom, I still love you"!
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【Text| Tianshan Moon 】
Edit | Daniel Lee]
【Typography | Drizzle】