In October 2013, a fierce quarrel broke out in front of an ordinary house in Nixia Village, Yujiang County, Jiangxi Province.
"I built this house, and I can't help but enter the house." The man of the house, who was disheveled, cried out in anger.
This man's surname is Feng, and the people in the village call him Old Feng, and he and his wife Ni Xiying originally lived a happy life.
However, shortly before the quarrel, Ni Xiying's husband, Ni Fasheng, who had originally "died", suddenly returned to the village.
He claimed that he and Ni Xiying were legal husband and wife, and that his wife Ni Xiying and the house built by Lao Feng were all his own.
Lao Feng and Ni Xiying did not want to pay attention to this unreasonable request, and the two quarreled many times with Ni Fasheng's family.
Why did Ni Fasheng, who had been "dead" for many years, suddenly appear? How is this finally handled?
Ten years ago, my husband "died" of SARS
Ni Fasheng and Ni Xiying were also a loving couple ten years ago, and they have been married for many years and have always had a good relationship.
In order to support his family, Ni Fasheng has been working outside the home alone to earn money, while Ni Xiying stayed in his hometown in Jiangxi with two children.
Due to poor family conditions, Ni Fasheng and Ni Xiying did not build a new house when they got married.
For many years, the two have been living with their children and Ni Fasheng's parents, and their lives are crowded and poor.
Ni Fasheng's biggest wish is to build a new house in the village and let his wife and children move away from his parents' old house.
In the Spring Festival of 2003, Ni Fasheng, who went out to work, returned to Jiangxi, and in addition to the New Year, he also wanted to discuss a major event with his wife.
"At the end of the year, let's go to Guangzhou to work together, work hard to make money, so that we can build a house."
"We all listen to you, and at the end of the year we will leave the child to your father and your mother."
After the end of the year, Ni Xiying and Ni Fasheng, with the good wish of making money and building a house, embarked on the road to Guangzhou to work.
In 2003, the SARS virus began to spread across the country, and Guangzhou happened to be the center of the SARS storm.
Ni Fasheng was worried that his wife would be infected with SARS in Guangzhou, so he persuaded her to go home first, and he continued to stay in Guangzhou to earn money.
Returning to her hometown, Ni Xiying was worried about her husband's safety all the time, and she waited from summer to autumn, but still did not wait for her husband's news.
"At this time, I was very anxious, and the 'SARS' in Guangzhou was indeed too serious, and I suspected that he was dead."
Ni Xiying was so anxious that she immediately flew to Guangzhou to inquire about her husband's news and confirm whether her husband was safe.
But she looked at the young children next to her, and did not dare to venture to Guangzhou alone.
She found Ni Fasheng's brother and parents, told them about her worries, and asked Ni Fasheng's family to join her in finding Ni Fasheng.
"How do you find this?" You don't know where he is, people will run. Ni Fasheng's eldest brother rejected Ni Xiying.
In desperation, Ni Xiying thought that she had an older brother who sold vegetables in Guangzhou, and perhaps her brother could help her find a husband.
She immediately contacted her brother and told him the address of her former husband, who followed the address but did not see Ni Fasheng.
Ni Xiying's daughter Xiaoting even posted Ni Fasheng's search notice through the Internet, but did not receive any reply.
In order to be able to find her husband, Ni Xiying also went to the police station to report the case, and the police station told her: "Most of them are dead." ”
At this time, Ni Xiying's heart had gradually begun to accept the fact that Ni Fasheng "died of SARS".
In the next ten years, Ni Xiying did not receive a phone call from Ni Fasheng, nor did she get any news about Ni Fasheng.
A woman holds up a home
When Ni Fasheng disappeared, his daughter Xiaoting was in elementary school, and his son Xiaoguo was only five years old.
For this family that is not rich, the sudden "death" of the father is a huge blow.
Ni Xiying thought bitterly and decided to cheer up and work hard to make money, at least to complete Ni Fasheng's wish to build a new house "before he died".
She borrowed thirty thousand yuan from relatives, hired some workers who built houses, and built a small bungalow on the flat ground.
In the countryside, a woman building a house alone is criticized by people, and even Ni Xiying's in-laws persuaded her not to toss anymore.
Ni Xiying ignored these gossip and still built the house by herself.
In the Spring Festival of 2004, Ni Xiying moved into a new house with her two children, and a year later, Ni Fasheng still did not return.
People in the village, including Ni Fasheng's parents, said that Ni Fasheng must have been sick and "died" outside.
Ni Xiying also gave up the last fantasy in her heart, and single-handedly supported the family that was in turmoil due to Ni Fasheng's disappearance.
She put Xiaoting and Xiaoguo at home, and she went out to work, because she had no education and technology, she could only do chores in restaurants.
The work in the restaurant was complicated and hard, and she often didn't leave work until twelve o'clock in the evening.
Because she could not afford the money borrowed from the previous house repair, Ni Xiying did not even dare to go home to see her children for the New Year.
Several times during the New Year, she stayed alone in the rental house where she worked, eating leftovers.
At the same time, Xiaoting and Xiaoguo's life in the village is not good, and they are often unable to eat when they are fostered to their grandparents.
Ni Fasheng's "death" made his parents reluctant to ask about the life of Ni Xiying's family, and sometimes even drove Xiaoguo and Xiaoting outside.
The young xiaoguo also confessed that he had no impression of his father's appearance at all, and he had no feelings for him in his heart.
All he remembers was that the kids at school laughed at him and said he didn't have a dad.
In 2007, Xiaoting, who had excellent grades, was admitted to a famous local high school, and Ni Xiying was very happy, saying that she would also provide her with books by smashing pots and selling iron.
Xiaoting insisted on giving up this rare opportunity, and she was not willing to let the burden on her mother increase again and again.
"Xiaoting told me that she stopped reading and let her little brother continue to study." Mentioning this past, Ni Xiying couldn't help but have tears in her eyes.
The disappearance of her husband and the burden of raising her children made Ni Xiying breathless.
In the first few years, Ni Xiying would still tell Xiaoting from time to time: "I don't know if your father will come back this year." ”
As time passed, she became more and more convinced that her husband had indeed "died", and she was discouraged and no longer mentioned Ni Fasheng.
After regaining his life, her husband "came back from the dead"
After Ni Fasheng disappeared, many people advised Ni Xiying not to wait for him to return and seize the time to find another husband.
Ni Xiying did not have this idea at first, just wanted to pull the two older children well and pay off the debt owed to build a house.
But it is not easy for a woman to live with two children, and she soon experiences the feeling of being overwhelmed.
Especially in 2007, due to economic reasons, her daughter Xiaoting gave up the opportunity to go to high school and went out to work.
Ni Xiying felt even more that she should find someone to support each other and support this small family together.
In 2008, after being introduced, Ni Xiying met her later husband Lao Feng.
Ni Xiying and Lao Feng work in the same city, she is "widowed", he is divorced, and both of them have children with their predecessors.
This similar experience made Ni Xiying and Lao Feng have a common language, and soon, the two established a romantic relationship.
Although Ni Fasheng's parents were not happy that Ni Xiying would marry someone else, they had not heard from their son for five years, and they were not good at raising objections.
Not long after, Ni Xiying and Lao Feng held a banquet in the village, and the two became a formal couple.
According to Ni Xiying, she went to the police station to apply for Ni Fasheng's death certificate, but the police station said that "there is no need."
At the same time, she and Ni Fasheng also had no divorce procedures, that is to say, at this time, her legal husband was still Ni Fasheng.
Ni Xiying and Lao Feng were not ready to have children again, and the two who were married for the second time did not consider pulling a marriage certificate.
This made the marriage relationship between Ni Xiying and Lao Feng less justified, and also gave the later Ni Fasheng an opportunity to take advantage of it.
The first thing Lao Feng did after marrying Ni Xiying was to help Ni Xiying pay off the debts she owed for building a house.
After that, he and Ni Xiying jointly paid for it, and gradually added the bungalow that was originally only one floor into a three-story small building.
In the process of Building a Building for Ni Xiying, Ni Fasheng's parents sold their old house and gave them ten thousand yuan in order to support them.
This move has always touched Ni Xiying, although she and the old couple have had some unpleasant troubles after Ni Fasheng disappeared.
But the former in-laws are willing to help her at this time, and she is very grateful in her heart.
In order to show this gratitude, Ni Xiying asked her in-laws to move in to live in her own home, and at the same time asked them to help take care of The Small Country.
After marriage, Ni Xiying, who had the help of old Feng, was much more relaxed in all aspects, and the two of them had a good time in their little lives.
Xiaoting and Xiaoguo are very satisfied with this "new father", and Lao Feng is very good to both of them, making up for their lack of fatherly love.
Lao Feng also treated Xiaoguo and Xiaoting as his own children, and even built a house to marry Xiaoguo's daughter-in-law.
Under the meticulous care of Old Feng, Ni Xiying gradually stepped out of the shadows, and her mental state was getting better and better.
"I used to be very thin, and I was raised fat after I was with Old Feng." Ni Xiying had a smile on her face.
But what she never expected was that just when she had begun a new life, Ni Fasheng, who had "died", would suddenly return to the village.
The "dead man" lion opened his mouth widely
On the eve of the Mid-Autumn Festival in 2013, Ni Fasheng, who was nearly fifty years old, appeared in Nixia Village, which frightened everyone in the village.
Ni Xiying looked at this familiar and somewhat unfamiliar face in front of her and felt very shocked in her heart.
She couldn't understand why, since Ni Fasheng hadn't died, he hadn't been home to see himself and his children in ten years.
"I think he's very cruel." Ni Fasheng did not even entrust anyone to bring back the message.
Ni Xiying remembered the time when she pulled the child alone, and she only felt sad and sad, all of which was caused by Ni Fasheng.
In the face of questioning from his relatives, Ni Fasheng said that he had bitter intentions for not coming back to visit them for so many years.
"I don't feel good about it either, I feel guilty, and this time I came back to take on my responsibilities."
When he said this, Ni Fasheng had been staring at the small three-story building built by Ni Xiying and Old Feng.
He said he was about to enter the house, saying that he was "in tears of joy" and that he was "finally home".
Where Ni Xiying was willing to let him in, he hurriedly drove him outside, and while rushing back, he screamed and scolded him to go out.
The fierce movement at the door soon attracted the attention of Ni Fasheng's parents, and when they saw their son who had been separated for many years, the old two were shocked and angry.
Unable to ask where his son had gone over the years, the old couple hurriedly helped persuade Ni Xiying to temporarily accept Ni Fasheng.
Although Ni Xiying was angry in her heart, she was still unwilling to brush the faces of the two old people, so she had to let Ni Fasheng enter the house.
For the rest of the time, Ni Fasheng lived with his parents in a house in Ni Xiying's family.
"I'm sorry for you, you lost your father's love since you were a child." Ni Fasheng sat next to his son Xiaoguo and apologized to him.
Hearing Ni Fasheng's words, Xiao Guo pulled the corners of his mouth expressionlessly and did not respond.
"I didn't fulfill my responsibilities as a father, nor did I fulfill my responsibilities as a husband." Ni Fasheng continued to add.
"Is one sorry and that's the end of it?" This hate is from small to large. Xiao Guo had no intention of forgiving Ni Fasheng.
Ni Fasheng's sudden disappearance has brought indelible harm to both the small country and the family.
Now that he said he would come back, he wanted to ask his family for forgiveness with a few kind words, which was a dream.
In the face of his family's rejection and questioning, Ni Fasheng said word for word about the various tribulations he had suffered outside in the past ten years.
He said he was not doing well, not making any money, and he was plagued by illness and was often hospitalized.
Because he could not earn money to build a house, he did not want to go home with a good face, and he did not intend to abandon his wife and children.
But Ni Xiying did not adopt this statement, "Can a person still be sick every year?" ”
Moreover, even if Ni Fasheng did not go home, he could carry a letter back and at least let his family know that he was safe and sound outside.
He had ten thousand ways to deal with these things, yet he did nothing and left his family to worry.
Ni Xiying also said that Ni Fasheng most likely had women outside, otherwise he would not have disappeared for more than ten years at once.
Ni Fasheng rejected Ni Xiying's statement and said that he came back this time to compensate Ni Xiying and the child.
He said that ni Xiying and Lao Feng's marriage had no legal effect and asked Ni Xiying to return to his side.
At the same time, Ni Fasheng also shamelessly wanted to occupy the three-story small building that Lao Feng and Ni Xiying had built together.
After several arguments, Ni Xiying had to consult a lawyer, who told her that to solve the problem, she must first divorce Ni Fasheng.
Ni Fasheng said that divorce is OK, but the house must be given to him.
Of course, Ni Xiying would not give away the house she had worked so hard to build, and in desperation, she sued the court.
On November 10, 2013, after trial, the Yujiang County People's Court in Jiangxi Province pronounced a verdict on the case.
The building built by Ni Xiying was divided into two halves, and she got more of it, and her son Xiaoguo was also raised by her.
In addition, the court held that Ni Fasheng must fulfill his fatherly obligations, and he was sentenced to 214 yuan per month in maintenance to Xiaoguo.
In the face of this result, although Ni Xiying did not want to accept it, she had no choice but she did not want to have anything to do with Ni Fasheng anymore.
Everyone has their own responsibilities in society, and even if life is sloppy, they cannot escape at will.
Ni Fasheng, who does not want to bear the responsibilities of his father and husband, will eventually lose his qualifications to be a father and husband!
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