I believe that every child is the heart of the parents, whether the child is playing in the community or in the kindergarten will inevitably have a small friction with other children, small tongue disputes, and then inevitably hands, is not a lot of parents are teaching their children in this way, "we can't beat people first, but people beat you can't, you must fight back", I don't know if you are also this kind of parent?
In fact, it is very common for children to have conflicts before, but perhaps when the parents have not yet figured out what the situation is, the two people have been reconciled. If parents just blindly teach their children to fight back directly, it will not only affect the feelings between children, but also let the children fall into a single idea, people beat me I have to fight back, will not think about how I do others will not bully me next time. If parents do not guide from an early age, the child is likely to go to two extremes, one is that others beat me, I will only cry, do not know how to do, although the parents taught, but because of the weaker personality in all aspects, do not dare to say, to primary school, middle school, it is likely to become the object of campus bullying. The other is that regardless of whether three seven twenty-one directly hit back, if this behavior is long-term, it may become a habitual violence, and gradually become bullying others.
Ran Xin Mama is going to teach everyone a more effective way today than to fight back directly. As parents, we can say to our children at home: "It is not right to beat people, but when we encounter a child hitting you, we must first show our own momentum, if you see him waving his hand down, you can grab the other party's hand with your own hand, look at the other party firmly, tell him not to hit people, or when others move him, he feels uncomfortable, you can also tell him loudly, I don't like you doing this, please stop immediately." If you do this again, I will have to fight back, tell the teacher, tell your parents. I believe that after you issue this series of warnings, many children will not dare to take the next step against you, after all, their fights at this age are really just unintentional acts. If after this, there are really children who do not listen to the warning, then tell your child that you must return it at this time, without being polite to him.
Do you see this and know the benefits of this method? First, people beat me, I did not immediately hit back, but first warned, not only gave their children a chance to exercise momentum, but also gave another child the opportunity to recoil, second, after the warning and then fight back, we and the child no matter what happens behind is reasonable, what do you think?
A post-80s mother who loves to share parenting knowledge, I hope you can pay attention to me, thank you!