Home is our safe haven in the wind and rain, and family harmony is also an important factor affecting our physical and mental health. Many people's expectations for the future are family harmony and good health.
The old ancestor summed up a set of golden rules for us in terms of family harmony, and if you do it, your family must be very harmonious!
As a child, we should not complain about our parents
01
Don't complain about parental incompetence
There are high and low trees in the forest, and everything in the world is uneven.
No one is omnipotent, our parents gave us life, worked hard to raise us as adults, and are already the most respectable people in the world.
Some people will complain that their parents have not been able to give themselves the platform and nurturing they expect, and they will repay morality with resentment, which is contrary to the most basic filial piety.
02
Don't complain about your parents
The age of parents' lives is very different from today's, and the two generations inevitably have a bit of a generation gap in cognition and habits.
But no matter how well people are, only those who truly love you will talk about you.
03
Don't complain about your parents
Parents complain, maybe they are not satisfactory in life, maybe they are hard at work, or maybe they just hope that you don't follow their old path.
Parents are getting older, and the people who can occasionally complain are no one but their children.
04
Don't complain about parents being slow
When we were young, our parents cared about all our reasonable needs and led us to understand the world with extraordinary action.
As we get older, our parents are less energetic than they were when they were younger.
At this time, don't abandon your parents for being slow to move, let your heart calm down, wait for them, and listen to the stories of when they teach us to walk.
05
Don't complain about your parents being sick
Parents in the world are the same: as long as the child is sick, no matter how busy, how bad the weather, day or night, they are the most anxious people.
Now that the cycle of life has rolled for decades, their bodies are beginning to be fragile and need your care, just as they waited in front of our bed with a high fever decades ago.
We grow up, our parents grow older, complain about our parents, it is better to understand our parents, if we can't even tolerate our own parents, why tolerate the world?
As a parent, treat your children without responsibility
Not responsible for the crowd
In public, don't blame your children.
Children are also human beings, with independent personality, but also self-esteem, often in the public eye to blame children, not only can not reflect on mistakes, personality is also easy to become timid and cowardly, lack of trust in people, produce inferiority.
Remorse and irresponsibility
That is, if the child has recognized the mistake and feels ashamed and regretful, then the parents should stop blaming the child at this time.
Originally, the purpose of criticism was to hope that children could reflect on their mistakes, and excessive accusations would make children's ability to resist setbacks decline.
Twilight is not responsible
Don't blame your child before going to bed.
If the child is blamed at this time, he goes to bed with a depressed and lost mood, either at night or with nightmares. In the long run, it is harmful to the body and mind.
Diet is not responsible
Don't blame your child while you're eating.
If parents are accustomed to counting down their children as soon as they eat, it is easy to cause children to be psychologically afraid to eat with their parents, or form a character that is difficult to talk to others when eating.
At the same time, negative emotions during meals will affect the improvement of digestive function.
Rejoice
Don't blame your child when he's particularly happy.
Emotional ups and downs can do much more damage to a person's body than an ordinary unpleasant experience.
When the child is particularly happy, if it is not a very urgent error of principle, you can correct him after a while.
06
Sorrow is not responsible
When your child is worried or particularly sad, don't blame him.
At this time, people's negative emotions dominate, it is easy to make blame evolve into quarrels, the gains are not worth the loss, it is best to show concern for the child first, and then say what they think is inappropriate.
07
Illness is not responsible
Don't blame your child when he's sick.
When sick, the human body is also very fragile because of physiological pain. If severely reprimanded and complained, the condition may be delayed or even aggravated.
Let the child feel better, carry the disease early, and then say it, is a scientific education method.
Parents and children are the best gifts to give to each other!
When getting along with each other, more communication and understanding, less disputes and frictions, love parents, love children, calm down, life will be more sunny and beautiful!