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Diapers are no stranger to every family with children, and they are a must-have item for every child after birth.
Newborn children do not have the awareness of spontaneous excretion, must rely on the outside world to solve their own excretion problems, and diapers can not only meet their excretion needs, but also can help parents to solve their children's health problems.
But as children grow up, diapers are no longer items that children need to use, and mothers must consider quitting diapers for their children.
But the question of "when to quit diapers is the best time" has always bothered your mothers.
Some mothers believe that it is best to quit diapers before the child is one and a half years old, otherwise wearing it for a long time will easily lead to O-shaped legs.
Some mothers believe that the child cannot be forced to take off the diaper, otherwise it will affect the child's physical and mental development.
In fact, quitting diapers is not simple, and I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry! Quitting early and quitting late is not good.
Quit diapers too early and hurt your body
First of all, the child's bladder is gradually matured around the age of 2 years old, and it is capable of receiving signals that he wants to go to the toilet. If they are not yet physically mature, then no matter how much they are trained, it will be futile.
Some parents will give their children urine, "boo" a sound after the child urine, they will think that the child has learned to control the bowel movements.
In fact, it is not, it is just the child's "booing" conditioned reflex, parents frequent urination, not only affect the child's hip joint development, but even reflexive urination, affecting bladder development, and it is likely to urinate frequently when growing up.
Secondly, the child's sphincter is immature and does not have the ability to control the stool, and forcing the child to be autonomous will trigger prolapse.
Finally, quitting diapers too early will hurt the child's self-esteem, children do not have the ability to control defecation, quit diapers too early, there will inevitably be pee pants, pull pants behavior, if parents are angry and accused, it will increase the child's psychological burden, and even develop the habit of holding urine, hurting kidney function.
Quitting diapers too late will affect development
When children wear diapers for a long time, they will strengthen their dependence on diapers, and as children grow up, the necessity of diapers will gradually decrease, and the shortcomings will be more obvious.
If the child grows up and still can't get rid of this dependence on diapers, it will inevitably affect normal life.
If the child reaches the age of kindergarten, if they do not yet have the ability to defecate on their own, then they need extra care from the teacher. Once the teacher can not take care of it, even if the child can go to the toilet independently, he will wait for the teacher to help, and over time, he will lose the awareness of spontaneous defecation, which is very detrimental to growth.
When is the most suitable diaper for baby rings? Age is not the only criterion
The American Academy of Pediatrics has recommended that babies can complete toilet training in 18-24 months, but this is not suitable for all babies.
Because the baby's growth and development law is fast and slow, so age can only play a reference role, the time to quit diapers also depends on the baby's development.
If you have to have an accurate point in time, that's when your child is ready.
The so-called "ready" means that the child's body can send the following signals, and we can train the child to quit diapers:
1. Can understand the instructions given by parents;
2. Be able to express their subjective wishes, such as: no, no;
3. There is a regular way to follow the bowel movements;
4. Diapers can be kept dry for more than 2 hours;
5. Wet diapers will be irritable;
6. You can sit quietly alone for a while;
7. You can take off your pants and lift your pants by yourself.
As long as the above signal appears 4 times, parents can try it with their children.
Seven steps for kids to quit diapers:
First, take your child to know the toilet six months in advance, and instill correct toilet knowledge with picture books;
Second, grasp the timing of the child's peeing, when the beginning of the withdrawal of diapers, we must record the time, portion, time and frequency of the child's drinking water, etc., so as to summarize the time point of the baby's urine, take the initiative to take the baby to pee at this time point, improve the success rate of the child's urine on the toilet, and increase his confidence.
Third, change into learning pants, children quit diapers is a gradual process, can not be achieved overnight.
So at the beginning we can give them a change of learning pants, and then gradually increase from wearing learning pants in the morning to afternoon and evening, and finally challenge them to sleep and wear learning pants when they go out, to help children feel the difference between diapers and learning pants, and get used to using it.
Fourth, take the initiative to take the child to pee, when the child pee time to pee, we have to take the initiative to take him to the bathroom, do not ask whether to pee, directly say: we should go to pee. Even if there is no urine, sit down and let the child not reject the toilet first.
Fifth, children get used to guiding active expression, when children are used to urinating on the toilet, we can guide them to take the initiative to express.
In this process, there will inevitably be cases of accidentally peeing on the pants, but we must not lose our temper, and we must patiently tell him that the next time we pee, we must take the initiative to say it.
Sixth, the training process is kept relaxed and comfortable, if the pants are scolded, it will hit the child's self-confidence.
So, when we find that the child pees the pants, we should not wipe them off immediately, nor accuse him of criticism, but tell him: Wet in the pants, are you very uncomfortable? So when you want to pee, you must say it, and it will not be uncomfortable to go to the toilet to pee.
Encourage, but encouragement is not a reward, we appropriate encouragement can increase the child's self-confidence, make him more willing to do this, more sense of accomplishment, such as praising him: you have grown up!
Treat every little thing in the child's growth scientifically, parents and children will be very relaxed.