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Compared with people, than tired, many of us from the best set is "you look at which one, you look at other people's children, they are better than you", it is this set of our children to hurt miserably, these parents do not have shortcomings? Are they all successful?
In fact, many parents who can use this set to teach their children are just unable to achieve anything, so why do they always compare their children with others? In fact, it is two words: face.
The two words of face are enough to make people who could have lived well and easily upset, not only making children tired, but also making parents very tired.
Since these parents who compare their children with others are all accomplished nothing, why parents can compare their children with others, and children cannot compare parents with others, in fact, this is a good answer, parents are the party of suppression.
The child is the side that is suppressed, and the parents are practicing "hegemonism" in front of the child, and the child is of course afraid of the parents.
If the child also compares the parents with others, the parents will beat the child's ass when they are angry, so the child is afraid of being beaten, even if he knows that the parents have nothing to do, he does not dare to compare the parents with others, but the child does not know what he thinks in his heart.
Therefore, some parents educate their children that set of philosophy of doing things for people is wrong, it can not help children grow up physically and mentally, it will only educate children with vanity, comparison, and jealousy, but others will inevitably be inferior, which is a hidden danger for the healthy growth of children.
Compared with people, the comparison is tired, especially when the parents at the beginning of the child and excellent people compared, the child is inferior, if the parents know how to empathize with them, it is not difficult to find that if they are compared with the people who are better than them, they will also be very inferior, because they have a good face, a bad face will not compare their children with people everywhere.
If you want to live easily, if you want to really grow and improve yourself, then compare yourself with yourself, compare yourself to today's self with yesterday's self, and see if you have grown, which is also the beginning of your appreciation of yourself.
Once a person learns to appreciate himself, then his growth is rapid, I hope that all parents should understand that educating children is not to compare children with other people's children, but to let children believe in themselves, let children have self-confidence, let children grow day by day, grow a little bit every day, today is better than yesterday is the best growth.
Our philosophy for dealing with the world is to make ourselves easy to live, let others live easily, rather than making everyone in pain, some parents' education is to make the whole family miserable, compared with others, children are inferior to others, more unable to progress, parents' face is lost, psychology is more unbalanced, isn't this all in pain?
This is also too tired, the key is that this kind of tiredness is not only useless, but also harms others and harms themselves.
That's why I say that it is better to compare with others than to oneself, and the philosophy of dealing with the world should be to teach people how to live easily, not to teach people to live tiredly, the more tired they are, the more tired they are, the brain is like a mess, life is also a mess, why bother?
Many things, in fact, you let go, everything can be straightened out, let go of yourself, let go of others.
When you only think about transcending yourself, you have surpassed many people; when you think of surpassing many people, none of you can surpass them.