There are many children who grow up and the relationship between their parents is more estranged, some parents may not understand this phenomenon, and even feel that they are suffering from their own fate and raising a white-eyed wolf, so when the child is close to himself when he is a child, he grows up and his wings are harder and harder.
In fact, children grow up and parents are estranged from each other, a phenomenon that has existed since ancient times, if parents do not understand children, they can understand it by thinking about why they are estranged from their parents.
Mainly these 3 reasons, in fact, do not blame the child.
Parents are too harsh on their children
When the child is young, the parents are the strict representatives in front of the child, the parents are strong, omnipotent, and everything is right, so the child must listen to the parents.
But when the child grows up, sooner or later he will understand that his parents are actually just ordinary people, not so powerful and not so authoritative and worthy of admiration.
If the parents themselves are closer to the child, the child will still be close to the parents, but if the parents and children are strictly hesitant to be close enough, the child will unload the worship of the parents in his heart, and the relationship with the parents will naturally become more and more distant.
Parents do not respect their children and manage too much
No matter how young the child is, he also has self-esteem, so he needs the respect of his parents.
Some parents regard their children as their own possessions and think that you are all born to me, so you have no privacy in front of me.
Although many times parents are for the good of their children, in the hearts of children, they will be insulted by being looked down upon and violated.
From his heart, he will be estranged from his parents, and once he has the ability, he hopes that the farther away from his parents, the better.
When the child grows up and finally understands the pain of the parents, they want to be close to the parents but can't find a way, because the parents are always more concerned about how the job is found, how much salary is paid in a month, whether there is a girlfriend, when to get married, when to have children, these topics that children do not want to talk about.
Lack of communication with children
Children grow up to be estranged from their parents, and of course there is a very important problem, that is, the problem of communication.
Some parents do not communicate with their children much when they are young, and their children have heart words or have suffered some grievances and want to tell their parents, but they have never been able to get the understanding and comfort of their parents, and can only exchange for a meal of preaching.
When the child grows up, the concept of life and the concept of consumption are different, and many things must be hidden from the parents, otherwise they will be preached.
If the child wants to buy something for his parents, the parents will not feel happy, and they will say that it is better to give me the money and I will save it for you.
Children grow up and are estranged from their parents, of course, it may be because the children are not filial piety, but the children they have worked hard to raise, where are there so many white-eyed wolves? The estrangement between children and parents is mostly caused by the above 3 reasons, in fact, children cannot be blamed.