Family Happiness and Well-being Wednesday Night Talk ▏ Family Education Those Things

Host: The family is the smallest country, and the country is ten million. The happiness of tens of millions of "small families" carries the harmony of "everyone" in the motherland. To this end, the Anshun Municipal Women's Federation and the Political and Legal Committee of the Anshun Municipal Party Committee jointly produced the radio program "Family Happiness and Health • Wednesday Night Talk". The program is broadcast every Wednesday from 16:00 to 17:00 on the Anshun 1029 Traffic Radio, and is replayed from 20:00 to 21:00. Through FM1029, we will promote relevant legal knowledge, health knowledge, disseminate family education concepts, and share stories of family style and family training to the audience and friends. Today, we invited Teacher Wang Yu of Anshun Family Education Guidance Center, Deputy Secretary of the Party Committee and Professor of Anshun College, and National Second-level Psychological Counselor, and then we will talk about the topic of family education.

Wang Yu: Hello host, good audience friends. Thanks to the platform provided by the Anshun Women's Federation for giving me the opportunity to come to our 102.9 studio site today, I am also a loyal listener of our Anshun 102.9 traffic broadcast, and the company of 102.9 on the way to and from work every day makes the way home no longer long. I believe that after the happy and peaceful Spring Festival, many of our parents will start to go crazy again, why? The year is over, but today I see that the child's holiday homework is still much worse, and the day of chicken flying dog jumping has begun again. However, parents can talk about masturbating that in two weeks the beasts can be sent to school again and handed over to the teacher. Isn't there such a saying: Why should there be winter and summer vacations? Because when the divine beasts want to drive the teacher crazy, take a vacation to let the teacher breathe, and when the divine beasts are at home to drive their parents crazy, the parents can breathe again. Although it is a joke, we can also see the arduousness and complexity of the systematic project of educating children. So I hope that today's topic of family education can be helpful to the audience and friends.

Host: Just now Teacher Wang also said that educating children is a systematic project, so what are the important influencing factors for a person's development?

Wang Yu: Maybe each of us will ask ourselves, "How did I become the way I am today?"? In fact, it is not a certain person, a certain thing, a certain experience that makes us what we are today, and the influencing factors of people's physical and mental development are generally affected by two major factors: genetics and environment. First of all, genetic factors, in simple terms, genetic factors provide the possibility of human development, such as human intelligence, interest direction, temperament type, etc. You go to the hospital obstetrics department to see the newborn, you will find that some of the babies are very quiet and some love to cry. Children are older and teach several children to sing the same song at the same time, some children learn to sing very accurately quickly, and some children learn to sing for half a day or out of tune. For example, some children jump up and down every day with great energy but just can't sit still, and some children can play quietly for half a day but the movements are uncoordinated when they run, run, jump and jump. There are also the most envious and jealous children, who should play, who should sleep at ten o'clock and sleep at ten o'clock, but whose grades are always far ahead, and who accidentally make some small inventions. These differences are largely genetic. But as I just said, heredity only provides possibilities for human development, and the influencing factors that make these possibilities into real environments cannot be ignored. The environment we are talking about here includes society, school and family. Social factors affect everyone in this society, a pair of twin sisters, have almost the same innate genetic basis, one raised by Chinese parents and a pair raised by American parents, after growing up, the difference between the two people will be very large, such as ideological behavior patterns will be very different, that is, the social background is different. All aspects of society will have an impact on individuals, such as the quality of people in your community will affect your behavior and thoughts, such as many years ago, there were many children who took drugs in a certain unit dormitory in Anshun and another unit dormitory in this unit was almost all college students, this is the mutual influence, Meng Mu is very great, thousands of years ago she understood this truth, so it will be "three moves". There is also a very difficult to control social factors but the impact on children is a very huge factor is the network, now the children from a few months old began to contact the network, "coaxing baby artifact" mobile phone is the use of the network of thousands of ways to attract children, want children to eat obediently, want children not to cry, "so easy", a mobile phone to get it done. I saw my daughter playing with her phone one day and said, "You loved to read so much when you were a child, how can it be so rare to see you read books now?" She said, "Because when I was a child, I didn't have a mobile phone to play." However, parents have no way to control the content of the Internet, so violent pornography, anti-social and anti-human content may be exposed to by children, and some children's violations of the law are derived from the imitation of the Internet. The second factor that has a great impact on children in social factors is the school factor, the school's learning style, management level, educational goals, teacher's teaching level and teacher's morality have a great influence on children, some children may become talented from a certain sentence and behavior of the teacher, and some children's decadence or even degeneration may also originate from a certain sentence or behavior of the teacher. Therefore, in today's school selection fever with unbalanced educational resources, it is difficult to cool down, and the most intuitive thing is that there is an "old and small" house in the school area in our city whose unit price is much higher than that of many newly built tall and tall communities. Finally, I think the most important factor in environmental factors is our theme family factor today, and a person must carry the imprint of his family. Family education is the factor that affects the earliest and longest. In addition to the above two major factors of genetics and environment, there are also individual factors that affect the physical and mental development of people, even if the twins with the same egg and hands study in the same family and the same class and finally develop differently. The influence of individual factors, all psychology is a subjective reaction to the objective world, so the factor of individual self is also to pay attention to, the most painful thing for parents is that they obviously pay all their children but they are not talented, and others play mahjong tomorrow day but children are easily admitted to 985.

Host: Just now we said that the family is an important influencing factor in a person's development, and the family happens to be something that a person has no way to choose, so what types of parents are there in family education?

Wang Yu: Based on the synthesis of various types of parents, we can roughly divide them into the following categories, one is the authoritarian type, and it is also the most important type of parents under the influence of our traditional Chinese culture, that is, parents are authoritative, and they have the right to speak or even decide everything about their children. Such parents may be well-behaved but may be cowardly, lack of opinion, self-regulation, and may also be retaliatory to indulge themselves after leaving their parents. The second type is laissez-faire, laissez-faire parents may be too doting on what the child wants to do, or it may be that the parents do not care about the child at all, the child also wants to do what he wants, so that the parents educate the child may have independent thoughts, but may be cold and selfish. The third type is democratic parents, in fact, many of our parents now want to become this type of parents, that is, parents and children are in an equal position, family affairs and children's things family consultation decisions, fully listen to the children's opinions, such parents cultivate children independent and assertive care for others, but because children sometimes are not mature enough parents can not be completely democratic to guide their children.

Host: Time flies so fast, and our 40-plus minute show is coming to an end. May all our parents understand the principles and methods of family education and carry out family education scientifically and effectively. Thank you Teacher Wang for your participation.

Wang Yu: Thank you.

Source: Anshun Women's Federation

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