Uncle Lover's Introduction:
What is the meaning of marriage? Some people feel that it is the encounter and union of love, and some people think that it is an inner impulse and choice, and marriage cannot be truly defined by people. What we need to understand is that marriage must be for a better life. Not to mention the material conditions, this is better not only the economic aspect, but also the spiritual aspect.
Marriage is actually a responsible attitude towards our feelings, and it is also a yearning and choice for a better life in people's hearts. But marriage is like a city wall, there are always people who want to go in, some people who want to come out. So what is the meaning of marriage? In fact, there is no point in dwelling on meaning, because the world is never defined. We should only pursue what our inner world really wants, and only in this way can we achieve our own true happiness.
Don't think about living tied up with marriage
The fundamental reason why the divorce rate is getting higher and higher now is because both parties in the marriage do not understand what marriage is for and what life needs.
Marriage will tie two strangers, a family, together. But this bondage should not be a bondage to each other, and the bondage is also distant. We need to find the balance of marriage, and proper bondage is the key to marital happiness.
What is most feared in marriage is what is imposed on the other party. We all don't want to use marriage to bind each other, a good marriage needs to give each other space and freedom, although the two people in the marriage are a community of interests, but they are also independent people. And the needs of independent people cannot be ignored.
Don't hurt each other in the name of love
Many people are still sighing after divorce, knowing that they have paid so much, knowing that they are sincere, or digging out their hearts and lungs, in fact, many times they are just self-moved.
This kind of self-motivated giving is actually the real killer of marriage failure. Because you never read the other person's real needs.
Don't think that you love each other very much in marriage, this kind of self-righteous love is really stupid. Don't hurt each other in the name of love, sometimes you feel that the other party needs it, but in fact, the other party doesn't want to do this at all.
What is needed in marriage is understanding and support, not the opposite. If you love each other, the most important thing you should do is listen to each other, understand what the other person really needs, and give appropriately is the best.
Do not divorce without this condition
Many marriages end up in a state of exhaustion, in fact, because everyone is very tired, and this tiredness will not end with divorce. So divorce isn't that easy either. Do not divorce without this condition.
If one of the spouses does not have the ability to work and has no economic conditions, then the marriage is still separated, because divorce is not the end, you run away from the problem is useless, and you should solve things in time when you encounter them.
Not all marriages end in divorce, and sometimes we try a little harder to have a better ending. The economy is always a very important part of life, and if you want a divorce, then you see if you have this condition.
If the most basic material economic problems are not solved, the difference between divorce and non-divorce is not much. Don't get a divorce without this condition. A lot of times it's because we don't work hard enough, we don't tolerate enough, we don't understand enough, that's why we make marriage seem so hard. You see reality clearly, and then work in the right direction, then your life will change.
Uncle Epilogue:
Life has no real end, marriage is like a trip, you think about where to get off the station is not your own decision, many problems are the key. Your time, your pockets, etc., these are all closely related.
No matter how difficult the marriage is, you have to learn to measure and judge, there is no condition not to divorce, and what you have to do is to live a good life first, and then say something else.