Author: Qing Xiangzi
Source: Uncle Kai Storytelling (ID: kaishujianggushi)
A friend's son was admitted to a key school in advance, and friends and relatives congratulated her while regretting her: such a good gene, I already knew how many more to have.
I don't think so.
Because raising a baby is like buying a lottery ticket,
Whether to draw a bully or a scum depends on Providence.
The children sent to us by heaven have already secretly marked the awards!
Especially when a child goes to primary school and relies on strength to fight hard, parents can no longer hide which "lottery" they have won.
【First Prize】
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Parents who won the first prize are the heroes of the parent-teacher conference, who do not speak with their own majesty, and who do not speak and also come to beg for the experience of raising a baby.
For them, the school district room is a joke, and they never care about the baby's study.
Even if their babies grow in the mud, they can bloom a flower holding an acceptance letter from a key university.
The only drawback is that I love to dress up as a pig and eat a tiger, always saying that my baby is "no, no", as a result, click -
【Second Prize】
Parents who won the second prize were also lucky.
Although she is not gifted, she is self-disciplined and self-conscious, and with diligence, pragmatism, and love to think, she can also occupy a place in the top students, and with a little effort, the future can be expected.
The only drawback is that it is a bit duplicitous, always saying that he "does not give the baby pressure, does not give the baby pressure", the result -
【Third Prize】
The third prize is an ordinary parent like me, grabbing a big handful.
There is always a question that lingers in the mind for many years:
You say that the baby can't do it, but there are also shining points;
You say baby OK, but why don't you open the trick?
The biggest feature of our third prize parents is the split temperament:
Sometimes chicken blood, sometimes Buddha.
It all depends on whether you have recently spoken to the parents of the bully, chatted, and whether you have watched the social news that the child is stressed to find short.
The mood of the day is led by the child's performance, high and low, a surprise.
The only drawback is that the temper is easy to be grumpy, and the health is not good -
【Thank you for participating in the award】
"Thank you for participating in the award" parents are also the "stars" in the parent group, either often named by the teacher, or frequently @ by other parents, to sue the baby.
Although wa has bad grades, she is also unwilling to admit that he is not smart, and it should be that he is not used in the right place, not the hard material for reading.
Compared with other awards, parents are also the strongest in their hearts:
Often while encouraging the baby to be admitted to a good university,
While secretly inquiring about the enrollment subjects of Lanxiang Technical School.
Waiting for the rabbit all year round, waiting for the baby to suddenly open the trick and counterattack like a dark horse.
The only drawback is "fickleness", and the state of mind changes between the dead heart and the immortal heart for the baby for many years.
In general, what kind of child to have, parents say it does not count.
For parents, it is really like buying a lottery ticket, it is completely 0.00001% hard work, 99.99999% of the sky is predestined.
I have always believed that having children is a metaphysics.
My baby father and I are actually all key college graduates, and we can also count as both literary and martial arts.
From pregnancy to do enough prenatal education, parenting books bought a large stack, from a young age to teach children Pinyin and English, afraid of dragging the child's excellent hind legs.
As a result, there were 40 children in the class, my baby was kept at about 30 all year round, and other things were not obvious, and he was often complained by the teacher that he loved to talk in class, his homework was sloppy and careless, the composition was typos, and he was on the road to the scum.
Say good dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the son of a mouse will punch holes?
I don't know which factory configuration link is the problem.
After having a child, the materialist view of science as a parent is always shattered several times.
There is a child in the son's class, the family is a commissary at the entrance of the community, and his parents are busy buying and selling goods every day, and there is no time to manage him.
This child writes homework in the store after school, helps his parents sell goods on weekends, often eats a pack of instant noodles for dinner, and almost does not attend any extracurricular classes, but the first place in the exam...
The only explanation may be that his parents were lucky and won the [first prize]
And I looked like I had won the ordinary third prize, but it was actually a hidden "thank you for participating".
Behind all this, is there a moral degeneration, or a distortion of human nature, or is the lottery winning mechanism too random?
Later, I figured it out myself:
Good genes are not eternal from generation to generation, a family will always pass on,
It is simply a feng shui rotation, and no one says it counts.
Maybe this is the legendary "fate".
Although the parents' hearts are higher than the sky, they can't prevent the babies from being too uneven.
After raising a baby for so many years, we can also see it clearly:
Children who want to learn create various conditions to be self-motivated, and children who do not want to learn look for various excuses to be lazy.
Xueba borrows online classes on the roof of the cold winter, and Xueba plays mobile games in the house full of WIFI.
Some parents are not convinced, want to "another one", how about having a second child?
I advise you to be careful, in case the second elder does not work?
The sight of my friend's house is a magical argument.
The boss is a genius, mathematics, science and synthesis often full score, admitted to Peking University, is the school of the hero.
The second son, Lang Dang, was blinded by grades, skipped class and fought, was repeatedly called parents, and was also a prominent figure in the school, and finally reluctantly went to college.
The worst thing was their dad, who went to school for a parent-teacher conference.
In the morning, he was praised by the boss class teacher, like a successful "labor model";
In the afternoon, he was accused by the second class teacher, like a failed "labor reformer", and almost split.
This is the excitement of "buying lottery tickets":
Afraid of raising two identical children is too lonely,
Had to be given to a "little demon king of the chaos",
Bring harmonious family relationships to the brim!
Parents' social interaction is based on the score of the baby.
Although the "first prize" parents have unlimited scenery, they are also the targets of parents.
Other parents feel about the "first prize" like Huanbi to Zhen Huan: both respectful and jealous.
Although the feelings are complicated, they always look for various opportunities to ask them for experience in educating babies.
I asked hungrily, "Why did your child cultivate such a good child?"
People said lightly, "We didn't cultivate it very deliberately!" Don't care much about him..."
Ah, every word, every sentence, every casual expression, like an arrogant knife, pierced in the heart of our ordinary parents, as if to say:
The situation of "Thank You for Participating in the Award" is also quite miserable, and it has basically been isolated by other parents in disguise.
Play with the first prize and the second prize, there is no common topic;
Play with the third prize, and always be found by others to have a sense of superiority from themselves.
In desperation, he developed a wild way with a baby and "cultivated" with the baby.
But often because of the excessive force, or the tricks are too chaotic, they make themselves and the baby scaled all over the body, and the parent-child relationship is in jeopardy.
Fortunately, the general mentality of "Thank You for Participating in the Award" is relatively optimistic, and has the overall outlook of life of "all roads through the rice bowl":
No matter what happens after more than ten years, God will not let the baby starve to death.
Plus, they're more sensitive to some social news:
Look, another baby is too stressed to jump off the building, another bully personality deformity has embarked on the road of crime...
Turn to self-consolation: the child is safe and healthy.
In contrast, the "second prize" and the "third prize" are more contradictory.
They often huddle together for warmth and explore the "Nine Yang True Scriptures" of raising babies together;
They also often complain about school, teachers, homework, babies, and husbands who are hand-throwing treasurers, in order to find a little pity for each other on the way with their babies.
But between parents in the same college entrance examination proposition area and the same grade, where is there any real friendship?
Seeing that my partner had posted excellent results in the circle of friends, I nodded a "maintain friendship style" like, turned around and immediately checked the baby's homework...
Children's lottery "slow draw" is not to say, but also particularly confusing.
I have seen many scum suddenly open their tricks to study, and I have also seen a lot of students lack of stamina, and Jiang Lang has exhausted.
So, in the end, when mom and dad are riding the wind and waves every day, they are still fighting mentality.
After some self-adjustment, my mentality is now better:
Natural school bullies are only rare, and each child has his own shining point.
As parents, what we have to do is to do our best to let the child's growth leave no regrets, but also accept the child's last ordinariness.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
Raise your children who are clumsy and virtuous, but may they be safe and healthy forever.
The mentality is right, the thing is right, the baby is right!
If raising children is really like buying lottery tickets,
The draw is not the most important,
Happy is!