The wife was pregnant and faced with pregnancy problems, and the doctor recommended that the caesarean section be delivered as soon as possible, but the man refused to sign on the grounds of choosing a good date. At the urging of the doctor many times, his wife gave birth to a child, and the man repeatedly complained that he did not choose a good day, and what happened later was even more unexpected.
In Guangzhou, Ms. Wei, 32, consulted the Municipal Women's Rights Protection Station about divorce. Because she suffered from postpartum depression because of the birth of the child, her husband wanted to divorce him and was unwilling to pay child support.
Ms. Wei recounted that the child was about to be born, and she had pregnancy problems, and the doctor suggested a caesarean section, but her husband refused to agree. He believed that the child had to choose a good date for birth, and he refused to sign it, so he could not perform a caesarean section.
It was not until the doctor called many times to urge, and the husband was forced to sign the consent form for the operation. What was even more unexpected was that after giving birth, her husband kept complaining that he did not choose a good day when the child was born.
Ms. Wei suffered from postpartum depression as a result, and the two are now divorced. She said: "The down payment on the house when you get married is your own money. The husband said, "You won't be liable for child support after divorce." At present, Ms. Wei has consulted a lawyer and is going through divorce procedures with her husband according to law.
What age, still retaining the old feudal tradition, giving birth to children is natural, which day is which day. Is it difficult to choose a good day for a child to become a dragon and a phoenix in the future, and a good day to change the fate of a family?
From ancient times to the present thousands of years, the ancients were so superstitious that they did not introduce surgery before, nor did they see who wanted to pick a good day. Now that medical conditions have improved, how can some superstitious people associate everything with a good life?
Like many women who give birth normally, they feel that the due date is not good, and it is understandable to voluntarily advance one or two days. But special circumstances, there are still so many considerations, it is really the mind that is bound not lightly.
According to his logic, the hospital also has to choose a good birthday auspicious day to open, and it will not open the door if the day is unlucky. If you have a headache, trauma, accident or something, check the date first, pick a good day and then go.
There is a saying in our countryside, "People are scared to death." "It shows that it is dangerous for women to have children. Pregnancy problems can be small, big can be large, a little sloppy, one careless is two lives.
Netizens said: "It is better to destroy ten temples than to destroy one relative." "Just after giving birth, how does a person live?" Some people below argue that such a marriage really has no need to exist, and such a "scumbag" is not worth nostalgia at all.
I am also a man with two children. When my wife gave birth to a big baby, she was also pregnant (pre-eclampsia), at that time there was some carelessness, the day before she said she had a headache, I wanted to take her to the hospital, she said it may be sleepy, sleep for a night first.
As a result, I slept until I got up in bed in the middle of the night to go to the toilet, and my wife said that her eyes could not see, which scared me to get up quickly in the winter and go to the hospital. At that time, I thought about going to the doctor, empty-handed, and when I arrived at the hospital, the doctor wanted to have an emergency operation, and I didn't think about it and signed them one by one. (There was a thought in my head at the time, no matter how to protect the adult.) ）
The baby was born 30 minutes later, when the baby was just 37 weeks old. Just because we delayed for half a day and pressed the kidneys, the wife's postpartum urine protein was seriously exceeded.
In order to see her, I stayed with her in the hospital for three months, and then ran to the hospital intermittently for the next six months. My wife wanted to take medicine and injections, the child did not drink a mouthful of milk, on the seventh day of birth we were transferred to the nephrology department, and the child was entrusted to my parents.
But the wife thought about the child every day, and suffered from postpartum depression, and cried a lot every day (at that time, there was no video). I told her, "It's okay to have me, no matter what happens to you, I'll be with you for the rest of my life." ”
In fact, I also secretly shed tears, my parents were old and married and owed a bunch of debts, and it cost 70,000-80,000 to give birth to a child the next year to see a doctor. I borrow money behind my wife's back every day, and that heartache is the end of the world for me. (No one wants to lend me, afraid that I can't afford it)
Fortunately, after 10 months of treatment, she finally recovered. The doctor said that this postpartum urine protein can not be restored for 100 days, basically it is difficult to recover, we are a small probability event.
The second treasure and the big treasure experience are similar, but they are premature babies. At that time, I went to the hospital almost every day, and as soon as there was a situation, I immediately had a caesarean section.
The birth dates of both children are random, and our family is getting better and better now, which is the result of our husband and wife's struggle.
If you take apart the word "fate", fate is predestined, people are doomed as soon as they are born, families, parents, etc., but luck is won by yourself, and your hard work and hard work will surely flourish.
Therefore, for this man's approach, it is really difficult for me, a person who has come here, to understand. No matter what the situation, the adult healthy family can be healthy, the child can be regenerated, the adult is gone, where do you go to find it?
For the word "scumbag" said by netizens, I currently reserve my opinion, after all, all I can hear now is a family word. Ms. Wei also said that she has postpartum depression, so it is inevitable that there will be excessive behavior in talking and doing things.
Speaking of Ms. Wei's husband, there is also a problem with his approach, and his wife has just given birth to a child and suffers from depression. As a man, the husband must be more responsible, even if he is only a momentary angry words, it is not appropriate, the most important thing at this juncture is to see the doctor first.
At least after the wife recovered her health, the two calmed down and discussed it. Of course I said that it may be too late, and I hope it will help other families.
Finally, I would like to say that even if Ms. Wei and her husband are divorced, their children cannot be changed, and as a father, they also have the obligation to raise them.
If the child has lived with the mother, the man must bear the costs before she or he reaches adulthood.
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