Introduction: Chen Anyi, a well-known parent-child education expert in Taiwan, previously published an article entitled "We Owe Children a Love Lesson": If you can instill a healthy concept of love into your children at the right time or in your daily life, you can largely avoid the child's future harm from being "low love quotient"!
Every year on Valentine's Day in the West, American children become involved, even kindergarten children. Some elementary schools organize Valentine's Day parties to encourage children to work together to make delicious love-shaped cakes. In order to have a more atmosphere, love decorations will be placed in the classroom, and even the plates for eating cakes and drinking cups will be decorated with some heart-shaped patterns.
Also, after the party, the children receive gift bags filled with cards and candy, usually with different friends expressing their affection.
Mary Hartwell, a mental health clinic in the United States, believes that if a child often sees his parents in love, he will one day know what to do when he falls in love with others. Valentine's Day is a very good opportunity for children to feel the love of their parents more intuitively and understand the beauty and importance of love!
01 How important is love for the healthy development of children? It is essential and vital
According to big data, at least 20% of teenagers in China today suffer from depression. In their long-term lives, because they do not feel the love of their parents, they constantly engage in self-doubt and denial, and have no sense of belonging.
Professor Li Meijin, a well-known psychologist, once proposed in response to such problems: "Parents should let their children understand that even if he is not good enough and not perfect, he is still loved." ”
Because a person's self-worth, that is, the degree of liking and accepting himself, is below 50%, then he is in a state of inferiority. Only by reaching more than 50% can we make the body and mind grow healthily. The key to achieving 50% self-worth is to feel loved, including being loved and loving others.
And as Emerson said: "Those who understand love will often strengthen their enterprising spirit and upward will because of the sublimation of love." In other words, love can stimulate the child's upward desire, the motivation to struggle, and make him more excellent.
Finally, it is worth noting that researchers on the psychological growth and development of american children have found that children who usually live in loving families can not only have a stronger sense of security and happiness, but also be more cheerful and enthusiastic, and good at communicating and interacting with others.
It is not difficult to see from the above that love is indispensable for children. And let them know what love is, but also let them better feel love, understand how to love themselves, love others! However, these require parents to use scientific and reasonable methods to guide them from an early age. This may be something that needs to be faced squarely for Chinese parents who have always paid attention to subtle beauty.
After all, as the well-known psychologist Winnicott said: "In the first few years of a child's growth, emotional development will be the basis of individual mental health." "Then, on Valentine's Day with the theme of love, it is the best opportunity for children to understand love and feel love!
02、 Children can also celebrate Valentine's Day? Doing this well has benefited him a lot
1. Generously express love
On Valentine's Day, you may wish to give your child a gift to express your heart, or a card with love, a hug full of love, etc. Let the child feel the love of the parents for him, and at the same time, encourage the child to express love to the person he loves in a similar way.
Sukhomlinsky said: "Parents are the first teachers of the child and the most important teachers." ”
Therefore, whether it is a parent or a parent who has been with their children for a long time, they should make a good example, whether it is to express love correctly or have the courage to express love.
2. Learn about love with your child
On Valentine's Day, parents can join their children in a special event about getting to know love. Such as reading books, watching videos, etc., let him understand that there are many kinds of love in this world, not only the love between lovers, but also with parents, relatives, friends, teachers, etc. Can have different love intentions, including family affection, friendship and so on.
Tips: Valentine's Day doesn't have to be just love, you can also make a lot of expressions of love. In a strong atmosphere, give the child the most comprehensive emotional education, let him learn to feel love, share love!
3. Parents can show affection in front of their children appropriately
Psychologist Maslow proposed: "When people's physiological needs are met, they begin to crave love and a sense of belonging, which can make people spiritually satisfied." ”
For a child, parents are the most important beings who can bring him a sense of belonging. If parents appreciate each other, transmit positive energy, get along harmoniously and lovingly, then children can experience a deeper sense of love and belonging through these actions of their parents. You can also more vividly experience what love is and how to express love, laying the foundation for a happy life in the future.
Parents may wish to praise each other in front of their children, and do not complain about "your mother really loves to nag", "your father is really lazy" and so on. And on Valentine's Day, you can arrange a date for two people and let the child know that the parents are very loving.
4, so that children can also live a ceremonial Valentine's Day
Whether it's preparing a loving meal with your children, making sweet snacks, or taking your children to watch a movie or play in an amusement park. In short, on Valentine's Day, children can also live a ritualized Valentine's Day, spending in love and happiness.
This can make children feel the beauty of love more intuitively, guide him to cherish today's life, pay, and not hesitate to share and pass on love. And in ordinary life, you can also have a pair of eyes that find love and beauty, so that life is colorful and happy!
epilogue:
Many people think that Valentine's Day is just a holiday for couples to celebrate, but from the meaning of the festival, it is actually a moment to express love and love. In other words, on this day, you can also express your love for them to family, friends, etc. Therefore, in such a strong atmosphere, it is also an opportunity for children to educate them in love, so that he can feel and understand love more intuitively. For children, only by feeling love, learning to love themselves and loving others can we ensure more healthy physical and mental development and have a happy life!
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