How should parents guide their stubborn babies?
1. Accept your child's stubbornness. When the child's needs are not met, stubborn, parents do not try to reason with the child, but first accept the language is mild, physical contact with the child, whether the child's needs are reasonable, parents have to judge, if reasonable as possible to meet, if unreasonable to learn to refuse.
Some parents unconditionally satisfy their children, and in the end, when the child has a problem, they regret it, and it is too late. Many parents want their children to remember this lesson and meet their children's unreasonable demands, which is a manifestation of doting on their children.
2. Hug a child who feels depressed after rejection. Although children do not pay attention to our parents' actions after rejection, they only focus on the rejection itself. In other words, you have to give your kids a thought communication lesson. From the perspective of emotional catharsis, when a child is rejected, it is inevitable that he will feel depressed and angry. After the thought communication, let him be reasonable, this is the gentle comfort of parents, but also the full acceptance of the child in addition to unreasonable requirements, can give the child a sense of peace of mind, help them vent negative emotions.
4. Protect your child's curiosity, 0-6 year olds are curious, and the way they know the world is by connecting with their parents. Don't refuse your child's normal needs for fear of getting dirty or catching a cold. It is better to give children a chance to explore the world without being disturbed, as their baby's sense of self gradually increases after the age of two. Parents can let their children decide their own affairs, while ensuring their children's safety, give their children the right to choose. Even if the child's attempt is doomed to fail, let the child go through the process of failure so that the child can truly grow.
For children over the age of three, before letting them act according to their own ideas, parents can let them talk about their own ideas or methods to solve problems, and they can also remind children whether they have other needs and guide them to choose the best way, which will not only make children no longer stubborn, but also cultivate the habit of independent thinking, adhere to the habit of self-confidence and self-improvement, which is very beneficial to the growth of children.
3. Properly cold treatment. When the child is stubborn and loses his temper, the parent must stay calm, not yell or persuade, because the more you coax him, the less calm he can be. But don't lose your temper, because it will also make your child unable to calm down. The best way is to ignore him for a while, let the child calm down, stop crying, and then patiently reason with him, so that he understands that as long as the unreasonable demands are repeated, the parents will not agree. Proper cold treatment can help calm your child's heart.
4. Psychological suggestion In psychology, there is a term called suggestive effect, which refers to the implicit and indirect influence on the behavior and psychology of others, so that the suggested person consciously acts according to the will of the suggestor. If a child is constantly exposed to a paranoid person, he will become very stubborn, because the bias of others has created a negative hint to the child, as long as he is stubborn, he can get what he wants. If you let your child leave this environment. Let the child interact more with tolerant and peaceful people, and the child will be able to accept positive cues and correct his behavior. Slowly, the child's stubbornness will be alleviated.
Generally speaking, 0 to 6 years old is the most critical period for cultivating parent-child relationships. If parents cannot give their children the impression that they can trust and depend on at this time, it will be more difficult for parents to communicate with their children during their children's adolescence. Therefore, it is very important to deal with the child's stubbornness scientifically and reasonably.