The super red of this Winter Olympics is none other than Gu Ailing.
In the fierce and tense competition scene, she fell behind by the score, but in the final perfect jump, she counterattacked in one fell swoop and won the third gold medal at the Chinese Winter Olympics.
A beautiful 18-year-old girl, with a stable mentality like a veteran, has extraordinary courage and can't help but wonder: Who is she?
Open her resume, only to know: Gu Ailing, another talented girl with a "Shuangwen" script!
He started skiing at the age of 3, joined the professional ski team at the age of 8, and won the American Junior Ski Championship at the age of 9;
Participated in the adult points race at the age of 13 and won forty or fifty gold medals at the age of 14, including 9 national championships;
He became a Chinese national at the age of 15 and successfully entered the first place in the annual standings of the International Snow Federation;
At the age of 16, he completed high school and graduated a year early, and in the same year, he was successfully admitted to Stanford with a difference of 20 points...
The big jump to win the championship this time is still the project that she is least good at and the shortest training time.
It's hard to imagine that a bully girl who has been focusing on skiing for 15 years has lost her hobbies:
Running, basketball, football, rock climbing, horse riding, skateboarding, ballet, piano... No matter what, you don't lose to others.
Even her high school principal was amazed:
"It's rare to see students who can juggle so many studies and sports that well."
It is said that the cultivation of genius, in addition to talent, hard work, persistence and love, is often inseparable from the painstaking cultivation of his parents.
Gu Ailing's success is actually related to the great woman hidden behind her, her mother Gu Yan.
Who is Gu Yan?
A graduate of Peking University and Stanford, he stayed on Wall Street after graduation and worked part-time as a ski instructor.
It can be said that he is also a scholar and a capable person in the professional field.
The reason why Gu Ailing is exposed to skiing is related to her.
At first, she just wanted her daughter to play, but she didn't expect that her daughter not only liked it, but also aspired to become a professional skier and grow up to participate in the Winter Olympics.
Throughout her daughter's childhood, she was both a mother and an initiation teacher.
As long as her daughter has study or training, she will personally drive and accompany her daughter tirelessly;
Share your school experience with your daughter and give your daughter the best spiritual feeding;
When her daughter only wanted to take the first exam and go to Stanford, she did not take advantage of the situation to chase, but told her daughter that "you don't need to go to Stanford, as long as you don't give up studying."
In front of her daughter, she seems to be a benchmark figure, whether it is character or three views, she is subtly leading her daughter's life.
This is also why many reporters and friends who know Gu Ailing always praise Gu Ailing when they see her, and fall in love with her kindness, sunshine and positive energy.
Dr. Spock, an authoritative pediatrician in the United States, said:
Children learn to behave respectfully, lovingly, and decently by observing their parents.
The highest state of education is the teaching of parents.
Show the child an excellent example; use the correct three views to lead the child to walk easily through the first half of his life.
Think of the famous host Bai Yansong.
The reason why my son likes to read and become a fan of books is inseparable from the books he places in a room full of books.
Other parents are eager to put their children "chicken" to famous schools, but he told his son that "life is not a competition, you don't have to take the collision line as the greatest glory, don't compete for the first."
As for the daily education of words and deeds, he never preached, but made it, and his son saw nature and learned it.
Parent is a silent character.
Many times, parents live a good example, pass on good value ideas, and the effectiveness of education is far better than the words full of great truth.
For her daughter to embark on a career path, Gu Yan did not agree at first.
In her opinion, skiing is dangerous and girls do not have an advantage.
But when her daughter was young, she decided to "ski", and she agreed to it.
He even provided advice and reference to his daughter, and thundered to accompany her daughter through every difficult and painful injury and illness.
In this competition, Gu Ailing shared a detail:
After the second jump mistake, she contacted her mother to hear her opinion.
At that time, her mother advised her not to take risks, and to do a safe move with certainty to save the silver medal.
But she didn't listen, feeling that "if you don't try it, it's not a complete 'me'."
To this end, mom chose to respect her and left a word of exhortation:
The final choice is yours, it's your game and I hope you enjoy it.
Simple words contain infinite energy.
Under this "respect", Gu Ailing once again broke through herself and won another heavy gold medal for China.
The philosopher William James said: "The deepest motivation hidden deep in people's hearts is the desire to be recognized and to enjoy their respect." ”
Being not respected by parents is two very different kinds of life for children.
In the hit drama "Beginning", Ludy was once a child who was controlled by his mother and was not respected.
Because of asthma, his mother forbade him to keep cats, scolded him every time she found him playing with cats, and even peeked into the diary to find out his whereabouts.
So he lived a depressed life, disgusted by his mother's discipline.
Later, after a series of changes, his mother finally changed her mentality, bought him a hairless cat, and accompanied him to cosplay.
This recognition and respect instantly repaired the relationship between mother and son, and also made Ludy become cheerful and happy.
As a parent, you can give your child some advice and planning of your own.
But you can't simply impose on your child what you think is good.
Even the youngest child, who has his own consciousness, wants to win his closeness and win his future, and the only way to do it is to "respect".
Writer Mo Yan said: "The excellence of children is soaked with the sweat of parents." ”
Every child needs the wisdom and foresight of his parents to lead and guide step by step.
Although a talented girl like Gu Ailing cannot be copied, Gu Yan's approach to her daughter's education is worthy of emulation by tens of millions of parents.
1. Give your child the opportunity to keep trying
In the development of her daughter's interests and hobbies, Gu Yan gave a lot of free space, as long as her daughter wanted, she gave the opportunity to try.
She thinks, "You have to try it again, and the worst result is that you don't like it, but if you particularly like it, you just make it." ”
Let my daughter learn to ski, not to train her to become a world champion;
Letting her daughter go to Beijing on vacation to study the Olympic Mathematics is not to return to the United States to crush everyone.
It's just that the child is interested, or does not know what they like and are good at, so let the child try more and explore more.
Every child has their own passion and talent.
Give your child the opportunity and space to meet the button that opens the top of life and find the love of his life in an attempt.
2. Guide children to think independently about their future
I especially like what Gu Ailing said after winning the Olympic gold medal:
"I never went to the Winter Olympics to beat other athletes, but to break boundaries and skate to my best."
Her high consciousness and high realm are related to the concept that Gu Yan has always emphasized:
Although we have to strive for the goal, we must also enjoy the scenery along the way.
It's more important to focus on the enjoyment of the thing itself than to get that result.
The child never lacks the ability to think independently, but in the process of growing up, there are too many noises telling him to "compete for the first" and "the result is more important than the process".
After listening more, he lost himself and did not know what to do was the best choice.
Good parents, both to be the "captain" and give their children constructive advice at critical moments;
And to be an "eagle", to cultivate the child's independence, to help the child to plan for the future and achieve their own achievements.
3. Give the sovereignty of life to the child
Gu Ailing, 11, gave a speech.
In the speech, he mentioned the cold eyes and blows he suffered when he first joined the professional ski team.
Seeing that her beloved daughter was looked down upon and constantly fell and injured in the harsh training, Gu Yan was heartbroken and did not take the initiative to call out to stop and stop her daughter.
As Wang Zengqi said in "Family Sitting Idle, The Lights Are Pleasant":
Children are their own. Their present, and their future, should be designed by themselves.
The child's life has its own trajectory, and the initiative is given to him, so that he can experience what he should experience and bear what he should bear.
This is the best shelter for him, the best responsibility for his life.
In fact, the key to raising a child is never how much talent the child has, or how much material wealth he has.
The key is the parents.
There is a saying that behind excellent children, excellent parents must do their best and master the secret of education.
I hope that parents in the world, no matter what the environment and conditions are, can be a good example for a child to follow;
Provide a safe and relaxed atmosphere for children with love, so that he has enough freedom to explore the world;
The most important thing is to let go of control, let go of false expectations, respect the child's choices, and return him to a truly happy life.
I hope that every child will have their own most glorious future.
The author | Oh Mom, I am willing to use my heart and pen to open up the children's spiritual world.
The anchor | Anthony, there is a Korean barbecue heart hidden under the cold face of North Korea.
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