For the growth of children, different parents have different opinions, many of which believe that children should grow up easily and happily, parents can not give too many requirements and constraints, this is no problem, but the premise is to build on the basis of children's very self-discipline.
Popularly, parents often hear that their children are unconscious and have poor initiative, in fact, this means that the child's self-discipline is relatively poor. The so-called self-discipline, simply put, is the child's own requirements for himself, his own restraint on his own words and deeds, all of which are the binding requirements of the child from the inside out.
So the question is, many parents will wonder, how to make children have self-discipline?
First of all, the child's growth process, is a process of physical and psychological public growth and progress, there are individual differences, physiological age and psychological age will be out of sync, there are some differences, the most common is to see the child is very large, has been fifteen or sixteen years old, but between words and deeds, feel or children, very naïve, this is the child's psychological growth is lagging behind.
For growing children, the younger the age, the more they can't control themselves, this stage requires children to achieve self-discipline, it is more difficult to achieve, and in this process, the "template" of self-discipline is very important. This "template of self-discipline" comes from parents.
We all know that getting used to an action, repeating it repeatedly, will form muscle memory over time, just as for a blank child, rules, requirements, constraints, in repeated practice, will also form a conventional law, which can be said to be a habit, or it can be said that it is an external manifestation of self-discipline.
Secondly, for the growth of a child, an extremely important part is the innate self-discipline, most of which still rely on heaven and earth to cultivate and learn. In this process, the role of parents is very important.
Many things, not that children can not stick to it, but parents give up in advance. For the requirements of children, most parents often insist on setting an example by example, but with the passage of time, parents have shown that they are casual, directly making children appear casual, and it has been futile to set the habit of forming a plan.
To cultivate children's self-discipline, just like children learn to walk, parents must first help their children into practice, and slowly children can take a steady step. If children want to have a good sense of self-discipline, then the other laws from their parents must be in place.
If parents insist on letting children self-discipline and self-management, especially the younger the child, its nature is curiosity, and play with a big heart, from the temptation of fun and novelty, the child can not control himself at all. When parents find out about their children's problems, it is more difficult to intervene to ask their children, after all, many things, children have formed their own inherent ideas or habits.
All parents want their children to be the best, but all parents are reluctant to let their children suffer. This is very contradictory, fish and bear paws can not be both, even if it is a good piece of steel, it must be tempered by thousands of hammers to become a talent.
Children's childhood must have a happy time, but this and let children develop some good habits is not in conflict, parents can not try to save trouble, the growth of children do not do anything, after all, the times are different, materially rich in the era, once parents do not have the heart to irrigate the growth of children, children are easy to "grow crooked".