Positive evaluation punch card.
Yesterday, I had a conversation with the mother of my daughter's classmates. Her daughter is often the last in her class, but her mother says she has a very good attitude. Although his grades were not good, he has been painting since junior high school. Now winter vacation from 9 a.m. to 10 p.m. Clean up the house during a break on Tuesdays. She got up at 7:30 a.m. After class in the afternoon, eat rice noodles directly next to the school and don't go home. A lot of times walking home. After communicating with her classmate's mother, she found that people were always praising her daughter. Although her daughter was the last in her class, her mother was always looking for her daughter's strengths, repeatedly saying that her daughter had a good personality and got along well with her classmates and teachers, and the teachers liked her. At home she also helps with all kinds of chores and does not indulge in mobile phones. Hearing this, reflect on your words and deeds, and find yourself full of complaints and accusations against your daughter. Indeed, my family's behavior is far behind her daughter's, except that her grades are better than her daughter's. If I don't have classes, basically, I don't get up until 11 o'clock in the morning and don't do housework. The hygiene of their own room does not matter. When her grades dropped in her sophomore year of high school, she also wanted to take the art exam, and she began to draw in December last year, and she drew 25 times, and now the things she draws are the content of people's junior high school paintings. But she doesn't seem to value time very much, she always has to be late for class, I said her, she also said what's wrong with being late, what can she do in 10 minutes? The teacher didn't care. It was useless to say anything about her, and she was late for the next time. I paid the tuition, a class for 3 hours, 150 ah, I gave her a day's salary, she is not in a hurry, I am in a hurry! If you don't study well, your money will drift away, and you will delay your cultural class grades. During the winter vacation, she went to study in the morning and afternoon, and did not go at night, saying that she wanted to write homework, and was actually basically playing with her mobile phone. Oops, she doesn't listen to how to say it, but her rebellious psychology is particularly strong, and she always works against me. Why is she like this? Come to think of it or am I treating her the wrong way. I always picked on her shortcomings and asked her to correct them, while ignoring her strengths, but reinforcing her shortcomings. The classmate's mother said that her daughter had bad behavior habits before, and she also nagged non-stop, and later found it useless, and instead praised and positively evaluated, always saying that she believed the child. Now, even though her child is finishing last in the class, she strives to praise her for her strengths.
I should start by changing myself and evaluate my daughter positively every day from today onwards. I praised it five times today.
When she came out of the studio, she didn't walk like she usually walked and looked at her phone, I praised her in time, she rolled her eyes at me, I said, you roll your eyes is so cute. At noon, there was some leftovers in her bowl, and his father began to criticize her again, and she was very angry and angrily left the table and went to her room, and I felt the moment when she was about to slam the door as hard as ever, and she gently brought the door, and I felt her restraint in her emotions. I was relieved and went to her room to praise her and say that she had learned to deal with her emotions. In the afternoon, she went to her classmate's shop for tea, her mother left me to eat, let me pick up the child and go with her, she called her daughter to ask her to go back with my family. I didn't tell her beforehand, I took the initiative to let her go to a strange place, I think she may be angry, in fact, it is also my fault. I realized later that something was wrong with me, but she wasn't angry at all. I quickly praised her, saying that she was very generous. When I got home, I pulled her for a few laps in the parking lot, and she was willing to walk with me, and I quickly praised her again. She refused to go out for a haircut, let me give her a haircut, I used to say her, today, I think differently, praise her considerate mother, save me money, and believe in me, give me the opportunity to practice my craft.
