Author | Inspector (2175 words, about 4 minutes to read)
"The difference between men and women" is a truth that everyone should understand, not only adults, but also children must understand. And how can children understand? Naturally, their parents should do a good job in education.
If parents do not instill gender awareness in their children early, then the child is likely to do something out of the ordinary as he grows older.
"Moms, when you take your son to a public toilet or a public bathroom, will you let your son into a women's area?"
I have seen such a vote, and the final vote is the largest number of votes is "no", but there are also some mothers who give a variety of answers:
"It depends on how old the child is, I think it should be okay before the age of 5, after all, the children are small, they can't understand it."
"Where won't my son follow me into the women's locker room?" I bring my own children, I can't let him go to the men's locker room alone, in case of losing or slipping and accident, who is responsible? ”
"Although I also know that I can't take my child to the bathhouse of the opposite sex, but the mother with the baby is bitter, this is also a helpless thing, I hope you can understand."
Of course, mothers with children do have some difficulties, many people can understand, but if mothers do not think so, but also with the "small children" as an excuse, openly protect the children, then such a practice not only makes everyone angry, but also brings great negative effects to the children.
The mother took her 9-year-old son to take a bath and went into the women's bathroom to heat the controversy
Recently, a netizen encountered a situation where he met a boy in the women's bathroom. On the same day, she and her friends went to the swimming pool to swim and relax, and after swimming, when they entered the locker room to get dressed, they suddenly saw a half-sized boy standing in the women's locker room, and the two people looked at each other, which was very embarrassing.
At this time, the netizen quickly wrapped the bath towel tightly around his body and shouted, asking: "You are a boy, how do you come to the women's locker room." ”
Just when the boy was overwhelmed, his mother ran over in an instant and asked the netizen: "What are you fussing about, he is my son, only six or seven years old, still a child, you will scare him like this!" You think they all think like you! What happened to me bringing him to the women's locker room? ”
Netizens heard that the mother was so rational and strong, and she retorted very angrily: "Your son's height is almost 1 meter 3, and his body is about to mature, you didn't see his eyes in the women's locker room, is not what a child should look like?" You think children are still young, aren't you an adult? You, the mother, not only did not recognize the mistake, but also protected him so much, he grew up and got it? What about the staff? How do you manage it? ”
Then the staff came forward, after communication, the child's mother hastily apologized, but the netizen was very angry after returning home, posting that he really did not understand, a six- or seven-year-old child, how can he not understand anything? Isn't it a 1-year-old baby that needs to be held and he won't dress himself in the men's locker room? Is the child too young or is the parent ignorant?
If parents always put "the child is still young" on the lips to spoil and maintain, it will ruin the child.
★ Children in the eyes of parents are no longer children
Many parents will always say, "No matter how old you are, you are still a child in the eyes of your parents." ”
Although this sentence is full of strong maternal love, when the child has grown up, in the eyes of others, he is already an independent individual. In front of their parents, children can be spoiled, unscrupulous, and willful, as long as their parents are willing. But in front of others, we must maintain the most basic respect.
Children are always growing up, they slowly come into contact with different people, after going to school to learn a deeper level of knowledge, then their thinking is also changing, rather than the parents think that "children who don't understand anything".
Therefore, parents should accept the fact that their children have grown up, face the status quo that children are independent individuals, and educate them from the perspective of an adult, so that they have basic qualities and consciousness.
★ Educate children, starting from an early age
0-3 years old is infantile;
3-6 years old is the preschool period;
6-12 years old is a child;
12-17 years old is adolescence;
Adults after the age of 18. Therefore, six- and seven-year-old children are no longer children, but children, almost entering the stage of youth, they have independent thoughts, and they have the ability to judge right and wrong.
And they need to be independent, should not be ordered and cared for by parents, parents should face the child's growth stage with a scientific age.
After the age of 3, the child's sense of independence has been formed, and the gender consciousness begins to sprout.
Parents can no longer treat their children as small children, but should teach them some basic gender knowledge, such as the difference between men and women, private parts, and ways to protect themselves.
While protecting themselves, children must also know not to harm others, respect the privacy of others, and do not enter other people's areas in public.
The growth of children, parents can not be missing
In many cases, the mother herself takes the child out alone, if you do not take the child with you at all times, it is likely to have an accident, such as the child is 4 or 5 years old, and may not be in place independently, at this time, many mothers will feel very helpless.
So, we have to talk about another question, if the father takes his daughter out, will he take the daughter into the men's bathroom or the men's bathroom? Will Dad have such helplessness?
In fact, in life, we often see mothers take their sons into female public areas, and basically do not see the situation of fathers taking daughters into male public areas, putting aside the idea of son preference, what we want to say is:
●Parents should try not to be absent in the process of their children's growth.
When it is time to come forward, you must do your best, and neither parent should evade their responsibilities. Only with a father and a mother can a child be conceived, and the growth of a child requires the joint efforts of both parents to help them make better progress.
When the son needs the help of the father, the father arranges his own time and tries his best to help the son, so that the son can feel the responsibility and responsibility that men should have. Dad sets a good example for them so that his son can grow into a mature man.
When the daughter needs the company of the mother, the mother should take care of the daughter with maternal love, so that the daughter has a sense of security, can speak out of her heart, and has a place to talk, so that the child's emotions can also be more stable, healthier and sunshine growth.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
In life, parents should not use "small children" as a reason to bear mistakes for their children, let alone spoil their children. They are independent individuals, even teenagers, shouldn't they face some challenges alone?
Giving them independent space and teaching them in advance the qualities, knowledge and skills they should have is what a qualified parent should do.
Parents, have you ever encountered such a situation?
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