How old the child is for him to sleep in separate beds is a problem for many new mothers. Early, the heartache can not let go of the child; late, and afraid of the impact on the child.
Earlier when chatting with a psychologist, I heard him say an extreme case: a middle-aged woman brought her son who had gone to junior high school to consult, and learned in her words that she was very worried about the current situation of her son, although the son was both good in character and excellent, he was obedient at school and home, but he was very unsinkable, grew so big, and never made his own decision to choose a set of clothes, and usually encountered any difficulties, being bullied and the like, and he was looking for his mother to solve.
A closer chat learned that the parents have been divorced for many years, the child is still sleeping in the same bed with his mother, the mother did not mention the excessive bed, and the child did not think of splitting the bed. Knowing this, the psychologist friend said that he probably already knew the root cause of the matter, and also confessed to his mother that it was difficult for the child to reverse the "weakness" in his heart.
Children are weak, and it is normal to rely on their parents from an early age, which is a survival instinct. But as an adult, parents should be measured, know when to let the child take on a little responsibility at the right time, and cultivate his ability to make choices and take responsibility independently. For example, this allows children to sleep in separate beds, which is very conducive to cultivating children's independent consciousness of behavior, so that they gradually see themselves in the brain as an individual, an individual who can survive independently outside of their parents, only in this way, after they grow up or for many years, there will be no fragile personality of excessive attachment.
Some adults are afraid to be alone at night, even in their own homes, afraid to go to a dark place alone, most of them are the result of lack of exercise from childhood.
Of course, there is no fixed age group for children to divide the bed, because each child has a situation with each child. Before the age of three, the child does not have the ability to live independently (mainly in terms of physical fitness), so at this time, it is possible not to ask for a separate bed. However, before the age of 6, it is generally recommended to achieve separate bed sleep, because children will gradually develop sexual consciousness after the age of three, if there is no bed before this, it is easy to cause children to have precocious puberty, which is not conducive to the normal psychological development of children.
In addition, sleeping in separate beds is not a wave, after all, they are all mothers, and they can't put down that heart, and they can try to cultivate step by step. For example, the preparation before the bed can involve children, let them choose their favorite bedding, room accessories, plush toys to sleep with, etc., and then work with them to arrange it. In the first few days, the mother can also choose to leave after the child is asleep, let them first adapt to the situation of waking up in the morning without parents, and praise them accordingly, telling them that they are already a responsible man.
So step by step, and then psychological guidance, I believe that the child will soon adapt to sleeping alone.