"Graduated from Peking University, studied at Stanford, and worked on Wall Street after graduation"
The biggest luck of the genius girl Gu Ailing is not to win gold in the Olympics! But there is a mother like Gu Yan!
On the morning of February 8, 2022, Chinese team member Gu Ailing was at the winter Olympic big jumping competition
With an unprecedented performance, he successfully defeated his opponent Tess Ludd
She won the women's freestyle skiing final at the Winter Olympics
China won its first gold medal in the Big Jumping Event at the Winter Olympics
It was also her first Olympic gold medal to participate in the Winter Olympics
And in private, this talented ski girl is both learning
Whether in sports or in art, they are very accomplished
She excels at horseback riding, archery, running, cross-country and even soccer
She also likes to play the piano, dance, and is also a college bully praised by everyone, a down-to-earth Stanford high school student
Many netizens enviously called her "God's favored girl"
Some netizens even left a message saying
"God opened all the windows for her"
Similarly, in the praise of Gu Ailing, many people also think
The reason why Gu Ailing can have today's achievements is inseparable from her mother's cultivation and education
Some people say that Gu Ailing's greatest luck is not to win gold in the Olympics! But there is a mother like her mother Gu Yan!
It is often said that the mother is the fate of the daughter's life
What kind of mother, what kind of life ending the daughter will have
So in Gu Ailing's growth, what is worth learning about Gu Yan's education?
The following 3 points, I hope all parents can take a good look!
01
Being a good example for a child is the best education and guidance for a mother to her child
Gu Ailing's family can be said to be a very typical Kochi family
Her grandfather was a stanford graduate
Dad is a Harvard graduate, and Gu Ailing's mother is not much more
Since he was a child, he has been a scholar and studied at Peking University, one of the highest universities in the mainland
After graduation, he entered Stanford for further studies
Therefore, in the process of Gu Ailing's growth, the requirements for himself are also very strict
Although she loves sports, she never slacks off in learning
At a young age, he aspired to be admitted to Stanford like his mother, and in the end, he was constantly working hard and persevering
With almost a perfect score, he successfully became an alumnus with his grandfather and mother
Gu Ailing's mother Gu Yan has also said many times
For the education of children, it is much more important to do than to say, only you teach by example to create a natural environment for children
Then the child will automatically join!
Yes, good parents tend to shine with their own light
Then illuminate the child's way forward, point out the direction for her, and become a beacon of her life
Singer Chen Meiling chose to get married and have children when her career was in full swing
But she did not choose to give up studying, but studied hard after marriage and became a doctoral student at Stanford University
Similarly, her three sons were also under her influence and were admitted to Stanford successively
Tesla founder Musk is so successful because his mother set a good example for him from an early age
Although the mother is a divorced single mother, she is not overwhelmed by life
Instead, while raising 3 children, he worked hard and studied at the same time, and successfully obtained a master's degree in nutrition
Remember, for children, parents are undoubtedly their best teachers
And moms are the best role models for girls
What kind of person a girl will eventually become depends on how strong the mother's beliefs and spiritual strength are
It depends on the mother's words and deeds!
02
Allowing a child to be imperfect is the greatest gift and love that a mother gives to her child
Many people think that Gu Ailing is too perfect, simply an all-round genius girl
But few people know that in the course of her upbringing
Her mother, Gu Yan, would never ask her to be "perfect."
He even often warned Gu Ailing
"You don't have to be too perfect, it doesn't matter if you don't get to Stanford, it doesn't matter if you don't get an Olympic gold medal, it's important that you keep trying and having fun with it."
In addition, Gu Yan also said in an interview
Since my daughter was a child, I have never asked her to score a hundred points and get the first place
Because in her heart, no one is perfect, everyone is flawed, then it is normal for her daughter to have flaws, which is not a big deal
In life, we often see some parents
Mothers, in particular, often act very anxious when faced with parenting problems
At the end of the day, they take "perfection" too seriously
As a result, the child is always overstretched, and the child also causes a lot of pressure on himself
Therefore, naturally their hearts will be dissatisfied, and they will be anxious
And under the influence of such high requirements and high standards of mothers, children can easily be hit
Thus becoming inferior, and even self-abandonment
In addition, parents blindly pay attention to their children's achievements, which will also make the child's personality and psychological development incomplete
In the end, it leads to the child's high score and low energy, or the heart is fragile and vulnerable, and finally causes the tragedy of life
As parents, we must learn more about Gu Yan's parenting philosophy and learn to encourage our children to try more
And learn to accept all your child's imperfections!
03
Doing a good job of supporting the child is the best support and encouragement for the mother to the child
Although Gu Ailing's mother respects her daughter very much, she is always willing to give her the greatest freedom
But in terms of accompanying and supporting her daughter, she has never slackened off
Gu Ailing wanted to go to the training ground, and Gu Yan drove her 8 hours a week to take her to the ski resort
Gu Ailing wanted to take the Stanford exam, and her mother accompanied her back to Beijing every summer to attend the Olympic math class
In addition, whether the daughter is frustrated in the game or physically injured, or encounters various life problems in life
Gu Yandu was able to maintain emotional stability and calmly and self-sustainably give her daughter the greatest encouragement and support
It can be said at any time
Gu Yan is Gu Ailing's most powerful backing, the eternal Dinghai God Needle!
Yeah, for kids
A qualified parent should know how to care and help him when he encounters difficulties
A qualified parent should also bring him comfort and guidance when he suffers setbacks
When the child has a goal to move forward, the parents silently support and guard in the rear, ready to help and cheer for the child
When the child feels tired of failure, as soon as he turns back, the parents are waiting behind them for hugs and comfort, giving the child the greatest sense of security and self-confidence
And once the parents do this, then your child will definitely be an excellent child
04
Gu Ailing is undoubtedly lucky, because she has a mother like Gu Yan
She can teach Gu Ailing's example by example, bringing her the motivation and direction to move forward
She can also respect and accept all of Gu Ailing's choices and imperfections, teaching her bravery and happiness
In the same way, she can also become the backing of Gu Ailing at a critical time, providing her with the best help and guidance
As parents, we want to raise a good daughter
You must learn these 3 points, especially mothers
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