How should parents cultivate their children's self-discipline?
If parents want to bring a child well, what does it depend on? Bringing a child is definitely not up to you to blame criticism, stare at him, and urge him to write homework. This method will only make the child more and more panicked, and then more and more helpless. This is the most dangerous thing for a child.
Although this kind of harm occurs in childhood, it may be a lifelong impact on the child. Look how you did not expect that the criticism of children in childhood will continue until the child reaches adulthood, and to the child, the loss of his internal drive and the damage to his heart are immeasurable costs.
If you want to bring a child well, the only way is how to make a child able to generate internal drive and self-discipline. I think this is very important for all families. Because, if the child does not know that he needs to learn, the parents force the child to learn will not have any good effect, his state belongs to the person is absent- Even, the child is afraid to learn all his life, and you can't do anything with him.
So, you really want to understand, how to make a child have self-control, the ability to generate self-discipline?
1. Without rules, there are no squares
Relying on verbal preaching alone, it is difficult for children to have self-control. Parents are best to make some rules that everyone should follow, so that children can follow them together.
For example, when others are sleeping, do not make too much noise to prevent others from being woken up by rest. You can't watch TV while eating; arrange your own room and arrange your homework reasonably. You can set the time, remind yourself with an alarm clock, and much more.
Parents must remember that all the things that are required of their children should be discussed with their children in advance and then implemented in accordance with the regulations. Remember, don't casually object to what your child wants to do, adapt to tasks, or blame your child casually. In the end, the problem cannot be solved, but the child and himself are unhappy, and the feelings between the child and the parent are hurt.
2. Parents should lead by example
The mother is the child's role model, and the power of the role model is infinite. If parents have enough self-control, I believe that children can also control themselves. Therefore, parents must lead by example. Often, they can use it as a challenge to themselves, to change their bad habits and to develop self-control in their children.
3. Properly trained
Self-control ability can be cultivated, parents must consult with their children, guide their children to determine goals, and jointly establish reward and punishment methods. As long as the child has progress, it is necessary to cash in the reward to him, so that he has a sense of pleasure for the student, and he will be interested and have the confidence to work hard. If it is not completed, there will be a corresponding penalty to be executed. Over time, the child will gradually form a habit, and then when it is time to do something, he will take the initiative to do it.
Message: Cultivating children's self-discipline ability is not achieved overnight. It must be cultivated step by step according to the preset rules carefully designed by the parents. Parents should have patience and confidence to accompany their children to grow up together. Let each child love from the heart and be willing to be their own master.
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