A colleague recently said something that bothered her, her family is a girl, because she has given her children short hair, sportswear, and sneakers since childhood, and is often mistaken for a boy. And the child likes to play behind the boy every time, naughty as the boy.
Later, after chatting with colleagues, she learned that her daughter had two cousins of the same age in the family, and since she was a child, her colleagues had put her in a pile of boys. They also dressed their daughters in boys' clothes, cut boys' hairstyles, and toys were all kinds of cars and guns that their cousins played with.
Now that the daughter is getting bigger and bigger, mischievous like a boy, and behaving more and more like a boy, my colleague realized that he was raising a girl, and he was very anxious and regretted not being a girl.
Gender education for girls by parents is very necessary, and the sooner they are trained, the better. Good gender education helps girls develop sound personalities.
Girls begin to realize gender roles around the age of 3, but they can only understand that "there is a difference between men and women", but they do not know the reason. Around the age of 6, girls will gradually form a gender concept, through the observation of the surrounding population to form a comprehensive understanding and understanding, and gradually make it clear that men and women have different dresses, personalities, behaviors, etc., and the psychological gender also gradually grows. If parents do not correctly guide the girl's gender awareness at this time, the girl's gender development may be biased. Therefore, it is recommended that parents follow these 3 parenting points.
Correct gender education for girls
Influenced by traditional culture, parents are more conservative and traditional, and they think that gender education is dispensable, and the most important thing is to be ashamed to teach girls about gender.
There are also many parents who treat boys and girls differently, thinking that it is okay for boys to know something, but girls will be shy, resulting in many girls not being able to recognize their bodies in early childhood and correctly view learning opportunities for both sexes.
In fact, gender education has a profound impact on the healthy growth of girls. Therefore, we must improve our understanding of gender education, lead by example, supplement the knowledge that has been missing for so many years, and provide a good environment for children to grow.
We need to get rid of gender stereotypes, encourage children to experience different social roles, and do not limit children's likes and dislikes or activities according to gender. For example, don't tell boys to like blue, to exercise. And girls have to like pink and read books.
Treat children differently according to their gender, and do not raise boys as girls or girls as boys. Avoid your child developing a false gender consciousness.
Parents should correctly guide the girl's gender understanding, if the child has a deviation in gender understanding, it should be intervened and corrected at the first time, so that the child realizes that she is a girl from an early age.
Give the girl a fairytale princess world
In the world of fairy tales, the princess is always noble and loved by everyone.
When the girl grew up a little, just understood what beauty was, she began to secretly put on her mother's high heels, choose beautiful clothes, and like jewel-like shiny necklaces. If at this time her mother happened to buy her a princess dress, she would regard it as a treasure and her heart would blossom.
When the girl is about 3 to 6 years old, the mother should properly prepare some beautiful princess dresses, headdresses and shoes for the child to meet the girl's initial feelings and experiences of beauty, and she can get a sense of confidence and self-esteem from it.
My daughter often said, "Mom, I'm going to wear beautiful dresses and shoes that look like princesses." ”
I remember once my daughter said, "Mom, I'll put nail polish on you." "My four-year-old daughter took nail polish and painted it on my hand.
Baba smiled and said, "She's cute and beautiful now." "To this end, I also bought a toy for my daughter to play at the dresser. I often see my daughter dressing herself up over there alone, and playing very much.
3-6 years old is also a gender-sensitive period for children. Especially for girls, they especially like brightly colored and beautiful things. Through these things, they get encouragement for their appearance, which leads to a concept of "gender."
In addition, we must tell more stories to children, so that they understand that in addition to being beautiful, the real princess is more important than having a beautiful heart. Be compassionate and willing to help people in need. Let the child gradually become a person with a sound personality under such influence.
The awareness of self-protection and safety for girls should be popularized in a timely manner
We all hope that our daughters can grow up happily and happily, but there are still many terrible things in society, and in staring at those young girls, we teach girls to grow up, and we also teach her how to protect herself.
I remember that one year Chinese New Year's Eve, my husband and I took my daughter to the nearby vegetable market to buy New Year goods, because it was Chinese New Year's Eve, there were many people in the market in the morning, my husband and I bought a lot of things in big bags and small bags, and then prepared to go to the dried fruit stall to buy some dried fruit.
Suddenly, the owner of the dried fruit stall said loudly, "Is that your child?" Someone took your daughter." Frightened, the husband hurriedly ran in the direction he was pointing, and sure enough, a middle-aged man was pulling his daughter toward the door.
The husband shouted at his daughter to come quickly. The middle-aged man saw the situation, let go of the child, and hurriedly ran. I took my daughter in my arms and said how can you go with him? My daughter was not yet four years old at the time, and she said that her uncle said to buy me candy.
I couldn't help but be afraid for a while, what should I do if I lost my child in the Chinese New Year's Eve night? Now that it has been the past few years, every time I think about it, I still have palpitations. Fortunately, the owner of the dried fruit stall saw it and saved his daughter's life.
Later, I bought my daughter a set of picture books called "Little Princess Self-Protection Picture Book", which my daughter and I read many times. My daughter also understood a lot of truth from the picture book.
This is a set of picture books (10 books) specifically aimed at girls' self-protection awareness, 10 short stories to tell girls what kind of people or behaviors may cause harm to themselves, teach them to refuse impolite and insecure requirements, and improve girls' self-protection and prevention awareness.
For example, in the book Stranger, I Don't Want Your Snacks:
Zhen Ni, who was shopping in the supermarket with her mother, was separated from her mother without paying attention. A strange aunt approached Zhen Ni and wanted to lure Zhen Ni with a snack to leave with her.
During the conversation, Zhen Ni realized in time that the aunt had ill intentions and boldly asked the supermarket service staff for help, "Auntie, I don't know her!" ", help yourself out of trouble.
Mom praised her: "You are such a good boy, remember your mother's words, do not eat strangers' things." ”
Each story of this set of books revolves around a theme, through the dangerous experience of the little protagonist Zhen Ni and the way to resolve the crisis, so that children can be inspired, learn the method of self-protection, and improve the awareness of privacy and security.
Message:
Gender education for children is the same as family education. Gender education, parental examples and examples are also important, and teaching by example is far more important than words.