There is a kind of loss called: when the child is young, he always pesters you, and when he grows up, he wants to talk to the child more, but the child is annoyed.
Presumably many parents have this psychological gap, before the child has contacted this society, always sticking behind the mother like a fart, and when the child grows up and has his own social circle, the mother wants to care more about the child, but the child is very impatient.
Once I went to the mall, I saw such a scene. A girl walked angrily in front of her, followed by a middle-aged woman as old as her mother. The girl in front of her suddenly turned back and roared: Why do you always follow me? Really bored!
This behavior caused passers-by to look sideways, and the mother's face was always full of loneliness. How parents should get along with adolescent children is a big problem that has always plagued parents. The following three points, parents must pay attention!
First, correct your mindset and be prepared
The first thing to be clear is that puberty is a normal psychological manifestation of children, so when the child's period comes, parents must have enough psychological preparation to meet the child's adolescence. At the same time, parents can also communicate and communicate with their children in advance, and can tell their children: "Mom has always been by your side to accompany you, no matter what happens or what you think, you can tell Mom and Dad, Mom and Dad can help you solve your troubles." Listen to what you have to say. ”
In addition to psychological preparation, parents should establish a correct way to express emotions for their children from an early age, teach him not to vent his emotions to others casually, but to know how to consider the feelings of others. In this way, even if the child reaches puberty, he will not do too much when he wants to vent.
Teach children how to correctly understand their physical changes and psychological changes during adolescence, teach them how to deal with the troubles and sorrows brought about by these emotions, clarify their main tasks at the moment, and do not be trapped by emotions.
Second, less ding-dong, more understanding
In adolescence is when their self-awareness is strong, so at this age, parents should give their children tolerance and understanding.
And under the psychological effect of children's semi-maturity, they are eager to have the right to speak and be able to decide their own things, so under such conditions, try to avoid communicating with children with educational tones, and do not use commands to force children to do things they do not want to do.
Instead, when the child's mood is completely relaxed, with an equal friend posture, go to the child to discuss and discuss with the child, and create an equal and friendly atmosphere with the child. This can not only take care of the child's feelings, but also solve the child's troubles invisibly.
Third, do not deny, more encouragement
Adolescence is the key period for the shaping of children's three views, at this age stage, parents' words and deeds have a great impact on the growth of children, so in the usual way of education, parents still have to encourage and support the main, do not use words to hit children's self-esteem.
Otherwise, the frequent blows of parents will have a subtle impact on children's self-confidence. Secondly, when encountering other things later, children are not willing to talk to their parents about their troubles. In this way, parents will waste a lot of opportunities to get closer to their children.
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