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Where does a woman's happiness come from? In the face of this problem, some people will say: "Nature has the love of parents, the love of husbands, and a happy and happy family." ”
A woman can have these, indeed will have a happy life, but who can guarantee that every woman can have such a happy life? Many things don't come to the last step, and we can't be sure what the final outcome will be.
Even at the best age, meet a person who loves each other, temporarily have a happy marriage, in the future life, there will still be many variables, a man can not become a woman's life security.
Even if a woman has parents who love her, no one can guarantee that her parents can protect her life and make her life safe and smooth.
Munir Nassouf said, "True happiness can only be experienced when you truly recognize the value of life." ”
Pinning your life on a man and becoming an appendage to a man is actually creating a great risk for yourself.
Since then, women have lost the rights that should have belonged to them, and they can no longer decide whether they are happy or not in life. The day a man changes his heart, that is, the day when a woman begins to suffer misfortune.
In the same way, if a woman allows herself to live the rest of her life under the protection of her parents, the longer the time, the more women will become accustomed to such protection. When their parents are no longer able to shelter, it is difficult for women to bear the hardships of life.
If you want to ensure your own happiness, women must know themselves and use their abilities to realize their own value. What you get through your own efforts is the most secure, and it is also the one that can best give yourself a sense of happiness.
Therefore, what can really determine a woman's happiness in life is not actually the man, nor the parents, but the three things of the woman herself.
01 "The right to choose how you live": the ability to live independently.
Gorky said: "The beauty of life lies in its richness, and to make life interesting, it is constantly enriched." ”
We all want to have such a life, even if the ability is limited, in the heart, we will often fantasize about this colorful, fulfilling and interesting life. Although some aspirations are difficult to become a reality, they will not prevent us from getting some satisfaction and comfort in this fantasy.
For women, the more difficult and unfortunate life is, the more they will fantasize about another happy life in the dead of night. However, the gap between them makes people can only sigh.
It is not an easy task to have such a life. If you pin this hope on others, in the end the gap between reality and hope will only become wider and wider.
If a woman wants to have such a life, if she wants to get such happiness, she must first have the right to choose how she lives. Only with this right can you decide the direction of your life.
Chernyshevsky said: "I want to live independently and according to my own will; I gladly accept whatever I need, and I will never ask for anything I do not need." ”
If a woman wants to do this, she has to improve herself and give herself the ability to live independently. Even without the help of others, you have the ability to get the life you want and ensure your own happiness.
02 "Pleasing your own understanding": know how to enjoy life without having to live in someone else's world.
We have seen too many women, after getting married, often lose themselves, only want to take care of the family, or to please men, try to get the favor of men, and often ignore their feelings, forget what kind of life they really want.
What women don't know is that the more humble you are in life, the more you try to please others, the easier it is to lose yourself and become an unfortunate woman. Waiting for that day, it is not an easy task to change your life state.
Maupassant said: "You understand that the life of man is neither as good nor so bad as people think. ”
Many times, we don't have to think too well about life, and we don't have to think too badly. Women can please others, but when they please, they must also clearly know whether you can get the same value response while you give. If not, why would you give meaninglessly?
A woman, once she loses the ability to please herself, loses the happiness of the rest of her life. Smart women, they must have the understanding to please themselves, know how to enjoy life, rather than living in someone else's world all the time.
03 "When encountering any difficulty, there is a positive and optimistic attitude": it will not be easily defeated by difficulties.
In life, we often encounter some difficulties and obstacles, and these often appear from time to time, over one, and then continue to appear.
What women need to have most is a positive and optimistic attitude, only in this way can they discover the beauty of life and feel the happiness of life.
We all know that happiness in life is not about how much you have, but about whether your heart is satisfied. Positive and optimistic people tend to live more comfortably, easily, and happily than those who are pessimistic.
As Kazuo Inamori said, "The path of life is drawn by the heart." Therefore, no matter how harsh the situation you are in, your mind should not be haunted by pessimistic thoughts. ”
Women should understand that if they want to make their lives happier, they should not be afraid of encountering difficulties. Even if there are some obstacles in life, as long as you maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, you will certainly be able to keep the clouds open and see the moon.
Happiness, do not rely on others, rely on yourself is enough. Remember What Tolstoy said: "Life should strive to make it better." ”