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"Grassland Eji" is a realistic novel published by Jiangsu Phoenix Children's Publishing House. This is a children's novel based on real historical events, based on the "Three Thousand Orphans Entering Inner Mongolia", a republic that is forever engraved on a historical monument and flows with the great love of the nation.
After reading it repeatedly, I deeply felt the energy of my mother from a 19-year-old girl. This book is not only for children, but also for parents, and in a way, 19-year-old Toya has given a vivid parenting tutorial lesson to the majority of adult readers.
"Eji" means mother in Mongolian, but Toya, who takes care of the children in the book, is still an unmarried woman, so how can she be a mother of so many children? How did she get the children to sincerely call her "Eji"?
First of all, there is no doubt about the meticulous care of life and life.
The 100 children were divided into 7 groups, and Tuoya was responsible for taking care of as many as 28 children, the children were of different ages, different personalities, new to strange places, and very uncomfortable with everything. The day after the children arrived, Toya found that many children did not like to eat dumplings, so she overcame difficulties to boil rice porridge to adapt to the tastes of southern children. When the children were upset, Tuoya was anxious and inquired about the treatment. Wrap dumplings for children in the New Year, make new cotton robes for children... Toya is always careful and considerate, and is as warm as a spring breeze, giving the child the most comprehensive care and companionship.
Second, Toyah noticed the children's psychological and spiritual soft needs.
The protagonist Xiao Tani was 6 years old when he came to the grassland, in the stage of an older child, already had a certain level of thinking, and his understanding of the world began to be systematic, but also very divergent, and the "little green mountain" of independent thinking began to grow. Kotani is not an orphan, he clearly remembers that he was placed by his family at the door of the nursery, and he still has an impression of his parents and brothers, so he is puzzled and does not understand why his parents abandoned him. Toya is keenly aware that Kotani's stubbornness and loneliness are precisely because he is empty in his heart and cannot let go of his experience.
In a series of conflicts, Toya knew about Xiao Tani's heart knot, but she did not forcibly intervene and forcibly comfort, but strategically contacted Xiao Tani's family in northern Jiangsu through the local government. Later, a letter written by Xiao Tani's cousin to the nursery school revealed the truth: Xiao Tani's parents had many children, Xiao Tani was the thin and sickest, his parents were worried that he was young and weak, he could not grow up healthy in northern Jiangsu, and when he heard that the Shanghai Nursery had good conditions, he entrusted someone to send him, hoping that the child could have a way to live. The knot in Kotani's heart was finally opened, and he finally let go of his own life. When he really let go of his knot, he can sincerely embrace the new family on the prairie. Toya successfully entered The Heart of Kotani and realized a deep connection with him.
It can be said that Toya did a very remarkable thing. Sometimes the "fateful existence" of childhood shadows is a magic circle, it is difficult to get out and change, not only to compete with themselves, but also to intensify the hatred of their parents, the interaction between the two, a vicious circle. Realizing that some of the hurt comes from childhood, seizing the opportunity to dissolve them, using the love for the child as the driving force, and using wisdom to complete the dissolution, this is the homework of a good mother.
After learning the truth, Toya and Xiaotani had an in-depth conversation on the grassland, and it was this conversation that made Xiaotani shake hands with his own parents and original family, and give birth to gratitude. The original family will have a constraint on each of us, but Toya successfully weakens it, and Xiaogu sets out from his home and finally comes to the inner Mongolian steppe, a big family with warm currents, which is an important growth in his soul.
In the face of Xiao Tani's heart knot, if it is not with love and wisdom, Xiao Tani may be more resistant, entangled, and related, that is, the confrontation between negative forces and negative forces, when he grows up, he will pass on the defective original family ecosystem to reincarnation.
Third, help children develop hobbies, enter the group, make friends, and open up their own world.
Toya named little girl No. 62 Na Ren Hua (Mongolian, meaning sunflower), which not only gave her a name, but also gave her a warm and loving love; taught Na Ren Hua to cut paper and planted the seeds of beauty and art in her young heart; encouraged Xiao Di to make good friends Anda, learned the horse head piano, and helped Xiao Di ignite her enthusiasm for life; always cared for Nandi, when she found that her adoptive parents were not kind to her, Tuoya was heartbroken, immediately took her home, and finally helped her find a suitable adoptive parent Toya always pays attention to the weak side behind Kotani's stubbornness, making him full of compassion for the world and others... Under the influence of Toya, the children are all kind to people, kind to animals, and grateful.
At the end of the story, bathed in the selfless and deep love of the grassland Egibō, Kotani and his friends learned to take responsibility and pay in the face of natural disasters together, and learned true love. This process of growing up together has created a great love and affection between the steppe Erji and the "children of the country" who breathe and share a common destiny. Years later, the "children of the country" were grateful and repaid Sangzi.
After the double reduction, the importance of family education in the growth of children is particularly prominent. The family is the first lesson in life, and parents are the first teachers of children. Family education is the cornerstone of children's growth, and good communication, sincere love and correct guidance of parents are the "accelerants" for children's growth. Children come from sharing their fate with us, and their lifestyles, behaviors, treatment of people and things, and value orientations of parents are directly or indirectly shaping children.
How to be a qualified mom and dad? Maybe we can take inspiration from 19-year-old Toyah.
Published in The Publisher, No. 2, 2022