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In the process of children's growth, parents will face many problems.
Among them, with the development of children's minds, their pursuit of appearance and appearance will become higher and higher, especially at a certain age stage, the aesthetics of girls will be seamless with fashion, and dressing up also makes parents feel a little confused.
In the past few days, when chatting with colleagues in the office, Sister Wang complained about the dress of her daughter.
Sister Wang's daughter just went to junior high school this year, because the little girl is born to love beauty, Sister Wang herself is also a more enlightened parent, so her daughter is very free in dressing.
As long as she does not violate the school rules, does not wear strange clothes and hair coloring, Sister Wang generally does not ask questions.
But what makes Sister Wang feel helpless is that with the rise and popularity of JK and Lolita, the little girl now seems to be "brainwashed" by these styles.
There were five or six plaid skirts in my daughter's closet alone, and two Lolita skirts that looked very cumbersome.
The daughter said that the girls in the same class each had a plaid skirt, compared to their own clothes.
Sister Wang is after 80, she admitted that although she is over 40, her mentality has always been very young.
I thought that I could accept all kinds of new things on the way to accompany my daughter to grow up, but I didn't expect that for JK and Lolita, I didn't feel the beauty at all, but I was a bit repelled.
There are many parents like Sister Wang in life, and a bao mom has had similar problems in the background private message.
Bao Mom said that her daughter is a primary school student, only the fifth grade began to be fascinated by Lolita, not only combing a double ponytail every day, but also asking her to buy her a variety of small skirts, stockings, black leather shoes online.
On the one hand, she knows to respect the child's preferences, on the other hand, bao mom feels that Lolita clothing is not a common clothing in normal life, and her daughter is addicted to this niche hobby at a young age, and she will be looked at when she walks on the street.
Indeed, the development of the times has made the culture also become diversified, when JK, Lolita into the school, the children's aesthetic is bound to be affected by the trend, for this, parents should choose to support or stop it?
Let's first take a look at the opinions of netizens:
@ Joe Mom: Seriously, get the beauty of this style of clothing, the daughter is in the sixth grade, there are many girls in the class wearing plaid skirts, I think it is not as good as the school uniform, fortunately, the daughter is not interested in this, otherwise I will definitely stop.
@ Wait for the wind: Now the little girl likes Lolita, just like when we were young, we liked the princess dress, as a parent, I don't think there is any need to stop it, and when the child grows up and matures, the aesthetic will change.
@ Flower Splash Tears: No objection nor support, the child likes to buy two to meet her hobbies, but absolutely can not indulge, the main task of the child is to learn, once addicted to dressing, it will definitely affect the school.
@ Meow: Does not affect learning, do not spend money indiscriminately, there is no need to stop, otherwise it is easy to trigger children to rebel, and this is not a bad hobby.
When a child's aesthetic is contrary to his own, should he let the child have the freedom to dress?
Everyone has the freedom to dress, but when the child's mind is not yet mature, parents have the right and need to supervise the child's dress, such as some children's clothing violates school rules, does not conform to student status, or primary and secondary school students dye their hair and wear heavy makeup.
As a popular element, JK and Lolita are not as "heinous" as parents think, and many parents oppose it because it is niche and contrary to their own aesthetics.
Therefore, when the child's aesthetic and the parent's aesthetic collide, parents should give the child the most basic respect, do not reprimand, ridicule or even denigrate the child's preferences.
Doing so will only hurt the child's self-esteem, promote the child's rebellion, and trigger parent-child conflicts.
If the child is addicted to dressing up, and therefore affects the academic performance, parents can change the child's attitude through communication and tell the child how to balance interest and learning.
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