Many parents will have such a question in their hearts: what is the matter that the child is too timid? If the child's courage is too small, is there any way for parents to help the child improve?
Children are too timid, may be born of children, not every child is born braver, which has little to do with the gender and age of children.
The factors that affect whether the child is brave or not are some of the things that the child encounters in life, and the attitude of the people around the child to him.
These will affect the child's personality, innate factors we can not change for the child, but through the efforts of parents to make the child become brave.
First, parents should not manage their children too tightly
Children are more curious about everything in the outside world, in the child's exploration process, there may be injuries, at this time some parents will be more worried about the child, no matter what the child does, parents want to manage the child, protect the child.
In fact, parents are too protective of the child to harm the child, when the child loses the umbrella of the parent, the child will lose the confidence in the exploration of the outside world, the child is also afraid of being hurt, so the child will slowly become timid and afraid of things.
Second, what the child does, there is something desirable parents should praise, and when not, they should give the child appropriate guidance
The child's experience in handling things is still relatively small, he may not understand what he is doing right, what is wrong, and he will be more timid in doing things.
But when parents tell their children how to be right and how to be wrong, children will be more confident and organized when they do things, and they will not be afraid to do things.
After being encouraged by their parents, children will also love to do the right thing more. When a child has confidence, he will naturally not be timid and afraid of things.
Third, the child is wrong, parents should tell the child what is wrong, do not let the child in the clouds, hit the child at every turn
As the child does the right thing, the child does the wrong thing, the parents must also tell the child in time, otherwise the child will always make the same mistake, and the speed of improvement will be very slow.
If the child always does the wrong thing, and the parents have been criticizing the child and not telling the child why, the child will be more and more afraid to do what he has not done, which is very unfavorable for the child to learn new things.
Therefore, if parents want their children to be more bold, they cannot skimp on their time and energy to guide their children.
Fourth, parents should learn to let go. Children do things, parents are not assured, that is not assured, children can hardly learn to be independent, can only become the parents' attachments
Therefore, parents should learn to let go of their children, let children freely exert their talents, free growth, so that children can find a path suitable for themselves, in the face of what they like to do, children will naturally take out double confidence, the possibility of success is greater.
Fifth, do not criticize children as cowards, the quality of children is not completely up to the parents
Children are more timid, even if parents are in a hurry, do not criticize children as cowards, in fact, children will easily break the jar and break, the more parents criticize the child, the child is likely to do that.
Criticizing children as cowards will also seriously hurt children's self-esteem, and the distance between children and parents will begin to be estranged.
Don't intimidate your child, it will only make your child more and more timid
Many parents like to intimidate their children, believing that this will make them more obedient. Most of the time the child does become obedient, but at the same time the child becomes very timid.
Because the premise of the child's acceptance of parental intimidation is that the child feels afraid, the parent should not intimidate the child without moving, and if the child is more obedient, it is better to try some more gentle methods.
Brave children, perhaps innate, but too timid children, must be inseparable from the wrong way of parenting.