The back | chat with my father, and my mother and I are in the past

I didn't go back to my family this New Year, and I'm still grumpy.

Back home can do a lot of things: drink, eat, brag, go to relatives... And chat with your mother.

What can I talk to my mother about in the New Year? Will definitely talk about Dad.

My dad has been gone for several years, and I often think about the Family New Year together these days.

In the past, every time I arrived home for the New Year, my father was particularly happy, and then he claimed to his mother that he would drink two or two more tonight as a celebration, and my mother usually said very dismissively: "Do you need a reason to drink?" Dad didn't refute it, so he poured his wine glass full, and then looked at me expectantly: "Drink with me a little?" ”

Naturally, I agreed, but I still poured less than my father when pouring the wine. When I drink, I forget that my father is actually old, I remember how drunk he was in his prime, and then subconsciously think that I can't drink my father.

When my dad drank, he liked to pull me and my mother to chat together, before retirement he was a person who liked to play mahjong and like to be lively with friends, but after retirement he suddenly became very homely and liked to talk about those parents short.

If in two days a relative comes to eat at home, my father will pull me and my mother to talk about the menu, specific to what the ingredients of each dish are, need to prepare a few bottles of wine, and then calculate the amount of alcohol for each visitor one by one, which is a big topic containing many memories, and if you are not careful, you will infinitely extend to the details of so many liquor stores in that year.

What's dad's favorite thing to talk to me about? Before I got married, he seemed to rarely talk about topics like "getting married early", but simply about simple pleasures born of alcohol; after I got married, he liked to show off his humor in front of his daughter-in-law, Bing, and hold on to his previous temper that was not good.

One year I went home with Ice for the New Year, stayed for a few days, and before leaving, Dad was suddenly very depressed, and I had rarely seen him so low before. I asked him why, and he said, "A few days go by so fast, don't go so early." ”

I was a little sad after listening to it and didn't know what to say. At this time, I happened to see the family's puppy "Oba", also bowing his head and hanging his tail to make a low appearance, so I smiled and said to my father, "You and Oba are just as reluctant to let us go." ”

Dad laughed.

When people are old, they like to reminisce, and when dad drinks, he will often talk about his grandparents, talk about his northern hometown, and talk about the times he took the family back to his northern hometown for the New Year.

Dad was an extremely talkative person when he was drinking. One spring festival, our family went to our hometown in the north for the New Year, I think it is difficult for me to forget, my father's heartfelt joy, after decades in the south, as soon as he sat on the kang, he completely reverted to the old man in the north, holding a wine glass, talking from after lunch to midnight.

Sipping wine, chatting all the time, always reminiscing, always on the kang, there are always peanuts on the kang head, sometimes there are dumplings, talking with his brother, chatting with his nephew, and chatting with his childhood village, talking about the past in the village.

Well, the past, chatting with my father, for me and my mother, are all in the past.

After my dad died, when I was talking to my mom, when I talked about something, my mom would sometimes suddenly talk about things like "if your dad was there, how would he comment on this?" Dad sometimes spoke in an exaggerated tone and expression, some of the tones of northern music performers, at which time my mother and I tried to imitate the way dad might speak, and then laughed.

In recent years, my mother has become more and more fond of reminiscing about the past, sometimes until she was so long ago when she was a child.

Because I listened to it too many times, and later, her main audience became ice. I sometimes wonder why my mother is obsessed with the things of her childhood, and there are many details she can keep chewing, especially how Grandpa spoiled her past.

Later, her audience member Bing told me that it may be because my mother felt that the happiest moment of her life was childhood, her grandfather's love was strong and short, and her grandfather's early death made this love memory and thoughts stir each other and be unforgettable.

This year's Spring Festival, when I think of my father, I think of my father who chatted with me at the wine table, which should also be the happiest moment I feel with my father.

I am also like a mother now, when chatting with my daughter, especially when I see her various cuteness, I will subconsciously say to my daughter: "If your grandfather is here, it will be..." and then perform her grandfather's imitation show.

In the past few days, my daughter and I have said countless times that we must go to see my grandmother after the new year, and it seems that only in this way can I really "determine this matter in advance".

When I return to my hometown, I will take my daughter to listen to my grandmother's past, and my grandmother will know that her granddaughter has grown up and loves to listen to her grandmother's past more than we do. There must be a grandfather in this past.

This past doesn't even have to be true. To be honest, until now, I can't tell the truth from the fake in my memories, including what I said myself.

If "fiction" can make memories warmer, then let's tell it in the family.