Spring Festival is a special and grand traditional festival for us. Chinese New Year's Eve years old, the first year of the New Year, the first month to visit relatives and friends, reflects our Chinese "Year" culture and customs.
In the first month, bringing children to relatives and friends to pay respects to the New Year is an indispensable activity for every family. Etiquette is particularly important in this warm moment of emotional intermingling.
Whether it is a big child or a small child, the parents take it out, and the child's every word and deed, every move, shows the family style and tutoring.
As soon as you look at the child's words and deeds, others will know how the child's tutoring is and what the family style is.
If parents don't want their children to behave out of the ordinary and embarrass everyone, then the Spring Festival is a good time to teach their children etiquette and courtesy.
These rituals require parents to tell their children in advance.
A New Year's greeting between friends and family
For the New Year, when you meet, you must pay homage to the New Year, and you must say auspicious words.
Parents should teach their children in advance, see how to call the elders, how to say hello, how to say auspicious words.
If it is to pay homage to the elderly, you can teach the child to say: "I wish my grandparents good health and long life." ”
If it is to the aunt and aunt to pay respects to the New Year, you can teach the child to say: "I wish the aunt and aunt will always be 18 years old." ”
If it is for uncles and uncles to pray to the New Year, you can teach your children to say: "Step by step, the source of wealth is widespread." ”
If it is to give older brothers and sisters a New Year's greeting, you can teach your children to say: "Academic success, happy every day." ”
In short, let the child learn more blessing words, which can be played according to different people and different scenes.
Parents should pay attention to, see people, can not only let the child call people, hello, if the child to see the unfamiliar people, it is likely that the child does not know how to call, at this time, parents can slightly hint at the child, or introduce the child, tell the child who this is, how to call. This avoids embarrassment.
Of course, parents should not forget to tell their children that in the New Year, everyone should try to be auspicious, and do not say some unlucky words and words in front of relatives and friends. For example, words like "dead", "broken", "bad", "no", "light", "kill", "sick", "painful", "lose", "poor" and so on are unlucky-sounding words.
The child receives the gift of pressing the old money
I still remember when my son was a child, I took him back to his hometown in the countryside during the New Year, and the relatives at home gave my son a red envelope, and my son opened it in person, and said that it was only 50 yuan. I was so embarrassed. When my relatives left, I educated my son.
Children are very simple, and sometimes they don't think about others when they talk. However, as a parent, you must tell your children.
First of all, when accepting other people's red envelopes, you must get up and stand up and face the person who issued the red envelopes.
Secondly, tell the child to receive the red packet, be sure to catch it with both hands. Receiving a red envelope by hand is a very impolite act.
Third, when receiving the red packet, you should bend down and bow to express your gratitude and say thank you to your grandfather, grandmother, uncle, and aunt.
Fourth, the received red packet cannot be opened in front of the person who sent the red packet. If you open it in person and see the amount, the child says that it is too little, which is very rude, and it will also make the person who sends the red envelope very embarrassed.
A dining gift for family reunions
New Year's dinner is indispensable, friends and relatives gather together, eat a meal, chat about home, but also a kind of emotional communication.
A child's tutor can be seen on the dinner table.
Dining etiquette, parents must teach their children.
Let the child know that the elderly and young are in order at the dinner table. Whether it is in their own home or at the homes of relatives and friends, when eating, the elders do not sit down, the juniors cannot sit, and the juniors have to wait for the elders to sit down and sit down again.
After everyone sat down, the host said a welcome speech, and after the master and the elders moved the chopsticks, the children could move the chopsticks.
When picking vegetables, tell your child not to pick and choose from a full plate. You can only pick vegetables on the side of the plate, closer to yourself, see which piece is sandwiched, and do not churn back and forth on the plate.
If the table is rotating, see if anyone is picking vegetables before clipping, if there is, do not turn the tabletop, wait for no one to pick the dish, and then slowly turn the table, turn the dish you want to eat to yourself, after the sandwich, you should turn the table top in front of others in time.
When eating, chew slowly, do not make a sound of spitting, and do not talk with rice.
When you eat bones, fish bones, etc., slowly take your hands to your own plate, or put them on a prepared paper, and do not spit on the table or throw them on the ground.
If you have finished eating, others have not finished eating, you can not leave the table, you have to wait until everyone is almost finished eating before leaving the table. When you leave the table, say, "Everybody use it slowly." “
If you are a guest in someone else's home, you should help the host to clean up the dishes after eating.
Regardless of whether the food made by the host is appetizing or not, love or not, when the host asks about it, be sure to say that the taste is very good, the meal is very generous, thank you for the hospitality.
A new year's greeting for friends and family
Some children are particularly headache-inducing, and when they visit other people's homes, they always like to rummaging through other people's drawers and things.
Before a netizen said that a friend's child came to the house as a guest, did not pay attention, and played all his cosmetics badly.
Children are curious and active, coupled with unfamiliar environments, children's desire to explore is stimulated.
Before taking their children to visit relatives and friends, parents must repeatedly emphasize with their children that other people's things should not be moved casually.
You can tell the child in advance that other people's bedrooms, study rooms, etc. belong to the private area, and they cannot go in without the permission of the owner, and can only play in the living room.
Parents should also always pay attention to the scope of children's activities, if they find that there is something wrong with their children's behavior, parents should stop it in time.
In addition, when you see something you like, you can't ask for it. This will make the owner very embarrassed, because maybe that is also what other children like.
Therefore, parents can tell their children in advance that if they have something they like, they can quietly tell their parents, and they cannot say that they like it in front of others and let others give it to themselves. Remember: Gentlemen do not take away love.
Before leaving, let the child remember to say "thank you" to the host and thank the host's family for their hospitality.
The hospitality of the little host
Parents should also consciously cultivate their children's sense of ownership.
When someone is coming to the house, parents can ask their children to help with some simple hospitality work. For example, pour water over tea. If guests are bringing children with them, parents should remember to tell their children to share their snacks and toys with the children who come to visit the house.
When parents are talking to guests, children should not interject casually next to them. When guests ask children some questions, children should be generous, sincere and polite answers, not perfunctory.
When guests are leaving, let the child go out with their parents to send the guests off. Can't stay in your own room and not come out to drop off guests.
When sending guests, you have to wait until the guests have gone far before going home to close the door, you can't just send the guests out the door, the guests are still waiting for the elevator, they go home and close the door, which is impolite.
Confucius Ziyun "does not learn etiquette, there is no way to stand." Don't think your child is still young and don't pay attention to some details.
The study of etiquette and rules is to cultivate children how to live in harmony with people and the environment with correct concepts, appropriate words and deeds.
These etiquette and rules will make children born inward and externalized in their actions, becoming the comprehensive cultivation of children, and are the foundation of children's lifelong survival, which can benefit children for life.
During the Spring Festival, you take your child to visit relatives and friends, a meal, a party, some details, others can see whether the child's tutoring is good or not.
Have you taught your children all of the above etiquette and rules?