"Why is Grandma's pressed old money always a few less than Grandma's" The child said a word, poking at his mother's heart socket
For the little ones.
Spring Festival is to have beautiful new clothes, you can visit a lot of relatives and friends with your parents and parents.
You can even eat food that you can't normally eat.
However, in the process of relatives coming and going, the issue of pressing the old age money has become a heart disease for many parents.
Why? Because many mothers feel that Grandma's pressure money is always more than Grandma's.
Or relatives are not equal to each other's red envelope money.
Some because of the number of red envelopes, some because of the denomination size and so on.
These problems have caused many adults to have a musty problem.
Especially as children grow up and understand the denomination of money, they will pay more attention to the pressure of money.
Children can also fool around and put away the money, and when they grow up, they will begin to understand which relative gave how many red envelopes.
Which relative gave the red envelope is larger, and a comparison of the majority found: "Grandma always gives more." ”
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Why is it that "Grandma doesn't give more money than Grandma gives?" ”
Coco, a colleague, returned to her in-laws' hometown for the Spring Festival last year and encountered such a problem.
In the face of her son's questions, Coco struggles with how to answer her child's questions.
Coco's husband also had a younger brother and gave birth to two sons, and the mother-in-law only brought two grandchildren to her brother in the old family.
After Coco's son was born, because he was busy with work, his mother-in-law could not open his body.
Therefore, I can only ask my mother's mother to help bring my grandson, which is several years.
Therefore, the child has a deep affection for his grandmother.
But on the other hand, on the side of the in-laws' family, because they have not been around their grandmother for many years.
The number of times they meet with grandma in a year can also be counted, so the child and grandma are not familiar with each other.
It is even possible to describe this situation in terms of raw points, and Grandma is not too close to this grandson.
Colleagues said that last year, she deliberately took her son and husband and chose to return to her in-laws' house for the Spring Festival.
During the Chinese New Year's Eve night, the mother-in-law distributed red envelopes to several grandchildren according to the old custom.
Children are particularly happy to receive red envelopes, and Coco's son also went to play with his cousins after receiving the red envelopes.
But the child is always full of curiosity and comparison, and Coco's son takes it apart after receiving the red envelope and plays with it.
It is good not to open it, but this opening, it is found that the amount of the red envelope is actually different from the other two cousins.
Therefore, Coco's son came to ask his mother in public, is it because Grandma doesn't like her?
Why do you have fewer red envelopes than your cousins?
Coco was also surprised because in previous years, she had never compared the money that her mother-in-law had given to her children.
Nor did I expect that there would be a difference in treatment, thinking that the three grandchildren would be treated equally.
Coco's son kept asking his mother why the cousins had more red envelopes than themselves.
Why does Grandma give less money than Grandma?
Coco comforts her son, not wanting him to understand that he is being treated differently, so comforts his son:
"Grandma thinks you're still young, afraid that you'll lose the red packet, so give less red packets, but Grandma still hurts you, and she loves you very much."
Here we have to praise the high emotional intelligence of colleagues, which not only maintains the child's self-esteem and comparison, but also leaves a love face for the grandmother.
Although the colleague gave the mother-in-law face, he still felt uncomfortable inside.
Because the children are treated differently, and most importantly, it is not the in-laws who are not financially bad.
The in-laws' economy is even richer than that of their mother-in-law's.
But the mother-in-law came out and lost the smiley face, saying that she was old, confused, and the red packaging was wrong.
Colleagues don't care about the money, they care about their children being treated differently.
Is it true that the grandson who has not been around since he was a child is not kissed?
Coco's husband thinks it's nothing, but his mother made a mistake for a while.
But Coco believes that the annual red envelope, which can be mistaken, can only be said to not pay enough attention to this grandson.
Therefore, this year, Coco resolutely refused to return to her in-laws' house for the New Year, and she also quarreled with her husband for this reason.
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The amount of money pressed to see the indisputable fact that most grandmothers are more pro than grandmothers
Every year, because of the problem of pressing the old money, it can always cause a lot of small family quarrels,
And this topic can also make many people happy to participate in the discussion, because only experienced, the most vocal.
The mother-in-law hurts the child even more
One researcher used a lot of data to prove that in different families that have lost their children in the past.
After the death of the child, in addition to the child's parents, the third most sad person.
Most of them are grandmothers, and this sad order has always been in front of grandpa, grandpa, and grandma.
Because in ordinary life, Grandma is always the one who interacts with children the most, contributes the most, and spends the longest time, and in life, such situations abound.
Therefore, it can be seen that in addition to parents, the most loved children, grandma is usually the third, and grandma, can only rank fourth, followed by grandpa and grandpa.
There are a lot of netizens who leave messages, empathetic, because from the perspective of grandma, for the daughter's children, whether the gender is male or female, they are the same love, but in the grandmother's side, how much is not the same, many still retain the traditional concept, will always favor the grandson more, and the granddaughter thinks that she always has to marry, it will be treated differently.
From birth, whoever accompanies the child for a long time is close to whomever he or she is
Like the situation of cocoa colleagues, grandma is closer to the child, and the in-laws' side, because it is not very close to Coco's son, grandma has brought two other grandchildren from childhood, and naturally loves the other two more, which is also a common sentiment of people out of human nature.
Especially now because there are many mother-in-law problems, most women have chosen, the child to the grandmother to bring, which is why the child and the grandmother, not close to the grandmother.
From the problem of pressing the old money, it is easy to uncover the dark wounds of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Many people think that they are all grandchildren, and for the grandchildren who can't see each other several times a year, they should be closer, why are they treated differently?
In fact, there are many reasons, and some will be because of economic reasons.
Some are because the mother-in-law does not like the daughter-in-law.
There are also likes because grandma does have a difference for grandchildren.
Because the child was hurt because of the pressure on the old money
Parents know that children are the smartest, and children know who hurts them the most.
Just like Coco's son, because he feels unfair and does not understand, he will deliberately ask his mother.
Without the mother's high emotional intelligence answer, the child's small mind will be wronged by being treated differently.
And there is also a different sense of loss for the New Year.
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General language
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in each family is very delicate, and in the face of the problem of pressing the child's old age, it is recommended that all elders treat them equally, so that the child can have a better growth, and will be happier and more sunny.