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Buddhism divides the sufferings of life into seven types: birth, old age, illness, death, resentment, love and separation, and unavoidable.
People often console themselves that my fate is up to me. But many times, a person's fate has been decided from the moment of birth.
Humanity seems so small under the knife of fate.
The next thing to talk about is a family whose birth is associated with suffering. The seven sufferings in the human world do not seem to have spared this ordinary family...
The eldest son in the family suffers from a rare disease that causes the hands and feet to shrink
There is an ordinary family in Yuexi County, Anhui Province, and the son of this family is called Wang Yifei, who has reached the age of marriage. After being introduced by the people in the county, he met a girl surnamed Wu in the neighboring county town.
The two people's family situation is very similar, and they also feel that the other party is very good, and they walk together smoothly under the matchmaking of the matchmaker.
Through a year of understanding and running-in, the hearts of the two people have become closer and closer, and they have entered the palace of marriage together.
After the marriage, the two had a smooth life, and they were no different from other young couples in the county.
A year later, the wife became pregnant, and this happy event added new impetus to the uneventful family. When they learned that their wives were pregnant, their relatives and friends sent their blessings and waited for a new life to come.
Pregnant in October, a childbirth, in 2004, finally waited to meet the child, the father Wang Yifei was particularly happy, according to the family tree to name the child Wang Lintao.
The child is very cute and has a pair of black grape-like eyes, which looks particularly spirited.
Although the family is not rich, the food for the children is the best things that parents can take out.
They thought that life would go on like this, but gradually the couple found that the state of the child was different from that of other children.
Some of the children born at the same time can even run freely on the ground without the support of adults, but their children cannot stand up.
At first, parents only think that the child develops relatively late, after all, the child's growth cycle is different, some children will learn to speak in a few months, and some children may have just begun to learn to speak a few words when they reach the age of one.
But when I can't stand up at the age of two, the situation is particularly serious. Even the royal parents who have no culture know that things are not so simple.
They immediately picked up the child and decided to go to the big hospital in the city to see it.
The doctor's diagnosis dealt a devastating blow to Wang Lintao's parents. After diagnosis, doctors concluded that two-year-old Wang Mingtao was suffering from spinal muscular atrophy.
What kind of disease is this?
Spinal muscular atrophy is a defective, hereditary neuromuscular disease caused by mutations in the motor element nerve survival genes in the human body.
Clinically, this disease often occurs in children and infants, and the symptoms are weakness of the limb muscles, the atrophy of the limb muscles makes it impossible to stand, and even more may cause symptoms such as breathing difficulties.
What will happen after this disease occurs?
Probably imagine the great scientist Steven? William? Hawking looked like that.
Although there are still differences between the two diseases, the symptoms are generally similar.
Hawking's limited mobility hindered his continued exploration of the frontiers of science, and he was only able to commit to a small wheelchair throughout his life.
Fortunately, his spiritual world was rich enough to fill the mental distress of his obstructed movements.
This condition will become more and more serious, and in the later stages, because of muscle weakness Hawking can not even breathe normally. Doctors could only cut open his skin and let air into his lungs to continue maintaining vital signs.
Then again, this two-year-old will face a very similar situation to that of our great scientist.
Moreover, at that time, with the medical strength of the country, there were no drugs and surgeries that could cure this disease.
Doctors were helpless in the face of spinal muscular atrophy and informed families that children with the disease would only have a maximum of ten years to live.
A thin medical certificate gave the child the final death ultimatum.
With this result, the parents sat paralyzed on the ground, unable to look back for a long time, not knowing what to do with their children.
Come to this world for a while, but accept such a fate for no reason.
But even if it is declared that there is only ten years of life, how can parents give up their children?
Children are gifts from Heaven, and even if the gift may be broken, they will always regard it as a treasure. If future days need to be measured with hourglasses, then all they can do is to cherish it even more.
They take the child home, or feed the child three times a day, and take care of the child more carefully than before, maybe one day a miracle will come?
But guarding such a disabled child is not a long-term solution.
Wang Yifei and his wife are afraid that when they are old, no one will be able to take care of their son, or no one will be able to provide for their husband and wife. They thought about it for a long time and decided to have another child.
The younger brother who was born with the mission did not forgive him in heaven
At that time, both husband and wife were still in their prime, and it was not difficult to have a child again. It may be that with a shadow in their hearts, they have become more cautious about asking for children.
However, people around them also advised the couple that when they are older, they must always have a healthy child by their side to be at ease.
After a long struggle, the wife finally got pregnant again. This time the wife was careful to protect herself, because the child in her belly would be the whole hope of the family.
Another October pregnancy, a newborn fell to the ground. The newborn is also a boy and will become the pillar of the family in the future.
This time, the child's father did not name the child in the order of the family tree.
He found a well-known local feng shui master and gave the child a name, hoping to bring good luck to the family.
The feng shui master learned of the situation and, according to the rules of the five elements, named the child Wang Haoyan.
After the child was born, the parents pinched a handful of sweat for him, afraid that the child, like his brother, would suffer from an incurable disease.
Fortunately, children can walk and run like normal children when they are more than one year old. The big stone hanging in the hearts of the parents also fell to the ground.
There is new hope in the family, and the parents have never given up on the help of their eldest son. Even if there is little hope, the parents are willing to give their eldest son a try.
For so many years, the family's savings have been spent on treating the eldest son.
All kinds of big hospitals, all kinds of folk remedies, as long as there is a chance of cure, they are willing to take out money to buy medicine for their eldest son.
In order to be able to support the family and continue to treat their eldest son, Wang Yifei and his wife can only leave their hometown where they have been living and go to the big city to work and earn money.
The two of them packed their bags and came to Wenzhou.
Because it was a migrant worker, it was not convenient to take the eldest son, so the couple put the eldest son in the countryside and raised him at the grandparents' house. However, their second son was still young and needed the care of his mother, so he took the second son with him.
During the day, the couple had to go out to work, and they could only leave the children alone at home.
Afraid that something would happen to the child himself, the wife got up early to feed the child, and then put the child in a hanging basket, and the couple set off from the rental room to start the day's work.
Fortunately, the second son is more sensible, and at a young age, he understood that his parents were not easy, and did not cry loudly like other children, but appeared particularly quiet.
When Wang Yifei and his wife saw such a quiet little son, their first reaction was sadness, and then heartache. But there is no way, everything is forced by life.
As the days passed, the child who could only live in the hanging basket finally grew up. This child is the only hope in the family, and it must be sent to school.
The husband and wife thought about it for a long time and decided to send their young son back to the countryside. When the children are older, they can help the grandfather of the family to take care of the big brother, and the second can also go to school.
But reality seems to be extraordinarily cruel to this family. In November 2017, just before returning home, my youngest son suddenly fainted.
Mr. and Mrs. Wang Yifei anxiously sent their children to the hospital for medical treatment.
I thought it was just a sudden illness, and it would be good to play the bottle for two days. But the doctor's diagnosis book once again pushed the family into the abyss.
The doctor diagnosed that the eight-year-old brother had medulloblastoma and was getting worse and needed surgery immediately.
So what is medulloblastoma?
The disease often occurs in children. Clinical manifestations are malignant growth in the skull of children.
This malignancy can affect the child's cerebellar function, causing a series of disease reactions such as high blood pressure.
And once it is found, if no treatment is carried out, the survival time of patients can generally only be about three months.
Two children, two different deadly diseases. No one can be more distressed than this parent, right?
Why does the couple keep giving birth to children with serious illnesses? There can be many reasons:
1. Familial inheritance
When our genes are passed on to the next generation, they will not only transmit traits such as appearance and blood type, but even carry the genes of some diseases.
For example, if a father has heart disease in a family, his children are at greatly increased risk of heart disease. Therefore, some children's diseases may be due to family inheritance.
However, Wang Lintao's parents were in good health and did not suffer from diseases such as spinal muscular atrophy or medulloblastoma. So the possibility that two children will suffer from this disease is very low in the family.
2. Maternal diseases
When the mother is pregnant, she is infected with a disease, which is likely to affect the fetus in the abdomen. Therefore, many families now pay attention to the protection of pregnant women.
Radiation protection clothing and other items for pregnant women also followed.
If it is said that when the first child is born, Wang Lintao's mother may not pay attention to her own maintenance. But when she was pregnant with her brother, she paid great attention to protecting herself throughout her pregnancy.
So myeloid cell tumor of the younger brother is likely to be caused by other causes.
3. Father's factor
Getting pregnant in October is not just a matter for the mother. The father who provides the other half of the sperm of the fertilized egg also determines whether a child is healthy or not.
Under the policy of eugenics and eugenics, most people know the benefits of early pregnancy preparation.
In order to have a healthy and intelligent child, many families begin to prepare for pregnancy at least half a year in advance.
Among them, many fathers exercise every day to ensure the activity of egg cells.
If you have some bad habits, such as alcoholism and smoking, you should also quit this problem when you are trying to get pregnant. In this way, we can ensure that the children born are healthy and intelligent.
Wang Lintao's father usually likes to drink a little wine, and he also has the bad problem of smoking. The couple did not have much education, and they did not understand that smoking could cause great harm to children.
So it is likely that because the two people did not have the concept of pregnancy, the father's smoking, alcoholism and other problems have become the cause of the child's disease.
There are many children who are born with rabbit lips, which is caused by their parents smoking and drinking.
Therefore, we should learn more lessons. Proper sacrifice is necessary in order for our genes to be better passed on.
4. Emotions of pregnant women
Another point is often overlooked. That is, the emotions of pregnant women are also related to the health of the fetus in the abdomen.
It is said that when parents love each other, the children born will look better. In fact, it is also because the husband loves his wife, so that the pregnant wife is in a happier mood, and the child in the stomach is naturally healthy.
However, when she was pregnant with her brother, Wang Lintao's mother's mood was very worried. She was afraid that something would go wrong and cause the fetus in her womb to be unhealthy.
When the mother is pregnant, the uneasy mood is converted into hormones that affect the fetus in the abdomen. Therefore, the mother's emotions also more or less affected the physical condition of the younger brother.
Then again, there's no point in dwelling on whose fault it is now. Now what Wang Yifei and his wife can do is to try their best to save and try to make their son healthy again.
The roof leaked in the overnight rain, and a wave of uneven waves rose again
Then again, my younger son's condition was already very serious, and the doctor told them to do the operation immediately. But the operation cost 50,000 yuan, which was a huge amount of money for the couple who did not have any savings at that time.
The child's grandfather also understands the difficulty of the family, even if he is in his twilight years, he still wants to do something for his grandson.
Carrying his son and daughter-in-law on his back, he took a job cleaning toilets in the county. Earn a meager salary every month and buy some nutritional products for your eldest grandson.
Grandpa, who has never done anything bad in his life, will suffer such a life suffering in his old age. He couldn't stand it anymore and fell to the ground.
The elderly are older and their physical function is not as good as before. This fall directly broke a bone.
But at that time, no one noticed that the old man fell, and the old man did not return home on time, and at this time there was still a fire in the house!
The flames burned more and more vigorously, and eventually, the raging fire spread throughout the house, burning the already poor and white home to the four walls of the house, leaving only a broken frame. Fortunately, the eldest son of the family is not in danger.
But the loss of property alone was enough to suffocate the family.
Either way, you always have to get your child through the surgery first.
Grandpa Wang begged for help, and finally scraped together enough fifty thousand yuan for surgery. After paying the cost of the operation, the family no longer had any extra money.
Grandpa could only set up a simple tent to spend the long night.
The surgery went well, but there was a lot of ordeal waiting for the eight-year-old. The money for the next operation is still not known, and Wang Yifei has found several jobs at the same time to earn money to treat his sons.
But people are not machines, and they cannot rotate sleeplessly. Wang Yifei's desire to earn money was too urgent, making him forget that his physical condition was not good.
Finally, exhausted, he had an accident — the pressure of the high load caused him to fracture his toes, and it became difficult to even stand up.
He could only go to the hospital to pick up his bones first, but fortunately, this fracture was not serious, and he could still recover after a period of recuperation.
However, the top pillar of the family suddenly fell, and the family also lost its financial resources.
Life has brought time and time again to this family, and everyone in this family can't breathe.
Although the eldest son could not stand up, his mind was still very clear.
He took the initiative to propose to his parents and cut off his own medicine! Even if he had already lived past the ten-year deadline that the doctor said, could he really hold out until the next ten years?!
There are so few miracles in the world, and this family bears so much suffering. The eldest son advised his parents to save the money for his medicine and take it to treat his brother!
The chances of his recovery are too slim, and if his brother can be cured, someone will be able to give them a pension in the future.
The son's last words made Wang Yifei and his wife cry uncontrollably. They also didn't want to cut off their eldest son's medicine, but this was life, and they struggled desperately to get out of the mud.
The eldest son's medicine was stopped for two years.
The younger son's illness has to undergo chemotherapy every once in a while, and the cost of each operation is expensive and scary.
Fortunately, there are various charitable organizations in the society, and they have spontaneously initiated donations. Hundreds of thousands of dollars were sent to Wang Lintao's father, and this love donation also became the straw for the child to save his life.
In fact, with the development of science and technology. The eldest son's spinal muscular atrophy also appeared a special drug that can be treated, which has the opportunity to cure the disease of the eldest son.
But this medicine, just one shot, needs hundreds of thousands. The family really can't afford it.
Whenever he thought of this, Wang Yifei was in tears.
Even if life abuses me a thousand times, tomorrow I will continue to face it in the face of the rising sun. After Wang Yifei recovered from his foot injury, he found a physical job to support his family.
The house in my hometown was also renovated with the help of others, although it was not luxurious, but it was also a place to shelter from the wind and rain.
Wang Lintao's grandfather also wanted to exert his residual heat, and he began to raise silkworms in his new house, hoping to use the meager profits brought by these agricultural and sideline products to alleviate the hardships of the family.
Yu Hua said in his work "Alive": You must not be confused, the dead still want to come back to life, you are a big living person, you can't die.
The pass is sad, the pass is passed. So yeah! Even if it is only for the simplest of living, always believe in hope.
Here, I hope that the life of Wang Yifei's family can be better and better, and finally survive this period of ups and downs and usher in a rainbow of happiness.