Author/Pond Fish
The so-called friendship between friends sometimes really does not have to be too reluctant.
Any relationship, in fact, in the end, pays attention to comfort, their own comfort. If you have felt aggrieved and dissatisfied in this relationship, no matter how reluctant you are, or think it is a pity to give up like this, you should learn to stop the loss in time.
Not only should it be in the face of love, but it is also true for family and friendship.
Of course, family affection may be more bound in real life, which is very normal, after all, blood relations are natural shackles that most people cannot break free. Anyone has a sensual side, some things, reason is reason, emotion is emotion, people who understand a lot of truths, but still can't live this life well, abound.
But your heart is soft and emotional, in other emotional relationships it is best to control it, if you can not learn to be fierce at the right time, then your life, may be incomparably entangled, your life, will also lose a lot of the wonderful, will often unconsciously trapped in some worries, so that forget the life itself, first of all should be to take care of themselves.
I mainly want to talk about friendship.
Friendship, in the lives of most of us, is also an important relationship, because people live in the world, it is impossible to be absolutely alone, there are always some people and things that will become their own entanglements, and there will also be some friends, at the right time, to illuminate the years of their lives.
It is undeniable that a good friend is indeed a beautiful encounter in life, and it is also one of the criteria for lighting happiness.
Once saw such a hot comment in NetEase Cloud:
With those steaming friends in the world, it is they who make your life like a bustling city, struggling to drag you out of the loneliness that dare not ask for help, hugging you forward, they make you feel the warmth of the New Year in the daily cold silence, you dare not say thank you, but you know that the flowers of life are blooming, and at a certain moment it is finally related to yourself.
That's what it means to be good friends.
However, in other directions, we live in the world, and not all of our friends can have such a character and bring you positive energy. Regarding good friends, we must learn to cherish, and in the same way, in the face of those bad friends, you must also learn to give up.
In fact, what I want to tell you is that the friendship between friends can sometimes really not be measured by the number of days of acquaintance, but by how the person's character is judged. Some people you have known for a long time, people may still not put you in their eyes, face to face a set of behind the set, if you have realized this, there is no need to read the good times of the two people in the past, blindly.
In fact, there are many such people in life.
I have a classmate, met some time ago, she said that her hair is small, is relatively speechless. She said something like this: "Really, if it weren't for the fact that I grew up with her and have known each other for so many years, this feeling is supporting our friendship." If I had known her when I was growing up, I wouldn't have played with her at all. ”
In fact, she has long seen that her own careful thinking is a bit much, including facing her, and she always likes to take advantage of small things. Despite this, the time when the two grew up together still made her choose to be patient.
She had never wanted to lose this partner who had grown up playing.
Between them, there should have been a complete breakup between them 3 years ago. Here's the thing. She got married 3 years ago, and a month before she got married, she came home with a small affair and came to her house for dinner, promising that when she got married, she would definitely be there.
Of course, what she actually lacks is not this guest, but the relationship between the two people who have known each other for many years, coupled with Fa Xiao's repeated assurances, she must still have expectations in her heart.
On the day of the wedding, their wedding was held at the man's house, and the woman's side was directly invited to dinner, and then the couple stood at the door to greet the guests. She and her husband finished entertaining all the guests at the door, and never saw Fa Xiaolai. She thought at the time that she was not busy, so she did not see it, worried that Fa Xiao would not find herself, and called to ask. She specially arranged the location of the small arrangement, and has already told her parents that when the hair is small, she will sit in the private room of the hotel with the relatives on the woman's side.
As a result, she did not answer the phone and did not call back later.
Later, it turned out that she did not come on the day of her hair, and suddenly there was no news, no messages were sent to her, no blessings, no people came, and no gifts were given.
Since this is the case, she will certainly not ask anything, and she is very conscious that she has not contacted Fa Xiao again. As a result, after almost a month, her hair xiao told her that she did not go on her wedding day because the weather was too hot, and she was worried about heat stroke and did not want to go out, so she did not come, not intentionally.
She did not intend to debunk the small hair, only said: "The weather was quite hot at that time." ”
Later, her hair began to play with her normally, just the day of the wedding, never mentioned, she had some opinions in her heart, but did not dare to say it, is thinking about the relationship between the two people for so many years, she did not want to say too clearly, the relationship was too stiff.
Then this year, her small marriage, sent her an invitation letter on WeChat, she did not reply at first, and did not know how to reply, and she immediately remembered when she got married, Fa Xiao's deeds, the dissatisfaction in her heart rose again. Finally, at the suggestion of some friends, she only said some kind words, wished each other a happy new marriage, said that the weather was colder, roasted at home, and did not want to go out.
Her hair was small and there was no reply.
This kind of behavior, which can basically mean that the friendship between them, has come to an end. She thought about it and felt more sighing, but overall she was still a little reluctant. She is originally a sentimental person, who regards feelings as more important, and thinks that no matter what, two people have known each other for so many years, she still does not want to end up like this.
She could see that Fa Xiao's intention not to come at that time was nothing more than not wanting to give gifts, and later inviting her to the wedding was nothing more than wanting to receive her gifts.
She didn't quite understand this kind of thinking, but she had to admit that strictly speaking, Fa Xiao was indeed completely different from her three views in too many places. They could not have been friends, but the friendship they had known since childhood had forced the friendship between the two of them to last so long.
It's really not necessary. Anyone, if you can't go the same way, you don't have to force it, and going with the flow is king. In life, you have to make true friends, any plastic feelings, realize that you have to learn to give up in the future, this is nothing to regret, but the common feeling of people.
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