Today, The Paper reported the story of single female model Li Xueke raising mixed-race triplets. Yes, it is also the version of strong women who choose not to marry and have their own children through IVF. Of course, this kind of forward-thinking is bound to cause a fryer in the comments section.
Throughout all the comments, the voices of support and envy still make up the majority, and I guess that most of these voices are also from women. Of course, there are also many arguments for questioning and criticism. For example, some people say that such a woman is very selfish, and helps the child make a decision without asking the child's opinion, what if the child wants to be a father when he grows up? There are also people who think that fatherly love is irreplaceable in any way, and that children who lack fatherly love are bound to have certain character defects...
As a woman, the author's position is similar to most women, and I appreciate such brave, hard-working, and child-loving women!
As for the worries of individual netizens, what if the child grows up in the future and finds a half-half? In today's world where technology and big data are so developed, there is no need to worry about this kind of thing at all. First, the child's mother said that she would tell the child how they came into the world, including who their biological father was. If the other half of the child's future is also ivory, then just as we have to understand each other's family background on a normal blind date, it is not difficult to understand each other's biological father.
Second, about the irreplaceability of fatherly love. In fact, the earliest form of existence of human society is the matrilineal clan, because of the needs of social development, it is derived from marriage and family and other products. With the further development of society, if marriage and family become obstacles, it is also possible to gradually be replaced by other forms.
I believe that everyone has more or less been exposed to the children of single-parent families. At least within the scope of my contact, children from single-parent families have unsound personalities, but there are also psychologically healthy children. Sometimes the cause of single parenting affects the child's personality more than the single parent itself. For example, there is a big difference between the father being shot as a murderer and the psychological impact of the father's accidental death on the child.
Admittedly, children without fathers do have something missing from children who have both parents and are harmonious. But single parents, especially in a single-parent family with good financial conditions, seem to be much happier than those who have an irresponsible, alcoholic, gambling, and abusive scumbag.
Far from it, Liu Xuezhou, a poor child who was forced to die yesterday by his own parents and online violence, is the best example. Women like Li Xueke and Ye Haiyang, who have the financial strength and at the same time love their children very much, it is not too much to encourage them to have a few more, at least much stronger than the scum that Liu Xuezhou's parents did without raising.
Moreover, financial strength is only a prerequisite for their willingness to do IVF, willing to endure the hardships of this process (women who have had ovulation injections and have had a pregnancy in October are clear), and willing to spend time and energy to accompany and educate their children is also a very important reason. There are also many excellent women around me who choose not to marry and be infertile, not completely unaffordable, but do not want to sacrifice themselves too much.
Therefore, from the perspective of the current state's encouragement of fertility, such excellent women are willing to have multiple children, and the probability that children can get a good education in the future, is actually a contribution to society.
Those sour men, you are worried about more than finding a wife to bear children for you, there may be more factors! Whether it is from the perspective of sex or housework, men's dependence on women is greater than women's dependence on men...
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