In the past, we grew up healthy and healthy on our birthdays, and now the children's birthdays are more solemn, the children themselves attach great importance to the birthday, birthday cakes, family and small friends' blessings, these are very important in the eyes of children.
Many children do not remember the honors they received as children and some of the more important experiences when they grew up, but they are very impressed by the scene of their birthdays, and children pay more attention to the sense of ceremony than adults.
The child's birthday is coming, they will start to worry about it many days in advance, and parents will also spend their minds to prepare a meaningful birthday for the child. However, some parents have spent a lot of time and self-defeating, allowing their children to have an unpleasant birthday experience.
There is a parent who puts "books" on his child's birthday cake, and the birthday wish is also "The earth is not destroyed for a day, you have to write homework." As a result, after the child saw it, he broke down and cried on the spot. There are also many netizens who comment that the method and timing of parents' education of their children are not right.
Children have birthdays, some parents do spend a lot of thought, but the way is not right, will leave bad memories for children, so that children can remember for many years.
These are the wrong ways to celebrate birthdays, I hope you don't make them.
First, the sky-high price of birthdays, extravagance and waste, children will not necessarily like.
In Shenzhen, we saw a very luxurious children's birthday party. Spacious lawns, hundreds of people with friends and family, micro-films filming of children's growth records, and even drones on the scene, sending flowers and gifts for children from the sky. Flowers, feasts, champagne, giant cakes, this child's birthday may cost tens of thousands of yuan. Do children like such birthdays? Halfway through the ceremony, the child said to his mother, "Mom, I don't want to have a birthday, I'm too tired." ”
Such a luxurious birthday is not what children want, but is organized by parents to satisfy their vanity. Extravagance and waste also set a negative example for children to set correct values. A child's birthday is not about whether the gifts he receives are expensive, but whether his parents have given him a good memory.
Therefore, expensive but tiring birthdays, children will not particularly like, parents spend a lot of money, children are physically and mentally exhausted, it is simply a lose-lose situation.
Second, the child's birthday, parents can not be perfunctory, do not take the opportunity to educate the child.
Children's birthdays, from the perspective of customs and habits, should be paid more attention to before the age of 12, and parents should take it seriously. Parents on the day of the child's birthday, send the child the most sincere wishes, the child can grow up healthily under the protection of the parents. Therefore, on the child's birthday, parents should give their children the necessary sense of ceremony, so that children know that parents love you very much.
There is a saying in our hometown that on the day of the child's birthday, no matter what mistake the child makes, we must not scold the child, otherwise the child will be bullied in the future. I think this is also to tell parents that educating children is a long-term accumulation, not a day can be educated, and scolding children is not a good educational method.
The child's birthday is also the mother's good friday, the arrival of a new life brings hope to the family, and the parents behind it have also paid a lot of hard work. How to celebrate a child's birthday is the most meaningful for the child?
For birthdays at home, it is important to reunite relatives.
Home is the most relaxed place for children, parents are the closest people to children, so at home to the child's birthday, mother prepares the child's favorite meals, father has time to accompany the child, is to give the child the most meaningful birthday. The reunion of the family and the warm family atmosphere make the child feel that he is happy.
Birthday cakes and birthday gifts don't have to be expensive, but they do make sense.
Every child's birthday will not be missing a birthday cake and birthday gifts. We all want the best gift for our children, but buying expensive gifts is not necessarily the best, and parents don't have to blame themselves for not being able to afford expensive gifts. The sweater knitted by the mother and the toy made by the father will be very much liked by the child, and it is very memorable.
Birthday cake is the same, now many families have baking tools, we bring our own children to make cakes together, is a very good idea, children's hands-on ability has been exercised, cake will be particularly sweet.
Every year on your child's birthday, do something meaningful.
The biggest meaning of the child's birthday is to commemorate and witness the growth of the child, and we can do something meaningful to commemorate the child's birthday.
For example, using photos or videos to record the growth of children, you can also plant a small tree on the child's birthday and thrive with the child, parents and children travel together, to give the child a memorable and meaningful birthday. When children grow up, they will see their own growth bits and pieces, and they will also feel the deep love of their parents for themselves.
Life needs a sense of ceremony, time will be frozen in good memories, experience the meaning of life, and let children have a meaningful birthday.