As long as a child has the internal drive and thinking ability, he will definitely be able to walk out of his own life path.
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Hao Jingfang has always been the ideal woman in Yu Yanjie's mind.
I love learning from wise people and often looking for new speeches from her.
Whether it is Hao Jingfang's public account for children's education, her interpretation of the future industry in the forum, or the speech of the universe's reality as a wave function, I have watched it with relish.
Hao Jingfang has a very famous story, from childhood to adulthood, he only read "idle books" and did not "study", refused to be guaranteed to be sent to the department of Chinese of Peking University, and was admitted to the Tsinghua Astrophysics major.
"Shangqinghua is good or Peking University is good", in her body is a passage into reality.
Highly talented and interdisciplinary, from astrophysics to macroeconomics to science fiction writing to children's education, everything can be top, and the face is still smiling and giggling, not cold at all.
▲ Two years ago, Hao Jingfang took her three-year-old eldest daughter, pregnant with her second eldest in her belly to study in Cambridge, and later she named her younger son "Book Sword", taken from Lu You's "Life book sword all over the world"
Shortly after the award of "Beijing Folding", Yu Yanjie interviewed Hao Jingfang.
She sat there indifferently, telling that all along, the female characters were either symbolic vases or the strong beating women of the Black Widow, eager to dig out more diverse women.
I nodded my head: Yeah, marvel has a loser hero like Ant-Man, why can't you shoot a housewife throwing the pot on the battlefield while nagging the child and saving the world.
▲ I am a fan of "Three-Body", but several female characters written by The Male Liu of Science and Engineering are really embarrassed. This was not said by Hao Jingfang, it was said by Sister Yu Yan, haha
There are many elites in this world, and what is rare is that Hao Jingfang has the feeling of a literati who combines knowledge with action and helps the world.
Beijing Fold divides the world into three isolated spaces, and Hao Jingfang believes that education is a weapon to penetrate structural problems.
She herself is the only daughter of Gakushin from a Kochi family, a Native of Beijing, and within the system, she always wants to do something for the education of marginalized children.
After "Beijing Folding" won the award, many investors looked for Hao Jingfang and chased after her to vote for her, wanting to make her a big IP.
Hao Jingfang refused.
She refused almost all business activities and only accepted an advertising offer from a car company, because the company was willing to fund 1 million yuan to achieve her public welfare ideal.
Hao Jingfang used the money to build a library in rural Guizhou.
She said that whether she won a Hugo Award or not, she would do this project, and winning the award allowed her to start the project earlier.
Over the years, I have watched her do online general education, do primary schools for the children of migrant workers, publish a new science fiction novel, and study abroad while taking her children.
These are just a side line for Hao Jingfang, whose main job is as a researcher at the China Development Research Foundation.
Let's talk about how Hao Jingfang, a child of someone else's family, was raised.
Hao Jingfang was born in Tianjin to parents who were one of the best college students in the year, and after graduation, he became a teacher at Tianjin University of Finance and Economics.
30 years ago, chicken babies were not popular, and Hao Jingfang's parents were very Buddha in education.
There is a primary school next to her parents' unit, and Hao Jingfang enrolled in the school nearby.
It was a real "small dish".
In addition to the 5 teachers and children like Hao Jingfang in the class, most of the other students came from low-level families - vegetable sellers, factories, pedaling three wheels...
From the end of the first grade to the promotion to Tsinghua High School, Hao Jingfang did not study much, but she was always the first.
Later, she won the New Concept Essay Contest Award, and the school could escort her to the department of Peking University Chinese.
As a result, she was rejected by the 9-year-old who aspired to be a scientist and regarded Schrödinger as an idol.
Her goal is the hardest astrophysics in science.
"I calculated the score, it should be similar, so I took the test myself." Hao Jingfang said with a smile.
Many years later, her elementary school classmates said at a party that Hao Jingfang was her psychological shadow.
Her middle school classmate wrote on Zhihu: "This girl was the god of learning in the next class that year, and her IQ was really crushed all the time." ”
In Hao Jingfang's growth process, there are two things that have been very successful.
First, parents grasp the free-range guidance of big talk and small words.
Second, macroscopic perspectives were established very early on to observe the world.
Let's start with her homeschooling.
From childhood to adulthood, her parents did not check her homework, nor did they urge her to write homework, hao Jingfang did not ask her parents when she encountered problems that would not, but in school to find a way to solve it herself.
When she was in elementary school, Hao Jingfang played with the children downstairs for a while after school, and after writing homework, watching cartoons and TV series, she saw more than ten o'clock.
Her parents never enrolled her in a training class, and her parents who chose a major in the college entrance examination also went with her without any intervention.
Hao Jingfang is somewhat similar to Yan Ning, both of which are learning gods who play until they fly.
Novels, comics, music, star chasing, spend only a lot more time on fun than their peers.
Yu Yanjie looked at the book list when she was a child and found that she had read all the comics I had read, and I had not been admitted to the school she had been admitted to.
belch......
Stocking does not mean that parents do not ask about their child's development.
Hao Jingfang's parents' education code is: good environment + barbaric growth.
The highest state of family education is that the child unconsciously changes his behavior and feels that all this is done by himself.
Hao Jingfang's parents' most successful booster is reading.
Like her father, Hao Jingfang can read "idle books" at home for 12 hours from morning to night, which is particularly happy.
Her later pursuit of literature, her pursuit of physics, and her pursuit of history all came from early reading.
Since Hao Jingfang was one or two years old, her mother had read her stories every day.
By the age of 4 or 5, her mother began to ask Hao Jingfang to read a passage by herself.
Unconsciously, by the first grade of primary school, Hao Jingfang could already read pure text storybooks independently.
In terms of reading, mothers mainly conform to their interests and do not insist on educational significance, and children who like fairy tales read all fairy tales.
After the first grade, her mother no longer interfered with Hao Jingfang's reading, not only in the choice of content, but even in reading or not reading, and reading a few books.
In the third grade of primary school, Hao Jingfang fell in love with "Juvenile Science Pictorial" and later read "100,000 Whys".
She read in the astronomical volume that every cubic centimeter of material above the neutron star needed ten thousand tons of giant ships to push.
"I was stunned. Everyone has a moment of dizziness in their life, and this is the moment of dizziness that makes me stunned. ”
The "Neutron Star Event" is hao Jingfang's breakthrough point in life, and it is her earliest glimpse of the vast universe.
She became obsessed with astrophysics and aspired to become a physicist at the age of 9.
In the 4th grade, the little girl began to like love stories.
Hao Jingfang started with comic strips and finished reading the original work of "Dream of the Red Chamber".
She read Christie, read brontë sisters, 5 books a day, ancient and modern Chinese and foreign popular novels make her sleep and forget to eat.
In the 5th grade of elementary school, Hao Jingfang discovered manga and martial arts, and rented all the rented bookstores on the street one summer.
The Rose of Versailles ignited her curiosity about the French Revolution, and Angel with the Corolla surprised her with the legendary and turbulent Renaissance, and used this as a guide to read a large number of related history books.
As she grew up, she read Lectures on the French Revolution, The Great Turning Point, The Roots of Romanticism, and The Age of Enlightenment, and became more and more aware of the strong appeal of economic history.
Later, Hao Jingfang chose to study for a doctorate in economics at Tsinghua University, which originated from the girl comics she read in elementary school.
In junior high school, not knowing whether he was influenced by Han Han or not, Hao Jingfang wrote some humorous satirical essays on reality, vowing to publish a bestseller in high school.
After her freshman year of high school, her reading taste improved again.
Márquez's superior, Calvino's light spirit, Romain Rolland's thickness, Borges's wisdom, George Orwell's cold solemnity, Salinger's subtlety, Heidegger's poetry, make the maiden feel deeply childish, ashamed of herself in front of the great master. She finally found really good literature.
At this point, the popular novels she read in junior high school became boring, and Shen Congwen and Zhang Ailing, the elegant old-fashioned literati, could no longer satisfy her appetite.
Including Yu Jie, who hao Jingfang liked very much when he was in junior high school, after his vision was raised, Hao Jingfang could see that his works had many flaws.
Since then, Hao Jingfang no longer chases the language of jittering wit, no longer cares about the obsession with the fame of the teenager, and she has a higher creative standard and life goal after seeing the light.
In her third year of high school, Hao Jingfang began to read quantum mechanics. Following this line, she read Bohr, Heisenberg, and Descartes.
She fell passionately in love with the philosophy of science and regarded Schrödinger as a true idol.
An essay by Schrödinger on the universe and consciousness allowed Hao Jingfang to experience a "moment of vertigo" after the "Neutron Star Event".
In Hao Jingfang's growth process, there has always been a lofty light in her heart, and examination is not her main goal.
These rays of light come from Márquez, Saia Berlin, Schrödinger, the great masters of human history and natural sciences.
Erudite speculation, light clouds, insight into the world, and washing away lead have become Hao Jingfang's life goals.
Hao Jingfang has been a child of someone else's family since she was a child.
She never targets exams, even for college entrance exams.
What she really yearns for is to understand the secrets of the universe, although she eventually failed to become her idol Schrödinger, but the accumulated knowledge is more than enough to cope with the college entrance examination.
Through reading, the framework and system of knowledge are established, and under the illumination of the brilliant light of the giants of the humanities, the fragments of knowledge are connected into an orderly pattern, and the learning process is no longer painful and boring, but full of excitement.
People think that the child admitted to Tsinghua is because of intelligence and hard work, but for Hao Jingfang, her understanding of the world is several dimensions higher than that of her peers, so it is a completely dimensionality reduction blow when pulling her back to the content of the test.
The test center for the exam is a small island in the ocean of knowledge, first see the ocean, and then learn the island, naturally do not feel laborious.
In Hao Jingfang's studies, she has never been sad because of her scores and exams, and she is sad that she cannot reach the thinking realm of idols.
It wasn't until she looked back at the age of 30 that she reconciled with this frustration.
If a person's dream is big enough, even if he only achieves 10% of the goal, it will be much better than the average person's performance.
At the age of 28, Hao Jingfang began to write "Beijing Folding".
At that time, she held the title of Tsinghua Doctor of Economics and interned at the International Monetary Fund, the unit was in the first phase of the International Trade Center, receiving international business celebrities every day, downstairs was a shop selling imported food and luxury goods, and she was like a successful person with high heels.
Her home is in the North Fifth Ring Road, surrounded by construction sites.
When she stayed up late at work, she could see the workers driving the cranes, and the vehicles that could only enter Beijing in the middle of the night to pull engineering materials.
In addition, there is a very large wholesale farmers' market downstairs, and it is very difficult for the children of small traders to attend kindergarten and primary school.
Every day from the home in the North Fifth Ring Road to the international trade center, it seems to cross the space, feeling a little magical.
Thinking about the world from a macro perspective, man is just a fraction of a number, but when you enter each individual, his life is his whole world.
So Hao Jingfang wrote a story.
In the story, Beijing is divided into three spaces.
The first space is inhabited by 5 million political and financial elites, the second space is inhabited by 25 million white-collar workers and middle class, and the third space is inhabited by 50 million poor people.
A poor garbage worker, old knife, in order to pay for his daughter's dance class tuition, did not hesitate to take the risk to cross the space to help people deliver letters.
The letter writer is a college student in the second space, he does not know that the first space he loves Bai Fumei has married the husband of the door, and paid to entrust the old knife to help him send a love letter.
It sounds like a desperate allegory, but after the novel was published, Hao Jingfang, who has been doing grassroots education, believes that education can penetrate structural social problems.
Looking at Hao Jingfang's growth background, in addition to superior talent, there are two points worth learning.
First, Hao Jingfang himself said: There must be light in the child's heart, and only when he has seen the best can he have a reference.
Don't be narrowly compared with the neighbors, but let the child feel the world's big and wise, so that he can have the courage to improve himself indefinitely.
Dream bigger, see a little farther, and it doesn't matter if you can't do it.
Even if you can't reach the end of the universe, it's better than just going to the end of the pond.
This light was established by a general education that read a lot of the humanities and enlightened at the same time.
Compared with cram schools and summer camps, reading is the cheapest and most effective weapon.
The second is what Yu Yanjie thought of herself: the child is a chaotic system, you can only be responsible for the supply, but you can't predict the output.
What does that mean?
For example, Hao Jingfang has read the girl comic "The Rose of Versailles", and I have also read it, but I have not expanded my interest in history like her.
For example, if you tell me how heavy the matter of neutron stars is, I am surprised that there will be no "dizzy moments" like Hao Jingfang.
The breakthrough point that happens to A children is often ineffective in B children, because the systems of A and B are not the same.
Therefore, you can't treat children with machine thinking - what I give you instructions, you have to output.
Instead, use chaotic thinking—you don't know which nerve that point will touch him, which part of cognition will interact with which part of experience.
Therefore, parents try to minimize blind intervention, good environment + barbaric growth, may be better than the laborious effect.
Hao Jingfang is rare in this kind of study, but as long as a child has internal drive and thinking ability, he will definitely be able to walk out of his own life path.
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