Many original partners will encounter similar problems after being cheated on, that is, men do not feel guilty about themselves after cheating.
On the contrary, it is the woman who intervened in other people's marriages and did Xiao San's guilt, saying all day that she was sorry for Xiao San and could not break up with Xiao San.
Why don't the cheating men feel sorry for the original match who has been married to him for many years, but feel sorry for Xiao San?
Tianshu used a real case of infidelity to tell the blow why cheating men have such a psychology.
This case is a cheating case that Tianshu solved at the beginning of this year, and the original Ms. Liu said that she was sorry for Xiaosan all day after finding out that her husband had cheated.
Ms. Liu and her husband have been married for sixteen years, have a daughter in junior high school, both of them are in public institutions, stable work, and good income.
But because Ms. Liu's mother-in-law always dislikes Ms. Liu after giving birth to only one daughter, she refuses to have a second child.
Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has not been good, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has not been resolved for a long time, which will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife.
At first, Ms. Liu's husband still stood on Ms. Liu's side, because having a child was discussed by two people.
After all, when they first started working, the salary was not high, and the burden of raising two children was relatively heavy for them.
The last two people have good economic conditions, the eldest daughter also went to junior high school, went to a private boarding school and did not need to be taken care of.
Under the nagging of her mother-in-law, her husband actually began to mention the birth of a second child with her, at this time Ms. Liu was over forty years old.
She was not in good health, she did not want to have a second child, and her daughter knew that her grandmother preferred sons to daughters and did not want a brother.
Ms. Liu felt that no matter from what aspect, it was not a good choice to have a second child, so she refused.
The two people constantly argued because of the problem of having a second child, coupled with the intervention of Ms. Liu's mother-in-law,
The relationship between the two people is getting worse and worse, and when the quarrel is serious, they will even throw things with their hands, because the daughter is not at home, and the two people are also unscrupulous.
Although Ms. Liu knows that the relationship between the two people is not as good as before, she feels that she is still a husband and wife, and she still has to continue to go on.
Her mother-in-law is almost seventy years old, her health is getting worse and worse, and it is estimated that she will not be able to mix it up for a few years.
I feel that when the mother-in-law is gone, the two people have no one to stir up trouble, and the relationship between husband and wife can naturally be restored.
As a result, she did not wait for her mother-in-law to do anything, her husband cheated first, cheated on an older unmarried woman,
After being discovered by Ms. Liu, she still refused to break up with Xiao San, saying that Xiao San and himself were true love, and xiao San's parents died and no one took care of them.
Also do not seek the position, but also promised not to have children, only to follow the cheating man, cheating man feels that he can not divorce and marry Xiao San, very guilty, naturally unwilling to break up.
Ms. Liu came to Tianshu and said that she heard her husband say that she was absolutely sorry for Xiao San's anger.
Being cheated on, betrayed is himself, cheating men do not feel guilty about themselves, but feel sorry for Xiao San?
Tianshu told him that there was a reason why a cheating man would have such emotions.
First of all, men have deep contradictions with their wives before they cheat, and the relationship is already very bad.
Judging from the situation that Ms. Liu said, before the cheating man cheated, he was because of the second child, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, etc.
And Ms. Liu got into a lot of trouble, and neither Ms. Liu nor the cheating man had the intention of trying to solve the problem.
And for these problems has been noisy, but the result of the quarrel, that is, the relationship between husband and wife is getting worse and worse,
So the cheating man will cheat, and the relationship between the husband and wife is broken, and he does not feel that his cheating is wrong.
You will also feel that your cheating is because the relationship between husband and wife is not good, and it is Ms. Liu and herself who have various contradictions, resulting in their own cheating.
Naturally, he would not feel guilty about the original, after all, he felt that he had cheated in his heart, and he was originally responsible.
Secondly, although the man cheated but did not want to divorce, he felt guilty for not being able to marry Xiao San because of the original match.
The vast majority of men who cheat do not want to divorce, because marriage involves too many interests, divorce is not just separated from the original match,
Therefore, even if the original match has no feelings, the cheating man will not divorce for his own benefit.
Especially like the cheating man in this case, he is a public institution, he cheated on him is a moral mistake,
If others know that he cheated and divorced, even if he will not be dismissed, it will also have an impact on later promotions and interpersonal relationships.
And according to the situation that Tianshu and Ms. Liu understand, the boss of the cheating man is still a woman, and the cheating man is even more afraid to let himself cheat out.
While not being cheated on themselves, most women see more than men being cheated on, and seeing cheating men is disgusting.
Therefore, the cheating man will never divorce Xiao San, and talk about true love with Xiao San, and naturally he will feel guilty about Xiao San.
To tell the truth, cheating men simply can't give up their interests for Xiao San, he doesn't even tangle, he directly decided not to divorce,
Even if he feels guilty about Xiao San and is good to Xiao San, he is not the so-called true love for Xiao San.
In the end, the little three hearts will be deep and will pull on the original match, and will pretend to be poor Bo to take out the guilt of the cheating man.
What Xiao San said after being with the cheating man, basically showing that he was very pitiful and needed to cheat on the man,
At the same time, it also stepped on the original match, not only to take out the guilt of the cheating man, so that the cheating man did not break up with himself,
Still laying the groundwork, pulling on the original match, so that the relationship between the cheating man and the original match is more deteriorated, in fact, I still want to ask for the upper position.
Therefore, Ms. Liu must understand why the cheating man feels guilty, and also see that the cheating man has no true love for Xiao San.
It is even more important to know that this small three is inconsistent in the future, do not let down your vigilance, and let the little three have an opportunity.
The original match is to drag the cheating man according to the expectations of the cheating man, and sign an agreement with the cheating man, as long as the little three do not take office and do not have children, they dare not,
If Xiao San had this thought, the cheating man would go out of the house, and the cheating man agreed, but Xiao San couldn't make a fuss.
Xiao San made a cheating man who naturally understood what Xiao San was thinking, and in a marriage, the most shrewd person is always the cheating man.
Wen Tianshu wanted to say, why do you feel guilty about Xiao San, and don't feel sorry for the original match?
It is the same situation as the husband of the original Ms. Liu in this cheating case, regardless of the psychology of the cheating man or The Little Three.
The original match wants to separate two people, both need to understand the analysis, in order to prescribe the right medicine and solve the extramarital affair.
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