An elder I respected said to me that in ten years' time, your perspective on the problem will be very different from what it is now. Of course I understand, because I look at things very differently now than I did ten years ago.
Ten years, long is not long, short is not short, if a person is in a serious life, there will inevitably be some skin perception of life. So the question is, if you return to singlehood with your current experience, are you still willing to marry your current husband/wife and spend your life together?
The first to ask my teacher, this goods survival desire is quite strong, without thinking to say, will! Then keep your head down and continue playing with your phone. I gave him a blank look and said, you are too insincere, is this question not worth your consideration for a minute?
Or it is already a very chicken thief who has seen through the essence of the problem - the heart strongly wants to change the wife and can do it, but it is just words, and the reality is that no one has changed it. For the sake of the quick tongue accidentally fell into the pit, annoying the woman, not worth it!
Or just be honest and don't need to think twice. One year after the teacher had just graduated, as an ignorant little young man, the unit organized to go to the Shanxi Imperial City Xiangfu to play, and was fooled into spending hundreds of pieces and burning an incense stick. I laughed at him, the value of your high incense burn, can you please my such a good wife without burning incense? The teacher died speechlessly, I had never seen such a porcelain to paste gold for myself...
Stop making fun of others, think about yourself. What about me?
The answer is that there is a chance that I will remain single and become unmarried. I don't believe in taking the word "marriage" apart to look at it. Now many post-90s and post-00s have chosen to lie flat and are unwilling to get married.
Think about it, feel cool, be a female bare stick, one person to eat the whole family is not hungry, put yourself in full vigor, work hard to earn silver, idle writing, boiling tea and flowers to cook to visit friends, thousands of rivers and mountains to travel, drift a lifetime, style a lifetime, romantic life. When I was young, I saved money every month, and when I was old, I lived in a nursing home facing the sea and the spring flowers bloomed.
Of course, it is just to think, imagination is always beautiful, with filters, filter out difficulties, leave beautiful alone. Who knows if a person alone can wade through the lonely river of the long years, whether he will be hungry and choose no food, whether he will choose a path, whether he will die suddenly in the dark night, whether there will be a senseless disaster... Sometimes we imagine ourselves as strong inside, but we may not be that strong.
So what if the rule of the world is that you have to get married?
If you have to get married, you should still marry this person! Sometimes I joke with the teacher, if we are divorced, I will not get married again, not how addictive you are, but to know a person, to understand a person, to run into a person, it is really a huge project, I don't want to toss it again.
Some people say that when getting married, you must find a trench, and you must be materially advantageous. This is also to see people's bar, if you are beautiful as a flower or a natural bone, have the capital to eat by the face, and can endure everything to do small volts low to the dust, back to a mother's house to see the face of the person to act, it is indeed understandable - the emotional price is also the price, there is no free lunch in the world.
I have a school bully class flower friends, and smart and intelligent, the precious thing is that, but also versatile, for the current children to draw, play the piano and sing that is not a thing, but for us after 85, puberty is barren, still in the material is not lacking, but the spiritual lack of period, such a beautiful and talented bully, is the goddess of god, chase people simply do not want too much, eat by the face is no problem, and finally did not choose a local tycoon, chose a spiritual fit boyfriend, although to work, but the husband knows how to care for people, The two guys had a great time. Things are clustered, and I would rather suffer from work than lick my face and reach out to ask people for money to spend. Reading is stupid, and there is a problem called bone qi.
No one is perfect, and although there are many shortcomings of teachers, I also have many problems. A pair of children Yuxue is cute, the teacher has love for the child, better than many widowed parenting families, but also willing to share the housework with me, very valuable.
May there be years to look back on, and to share a white head with peace.
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