The ancients said: "Holding a full foot, a gentleman is especially conscientious." "Guilt when you are frustrated is the root of the curse that is sown when you are proud. When successful and complete, gentlemen should be cautious and be humble.
Talking big, joking without a bottom line, venting emotions casually, and dismissively talking about life are often offensive behaviors.
And people with really high emotional intelligence have the goodwill of heart-to-heart, know how to be flexible, and can make people feel comfortable when they get along. The 9 details of high emotional intelligence socialization may you warm others and illuminate yourself.
There is a saying in the movie "Farewell to the Overlord": "Man, you have to become a child by yourself." Life is short, life is easy or awkward, and the decision is often in your own hands.
When you are young, your mind is immature, you always care about the evaluation of others, and when you can't get approval, you will feel extremely anxious and depressed.
Seeing the people around you living a better life, while you are still in the same place, this sense of loss comes instantly.
In order to be able to pursue the pace, you often lose your way, but all these efforts, in the end, are just to make yourself feel exhausted.
At the end of life, you will find that the so-called success is not how much power and money there is, but whether your soul is really free and joyful.
In this life, there is actually only one thing to do, and if you understand it, you are not tired, that is: to be yourself.
Life is not a game with others, and from the moment life begins, we are caught in a kind of comparison.
When I was a student, my grades were better than others; after graduation, my career was more stable than those around me; after I started a family, I had to have a happy family like everyone else.
However, the rhythm of everyone's life is different, and not everyone can do everything well in the prescribed time.
The reason why a person is unhappy is not because life is in trouble, but because it arises from comparison after comparison.
When you blindly hope that you are better off than others, once you do not do it, there will be a gap in your heart. In the end, what you experience cannot be happiness, but frustration.
Milan Kundera said: Live elsewhere. We often envy the lives of others and always feel that our own suffering is the most miserable. But this is not the case, and others also need to go through vicissitudes and tests.
In addition, you have something to be admired by others in the present, but you have never found it to exist, because your eyes are always elsewhere.
If you want to live contentment and happiness, you need to compare less, because life is not a game with others.
Everyone's ultimate destination is themselves, only by learning to do a good job and cherishing everything in the moment can we truly feel the preciousness and beauty of life.
There's a saying that goes: "Never compare people, everyone is different, it's important to find the differences that suit you." ”
We will always meet people who are better and smarter than ourselves, and there are also mountain peaks that you can't reach. Instead of longing for what you can't get, it is better to learn to let go and live your own life with a good attitude.
Those who can really do their own good, the inner world is usually more abundant, and they can also meet the beauty of life unexpectedly.
Be yourself, don't explain, don't compromise, don't budge, people's hearts are very complicated, even if you have given all sincerity, but there are still people who will slander you behind your back.
When you are twenty or thirty years old, you will be in a hurry to explain, hoping that the people around you will not misunderstand you.
However, the more explanations, the more tired, and to no avail. People who don't like you still don't like you. Dante once said, "Go your own way and let others say go." ”
Truly mature people will not waste time arguing with people who are not worthy, but will encourage themselves and try not to lose their strength when they encounter difficulties.
You will accept the current situation and move forward courageously, and eventually you can live the life you want.
In this world, there will always be people who like you, and there will always be people who don't like you, which is beyond our control, and the only thing we can do is to be ourselves and go our own way.
What others think, how to say, that is someone else's business, what do we need to care about? Only by doing yourself well can you meet love and happiness, life is like a drama, what kind of road you want to take depends entirely on yourself, just like a line in the movie "Head Text D":
"There's only one kind of success in this world, and that's to live your life the way you like." We may not be able to decide our own birth, but you can also live your ideal life by your own efforts.
Some girls, because of the relationship between the original family, have never been loved, so they are always very inferior to feelings, and they do not feel that they are worthy of being loved. When you live with too much pessimism, it is difficult to control your own life.
You have to understand that the past things cannot be changed, what kind of family you were born into, what kind of growth environment you were born into, these are all predestined.
But how to go forward, what kind of person you become in the future, and what kind of life you live in the future are completely up to you.
People live a lifetime, in fact, all they have to do is these four words: do yourself well. Suppose you are always blindly pursuing the understanding and approval of others, or spending time in comparison.
Then you will eventually live under bondage and pressure, and it is difficult to experience freedom and happiness. Life is only once, and being true to one's heart is a lifelong practice.
From now on, try to be yourself, throw away all the shackles of the world and be brave enough. Live your life the way you like, and that life is meaningful.
Schopenhauer said: "When talking to others, we must refrain from the impulse to correct others, even if we do so out of good intentions." Sometimes, when we find that someone's speech is wrong, we want to correct them.
As a result, what we exchanged was not the gratitude of the other party, but the disgust of the other party. Sometimes, not correcting other people's mistakes is a rare self-discipline.
Those who do not correct the "knowingly committed" statement, some people's remarks, clear-eyed people can see that it is wrong, but they are still "righteous." ”
When we correct their mistakes, they will "mess around" with us to prove their "correctness." If we are deluded by their "sophistry", then they will be even more unscrupulous;
Conversely, if we argue that they are "dumb," they will tear off their masks and shamelessly say, "I was wrong, but I'm going to say that."
"When they take off their masks and they do things, they get even more carefree. As the saying goes: "People don't have faces, the world is invincible." "That's the kind of person who said it.
Therefore, in the face of people who knowingly commit crimes, there is no need for us to correct their mistakes. In fact, such a person belongs to "rotten wood can not be carved also." For such people, in addition to punishing them to restrain a little, no matter how clever the truth is, it will not make them change.
If we do not correct the "innocuous" things, the root cause of many people's pain lies in the mistakes of those who are not accustomed to being close. So, with the greatest enthusiasm, they tried to correct each other. As a result, when the other party discovers their "intention" to correct, they often have the psychology of resistance.
The ancients said: "There is nothing in the world, and the mediocre people disturb themselves." "A lot of times, in life, there aren't so many things worth our more real things.
If the mistakes of the people close to you are harmless, then the mistakes are wrong, so why must we force the other party to correct them? Everyone has their own way of life.
If a certain way of life is completely correct, but it does not bring happiness to oneself, then how much value is correct?
Conversely, if a certain way of life, although flawed, is harmless and can also make yourself happy, then why not choose?
So-called: "When the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people are aware, there is no vain." "Accommodating the insignificant shortcomings of others is not only to let go of oneself, but also to tolerate others, why not enjoy it?"
Those who do not correct "ignorance" are ridiculed by "playing the piano to the cow" as stupid as cattle. In fact.
Although the cow is stupid, is the person who knows that the other party is a "cow" and still plays the piano not be stupid? Truly wise people will not argue with the "cow" about right and wrong, because there is no point.
Some people have a sense of intellectual superiority, so they are always keen to correct the mistakes of others, to highlight their own intelligence, and look forward to the worship of "cattle".
The result? Often, not only do they not get the worship of the "cow", but because the "cow" cannot understand their "theory", or "laughs", or "resents".
Those who stand out from the crowd are often besieged by the flock. People who are really smart tend to stop at the point. If the other party does not understand, it will not force it.
The other party does not understand, or because of poor qualifications, so it is futile to talk more; or because of lack of experience, it is difficult for them to appreciate the connotation, and when the time comes, they will naturally understand.
Lao Tzu said, "The sergeant hears the Tao and acts diligently; the Sergeant hears the Tao, if he survives; the Corporal hears the Tao, laughs." ”
That is to say, "When the sergeant hears the Tao, he will try to practice it; when the Sergeant hears the Tao, he will believe it and be suspicious; when the sergeant hears the Tao, he will laugh." Wise men tend to preach the Word to the sergeant and the sergeant, but as for the corporal, they are not forced.
The right and wrong in this world are sometimes relative, and they are wrong from our point of view, and perhaps from another angle, they become right again.
Only when a person maintains humility at all times and maintains the mentality of "gentlemanly and often passes", can he constantly improve himself.
The Cai Gen Tan says: "He who abides in morality is lonely for a while; he who is powerful in Yi'a is desolate for eternity." "To engage in moral education, we need to regard benevolence, righteousness, and wisdom as the basic spiritual food for purifying and optimizing people's hearts."
"Virtue: Love and benevolence", in society, life cannot be without morality, and people without morality are difficult to walk. To walk on the right path on earth, we should cleanse our spirits and return our spirits to the highest good.
There is no perfect person in the world, everyone is imperfect, we should not be too harsh on ourselves, blindly pursue perfection, because imperfect, we will work hard, will fight.
We all want to show others our sunny, positive, and beautiful side, and suppress our negative, dark side. But the more you try to suppress these bad things, the more it will be revealed to everyone.
There are always people who feel that they are not good enough, without the beauty of stars, without the wealth of entrepreneurs, without the wisdom of scientists.
But gold is not barefoot, no one is perfect, we must learn to evaluate ourselves objectively, admit our own advantages, and accept our shortcomings.
A good life should be pursued, but not too demanding. Be kind to yourself, tolerate yourself, and live a natural pattern and demeanor.
In the words of "University", "The way of the university is in Mingmingde, in the people, and in the ultimate goodness." The highest good is virtue. Virtue is simple, very pure, but it must be loving to be virtuous. With love and compassion, this is benevolence. By extension, virtue is the enrichment of benevolence, righteousness, wisdom, and faith in our spirit and behavior.
Man has three kinds of life, the first natural life, that is, life, old age, illness and death; the second social life, that is, success or failure, noble and poor; and the third spiritual life, which is our joys and sorrows.
As a social life, we must abide by the normal way of society and shoulder our responsibilities, in Confucian terms, the way of kings, fathers and sons, and husbands and wives.
If our benevolence, righteousness, wisdom, and faith are filled in the heart and released into society, it is called virtuous. Benevolence is love, benevolence loves others, and benevolence and love are often one.
What is righteousness in which "righteousness", "etiquette" and "wisdom" are integrated? "It is advisable to know righteousness." Appropriate means that it is appropriate, there are measures and rules, so together, it is called righteousness.
How can we make everything we do measured? Be appropriate. If we are out of proportion and do not pay attention to proportions, we leave the word "righteousness." What is etiquette? "Reason is etiquette", reason is etiquette.
If there is no distinction between dignity and inferiority, between men and women, between the elderly and the young, and the harmonious rules established by it, the society will be chaotic. But this ritual must be based on reasonableness, and unreasonableness is rudeness.
People who understand etiquette must be reasonable. How to make harmony between the top and the bottom, left and right, inside and outside? It is by reasonable etiquette, and unreasonable etiquette is called indecent. What is wisdom? "Wisdom", wisdom is to reach without hindrance.
A wise man who does not take care of even the little things of the world is not worthy of being called a wise man. Chinese medicine often says that "the general rule is not painful, the pain is not clear", which place does not work, you must ask the doctor to open the meridians, and the five elements will run without hindrance.
Driving in Beijing and Guangzhou, traffic jams are commonplace, and everyone hopes that the road should be open. The river channel should also be clear. The imperial court hoped that the government decree should be passed, and if the government decree did not work, "the king's order would not go out of Gyeonggi", then the country would be almost the same.
There are too many troubles in society, and it is also because the interests of all aspects have not been dredged. Who will dredge it? A ruler with great wisdom. When the boss wants to be rich, he also needs great wisdom.
The causes and conditions of the various aspects, the priorities, and the relationships of the various aspects must be taken care of. Not only from the front, but also from the opposite; not only from the inside, but also from the outside.
Everything is harmonious and unhindered. Wisdom is unimpeded, and true wisdom is unimpeded in the face of spiritual troubles. As people who survive in society, we must manage these crises through our own wisdom and make our career and destiny unhindered.
Where does wisdom come from? The ancient Chinese sages left us with many books that opened up wisdom. These books are divided into two aspects: one is to open the body of wisdom, the sincerity, is the door to the path, and the other is the technical, is the specific method strategy. Only by understanding the relationship between Taoism and Technique and taking care of both can we be invincible in the world.
"Keep your word." At present, the people are very dissatisfied with the issue of social integrity and the relationship of integrity between people.
How many people among friends have actually achieved "faith"? How many people between husband and wife have achieved "faith"? Is there really "faith" between superiors and subordinates? So, this "letter" is a big article.
To believe is to keep a promise. I deal with people around me with absolute integrity. What I promised, I must keep my promise.
Many people do not keep their faith, causing misunderstandings, contradictions, and even hatred between friends. Some people are very bright, like-minded, and very proud, and they often make promises lightly.
As the saying goes, "a light promise must be a little faith", can a person who makes a light promise keep his promise? Not necessarily. With regard to trustworthiness, commitment itself requires wisdom, and promises cannot be made beyond the radius of one's own ability.
Sticking to morality is the duty of being a human being, how to keep your moral bottom line? Benevolence, righteousness, and wisdom, I dare not ask for extravagance. If you want me to donate love, donate 100 million yuan to the disaster area, I don't have such an ability. If I want to be righteous and cloudy, like Song Jiang, when it rains in time, I don't have this ability.
If I had to strategize and win thousands of miles away, I still didn't have the ability to do so. But in life, I can keep my word, and the basic foothold of being a person is there.
How can I have my own integrity? Ancient China was known as the state of etiquette, and the basic point of the state of etiquette was trustworthiness. If there is no faith, there is no shame.
The trouble is that now many people are not ashamed, shameless, how to keep his word? Some people say this today, say that tomorrow, forget it in a few days, or simply don't admit any promise.
This is not a gentleman, but the work of a villain. Therefore, I have repeatedly advocated the revival of the ancient Chinese spirit of the scholar, and the core of the spirit of the scholar is to abide by benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith.
Officials have the spirit of a soldier, and officials deserve well. Without this opportunity, you can't be an official or get rich, so it's better to be a hermit. Nowadays, there are no conditions for being a hermit, and you can't afford to buy a villa in the mountains, so you can be a cold man in the city.
It's just a little poor, but I'm moral. As the Cai Gen Tan says: "Those who abide by morality are lonely for a while; those who are powerful in Yi'a are desolate for eternity." The master looks at things outside the object, thinks about the body behind him, and prefers to suffer the loneliness of the moment, rather than the desolation of eternity. ”
This is the work of the Han soldiers, we must have such a backbone, and keep the faith of benevolence, righteousness, and wisdom, especially the bottom line of "faith". To carry out moral education, it is necessary to talk about these things, and it is necessary to regard benevolence, righteousness, and wisdom as the basic spiritual food for purifying and optimizing people's hearts.
There is an old Chinese saying: "Life and death have a destiny, and wealth is in the sky." There is also an old saying: "Destiny is self-reliant, and blessing is self-seeking." These two old sayings, which seem contradictory, actually reflect the Taoist view of "cultivating virtue and persuading goodness" that the Chinese nation has followed to the present.
Tiandao is the core of Chinese thought. The ancients believed in "heaven and man induction" and "the unity of heaven and man", and people's good and evil deeds were closely related to people's blessings and misfortunes, and the fate of life, which were reflected in the operation law of the Heavenly Dao.
The I Ching says, "The house of good deeds will have a remnant of celebration; and the house of the unkind will have a remnant of disasters." Shang Shu Zhou Shu Yun: "The Emperor has no relatives, but virtue is an auxiliary." The Tao Te Ching Yun: "The Heavenly Dao has no relatives, and is always with good people." ”
Man's fate has the side of "destiny and destiny", but more fate is still in the hands of man himself. Good and evil are rewarded, and the cycle of cause and effect is the way of heaven and the way to change the destiny of life.
The Taishang Induction Chapter says: "There is no way out of misfortune, but people call themselves." "To do good is to accumulate blessings, and to do evil is to bring misfortune." Good is rewarded with good, evil is rewarded with evil, and misfortune is not at all unpleasant.
Fate is not static, as long as a person has a kind heart, sends good thoughts, does more good deeds, and accumulates yin gong, he can change his fate and usher in a new life.
There is a story in the Qing Dynasty work "Sitting on Flowers and Zhiguo": There was once a teenager whose family was very poor. Preparing to go to Beijing to take the exam, a Xiangshi who was proficient in divination told him that he would die before the White Dew Festival.
The teenager plans to give up the exam. His friend Wang Sheng, whose family was wealthy and who was rich in righteousness and wealth, strongly persuaded him to go along, and gave him ten gold as a place to settle down and be entangled on the road.
When the two arrived in Jinling, they heard that there were Xiangshi at Cheng'en Temple, and the calculation was extremely accurate, so they asked a total of six candidates living together to see the photo together. Xiang Shi said nothing wrong with the past of the six people.
He also said that one of the six people could win the list, and the rest did not. When it was the turn of the teenager, the Xiangshi said, "You look dry and floating, and the obscure patterns in the heavenly court have appeared, and you should die within five days." You should hurry home, I'm afraid it's too late. The teenager packed his bags and went home. Wang Sheng took pity on him, paid for the ship he hired, and gave him another ten gold.
Four days passed in the blink of an eye, the teenager was bored, went ashore for a walk, saw a middle-aged pregnant woman, with three children, crying while walking, the teenager asked the woman what happened?
The woman said that she was unfortunately married to a violent husband, and today she sold pigs for ten gold, but was accidentally deceived by the buyer with copper. If the husband knew, he would definitely kill her, horizontal and vertical is dead, it is better to take these children into the river and commit suicide.
The teenager listened and thought to himself that he was dying, what was the use of these ten gold? He quietly swapped the woman's copper and said to the woman, "You are real gold, how can it be copper?" The woman found the silver house, verified that it was real gold, thanked the teenager and went home.
The teenager wanted to return to the cabin, but he got lost in the middle of the way, and as it got late, he lay down under the eaves of an ancient temple and fell asleep. In the haze, the teenager saw that the main hall was brightly lit, and Emperor Guan sat in front of the case.
Emperor Guan said: "Today someone on the riverside saved five lives, and this person should be found out and rewarded with blessings." The purple-clad official replied, "This man's official duties and lives are exhausted." He should be crushed by a wall under the corridor of this temple tonight.
Emperor Guan said, "If this is the case, how can we persuade people to be good?" The lucidity should be changed. Yesterday, Wenchang Palace informed that jiangnan xieyuan was one in this autumn test.
If he was removed for adultery with a maid, he was asked to fill the vacancy. Someone on the side said: "His money was given by Wang Sheng, and Wang Sheng's light wealth and righteousness made this man fruitful." Wang Sheng should also be named Lu. "Emperor Guan's quasi-wang students were fifty-three in the undergraduate examination.
The young man was listening to the answer from the temple, and someone in his ear called for him to go fast, and when the teenager woke up, he had just taken a few steps when the wall fell violently. In this year's scientific examination, the teenager really understood the yuan, and Wang Sheng also passed the examination. The following year, the two entered Hanlin together.
Lü Zu said: "Both good and bad have results", "Good, good and evil, retribution should be clear." If Ru cultivates goodness, his descendants prosper; if ru does evil, his descendants wither away. ”
The fate of a person's life, good fortune and misfortune, are all caused by the cause and effect of one's own good and evil. The speed of change in fate is sometimes between the thoughts of good and evil of man, and the Taishang Induction Chapter says: "The heart of the husband arises from goodness, and although the good has not been done, the auspicious god has followed; or the heart has tended to be evil, and although the evil has not been done, the fierce god has followed."
Doing good deeds and accumulating virtue is the seed of all blessings in the world and the opening method of life's destiny. Knowing cause and effect, doing good deeds, and accumulating yin and virtue can change fate. Buddha Weiyun: "Mo Doubt Ji De Tian is gone, and he will look back in an instant after a hundred years; mo doubt that cause and effect are not seen, far away from the children and grandchildren."
The Way of Heaven rewards good and punishes evil, and the retribution is evident, and the goodness of one millimeter is convenient for others; the evil of one millimeter is advised not to be done. Persisting in accumulating virtue and doing good, there will be "the so-called good man, respected by everyone, blessed by the way of Heaven, followed by blessings, far away from evil, and guarded by gods."
The miraculous effect of what is done will be accomplished, and the gods and immortals can hope for the miraculous effect, the Guan Emperor blessed "blessings to increase longevity, add children and benefit grandchildren, reduce disasters and reduce diseases, do not invade disasters, characters Xianning, auspicious stars shine on", a good life, and a long blessing.
The ancients said, "A gentleman is alone and upright." This means that even if a person is unsupervised, he will never have crooked thoughts and bad ideas.
In life, there are always some bottom lines that cannot be crossed. If you can't control your desires and take the wrong road, sooner or later you will have to accept punishment in life.
Bending the meaning and making people happy, not as if bowing straight and making people jealous, without goodness and making people famous, not without evil and causing destruction.
Instead of making others unhappy, it is better to be hated by others for speaking out of righteousness, rather than being praised by others for not doing good things, and it is better to be slandered by people for not doing bad things.
In life, we always seek perfection, even if we are humble, but we may not be exchanged for the good looks of others, it is better not to be wronged and seek perfection, because it is a very normal thing to be hated, but how we face this matter squarely.
Sometimes, we may not be able to see the disgust of others, in fact, disgusting a person is very simple, sometimes it will appear on the face, and sometimes it can be seen clearly by getting along with him.
Like is to like, dislike is not to like, often this is very direct, we have more or less hated people in life, in fact, your commission can not be exchanged for the likes of others.
Since this is the case, we should learn to be ourselves, it is better to help others with more righteous words, and there is no need to seek perfection and wronged ourselves.
Life is short, the path we have taken is what we take every step of the way, don't care too much, care too much, it will only make people anxious.
A person is an independent individual, we can not cater to everyone, then do not cater to others, more to cater to ourselves.
The path taken by a gentleman will naturally have villains around him, and how to prevent these villains, as long as they do not pay attention to them.
Everyone has their own personality, according to their own personality to develop naturally, or choose their own future work, do not cater to others, do not humble love others, learn to listen to their own hearts, do not lose themselves too much.
Man, born free, is bound up in chains; for every man has his own limitations and is also influenced by his own three views.
Man always lives in the depths of the waters, and also lives between right and wrong; because no one can be unaffected by the surrounding environment, let alone exist apart from the world.
People are selfish, because people will always be blinded by lust and impulsively make inappropriate choices.
Therefore, it is often "man, see the benefit but not the harm; the fish, see the food without seeing the hook." "Just so-called: bustling, all for the sake of profit; no profit and no early.
Therefore, to be a person, we must understand human nature and respect people's hearts; we must do things in accordance with the heavens and take advantage of the situation; so that we can achieve more with less! Willing to suffer losses, will suffer losses, losses are blessings! So, what kind of conditions do you need to have for a wise life?
If you do a good job in advance, things will go well; but if you want to be a good person, it is not an easy task, so you must do it: know yourself, and then you can know people; governors, and then you can change.
Confidant is to know yourself, to know your own strengths and weaknesses and disposition, in order to be targeted, to deal with it properly, and to accept it freely.
Governors, the size of things, successive and difficult, also have their own development laws and essences, and then act in accordance with the development law of things, in order to smooth sailing, to achieve the effect of half the effort!
To be a man, we must be self-reliant, humble, quiet can produce wisdom, good is like water, and virtuous is loaded; this is the great wisdom of life!
Be a person in advance, people do a good job, things will go smoothly! To be a person, we must first strive for self-improvement, in order to be full of fighting spirit, perseverance, until success! Because there is a pursuit, there will be a way; as long as you are on the road, you will be full of hope!
To be a man, we must be wise and foolish, and be humble; we must be able to realize that suffering losses is a blessing, and dare to suffer losses first; if we want to gain something, in addition to giving up, we must maintain an open mind, lower our posture, accept new things, and not accumulate and flow, so that we can become great.
Only by being a person, putting oneself in the right position, and adjusting one's mentality can we see the truth clearly. If you lift yourself too high, others may not look up to you; if you put yourself too low, others may not respect you; no one is perfect, and there is no need to cover up your own shortcomings.
To be a person, you must be able to look up, and you must be able to bow your head. Between one look up and one down, it is not only a posture, but also an attitude and a quality. Be yourself, play your own signboard, light up the surrounding light, illuminate others, and illuminate your own money!
Where there is a pursuit, there is a way; on the road, it is full of hope! To do things, it is not a hot mind to solve the problem of dividing three by five; but according to the development law of things, step by step, in order to conform to the trend and achieve the goal.
Do anything, you can't go against the trend, do something that violates the law of the development of things, otherwise, you will be hit in the head and bleed, and you will achieve nothing.
To do things wisely, we must first understand the development law of things and understand the essence of things; and then follow the development trend of things to do things, which is the principle of correct work.
Know what it is, know why it is so, and then go with the flow! Doing things ,️ wisely must be able to maintain inner peace and quiet, and only those who have strength are people. When the heart is impetuous, if you can keep your mind calm and calm, calm and self-assured, can not hear the noise and noise of the outside world, you will not lose your rashness in dealing with the world, and every time you face a big event, you will have a calm atmosphere, so as to be a demeanor for everyone.
Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards doing things, have the courage to act, have the courage to practice, make appropriate responses and adjustments according to the practice situation, and at the same time practice summary, sublimate into their own unique skills, and become their own personality and brand.
To do things wisely is to think of it, to determine it, and to act immediately; to act is to prove whether it is useful or not; to act is to have results.
Society is a real society, people are real people, and real people in real society must face real problems and real life. As a result, different people have different styles of dealing with the world and their own ideal choices.
Human nature is very selfish, people's hearts are unpredictable, people in things, people in things, are full of their own calculations and conflicts of interest, there are also endless people's feelings, so it is necessary to be calm and flexible in dealing with the world; when it should be low-key, it should be low-key, and when it should be broad, it should be broad.
In dealing with the world, sometimes we should treat people with leniency and sometimes they should be treated severely; when dealing with people who are self-conscious and honest, we may as well give him freedom and let them play; and we should be cautious in dealing with people who steal and slip, so as to "prevent problems before they happen." As the saying goes: the heart of harming people must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without.
Bustling, all for the sake of profit! Insight into the world is learned, human sentiment is the article; you just have to do a good job, be kind to others, as long as the heart is good, then let people comment on it!
It is a blessing to suffer losses, and it is better to suffer losses first, because people always like to take advantage, and because many people do not like to pay first and believe in others. Therefore, we can win the trust of others, be a long-term partner, and do lasting cooperation.
Be a down-to-earth person, do things in a down-to-earth manner; be sincere and friendly to people, be serious and responsible for things; be a person with a heart, be a reliable person, and be a responsible person.
Respect people's cultural attributes, examine human nature, and make good use of people's hearts! Change, starting from the heart, starting from the present; where the heart is, where the opportunity is; people with hearts, the sky is not worthy, lying down to taste the guts, three thousand Yue Jia can swallow Wu!
Change, starting from being a person, starting from doing things; being yourself, becoming the person you want to be, and doing what you want to do beautifully; those who have aspirations, things are accomplished, breaking the cauldron, the hundred and two Qin Guans are finally Chu! It is rare to be confused, willing to give, let go, follow the fate, you will be at ease!
There is an ancient saying: "To know one does not have to exhaust one's words, one has no friends; one who rebukes one does not have to be harsh, and one who is harsh is far away; one who respects one does not have to be humble, and one who is humble is less boneless." ”
Knowing that people do not speak, they can see through but not say broken; they are not harsh in rebuking others, leaving room for others; respecting others is not humble, and their posture should not be humble or profane. Doing things as a person, just right, in order to make others feel comfortable, but also let yourself live freely.
The "I Ching" tells us: Tianxingjian, a gentleman who strives for self-improvement, and a gentleman who is rich in virtue!
To be a human being, we must imitate heaven and earth, in order to go with nature, to reach the realm of the unity of heaven and man, and to achieve what we want! Being a generous person does not suffer losses, because people's hearts are good, and most of them are grateful!
Man, born between heaven and earth, is to replace heaven and earth, to act for heaven and earth, to be virtuous in the world, and to moisten all things! Therefore, to be a person, we must be generous; we must be altruistic in doing things!
Tianxingjian, a gentleman who keeps improving himself! What is Houdao? If you want to be a generous person, you must first understand: what is thick? Only then can you be generous, and then act with kindness!
Kindness is the conscience of dealing with people; only by treating others kindly, others will be grateful and kind to us; that is, the so-called "what you give, you will reap"!
Kindness is the cost of gaining the trust of others; the trust of others in you is a resource and a scarce capital; and the lasting role of thick is to gain trust.
Being a person, only with a kind heart, no matter at any time, can make people feel at ease, so as to get the support of others, but also let you earn more wealth, become a trustworthy person.
Terrain Kun, gentleman with thick virtue! Be a kind person, be a kind person, and really treat everyone you meet.
Whether it is a gentleman or a villain, whether it is rich or poor, rich or lowly, they must treat them with the same kindness, so that they can be cherished and favored by others!
Only by doing things in a thick way can people be recognized; good people are not created in a day, but are precipitated by doing good deeds for a long time and treating others well.
When you treat people with kindness, everyone is willing to associate with you; when you have the support of many people, you can have a smooth career.
Virtue carrier, Deze world! To be a kind person, when encountering difficulties in people, he will lend a helping hand and do his best to help others solve their difficulties in time; when he sees people fail, he will not fall into the well, and he is willing to extend a friendly hand and help others.
Such people, their blood flowing with kindness and compassion, so when helping others get out of trouble, they will make true friends and will also let themselves get more good luck. As the saying goes: charcoal in the snow is better than icing on the cake; suffering sees the truth is also!
Be a generous person, cooperate with people, know how to give people profits; do things with altruistic thinking, serve people with a service attitude; know how to make money, share more with people, rather than eat alone; such people, like a win-win situation, is the ideal object that everyone wants to cooperate with, so they can always get the protection of people's hearts, and will inevitably achieve great success. It is called: those who help others, people help them; those who win the hearts of the people win the world!
Those who help others, people help them; those who win the hearts of the people win the world! Be kind and altruistic. If a person lives for a lifetime, he must be a kind person.
An altruistic person; because kindness is the greatest wealth of being a person and the capital to accomplish things; altruism is the key to winning people's hearts and winning cooperation.
The old saying goes: Virtue can carry things, which means that those who are virtuous and noble can carry all things, benefit all things without harm, so they can achieve a brilliant life. That is, the thickness is your greatest capital and the basis for success.
To be a man, you must be generous; because you are kind and kind, you are often: you would rather suffer losses yourself than deceive others; you would rather suffer losses yourself than take advantage of others. Because they always believe that suffering losses is a blessing, and those who help others help them!
Only those who are generous can carry all things, benefit all things without harm! As a person, only with a good reputation, can you stand tall in front of people, and be respected, trusted and supported by people everywhere, so that you have the capital to settle down.
Do things with kindness; never do things that hurt others for your own benefit. Because only by doing things with kindness can you gain the trust of everyone, and the road under your feet can be better; because those who benefit others are the real self-interest.
As a human being in this life, we must be a kind person and an altruistic person. Use kindness to be a person, gain the respect of people, and harvest people's hearts; use thick way to do things, gain trust, and gain support; in this way, you can win good connections for yourself and help yourself embark on the road to success.
Those who benefit others are the real self-interested. Therefore, being generous and doing things altruistically is the foundation of establishing one's life and settling one's life, and the Great Law of accomplishing things; it is the so-called: thick virtue carrier, Virtue world!
Change, starting from the heart, starting from the present; where the heart is, where the action is, where the hope is waiting for you!
There are too many things, after all, things outside the body.
Life is short, there is no need to expect things you don't have, and there is no need to reach out and touch those things that are out of reach.
It's yours, no one can take it away, no, it can't be fought over. The deeper the world, the more people understand that it is yours that is yours after all, and those who are not yours will eventually leave, rather than this, it is better not to argue.
What do people fight for in this life? Scrambling, sadness, struggle, and a hundred years later, it will be all floating clouds.
In the world, the most disturbing word is contention. Some people always like to compare all the time, secretly compete, can't see, can't put down, can't calm down. In the end, the fight was won, the character was lost; the fight was lost, and the mood was bad.
Red dust is too much trouble, too much disturbance, only without controversy, can we be at ease in the world. Not arguing is not giving up, it is knowing where to work hard and doing what to do with your heart.
Whether a person is blessed or not depends entirely on his or her attitude towards life. Be a man, do not fight, do not grab, the best life.
Be a man, don't fight, gain or loss is doomed. The reason why people live tired is because there are too many comparisons and too many struggles.
In fact, why bother? Whatever you lose, don't lose your good mood. Grasp your heart and let your mind be pure, white, and quiet.
Because what you're going to get, and when you're going to get it, everything has been arranged long ago. I am blessed, but I am lost. Man, down-to-earth, no contention, no robbery, good fortune to transport.
Both have divine arrangements, and there is really no need to deliberately compete. Whether it is in life or work, we must avoid too much competition with others, so as not to affect our mood.
People fight for profit when they see it, human nature becomes evil, good fortune is far away, and disasters follow. Don't argue or grab, but you win, win to a calm and calm mood, and win to the years of unashamed conscience.
People should not be too greedy, let everything follow fate, do not argue, do not rush, this is a kind of great wisdom.
Being human, being indifferent, is a blessing. Truly mature people, know that the struggle is the biggest struggle, this is the highest state of life, is the source of inner happiness and happiness.
Learn to reconcile with yourself, but also learn to reconcile with others, learn not to argue, but also learn not to grab, how fate arranges to try to accept in this way, then life will be much less unpleasant.
Calculating gains and losses all day long, fighting with others all day long, and doing things publicly, this kind of person is often not favored by good luck. On the contrary, if you do not argue or grab, and live the life in front of you, you will be a little less depressed, your mood will become relaxed and happy, and you will naturally become a blessed person.
Being a person should still look down a little, look at a little, and do not force everything. People who do not argue and do not grab are actually relatively good at losing losses, and they are also prone to suffer losses, but suffering losses is a blessing.
Merit and fame, success and achievement, are just things outside the body, there is nothing to argue about, nothing to grab. Isn't it good to let yourself simply do what you want to do and live the life you want to live.
For the rest of your life, to be a quiet and indisputable person, Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching" said: "The good is like water, and the water is good and profitable without dispute." Husbands are indisputable, so there is no special. ”
In this life, in just a few decades, people do not compete for what they want, do not luxury what they do not have. When people reach middle age, there is no dispute that it is the morality and cultivation of people in the world. Yang Dai said: "I don't argue with anyone, and I don't care about who I fight with. ”
Fate sometimes has to have it, and fate must not demand it at any time. Be a person who does not argue or grab, gain calmly and lose indifferently, look away, look down, do not argue, do not grab, you win. If the heart does not move, the wind is not there; if the heart is sunny, it is meaninglessly sad; if the smile is warm, the years are unharmed."
Be a person who does not fight, treat others with a tolerant heart, do not argue, do not occupy or count, and use a natural attitude to live a life of peace with the encounter.
In life, the body is covered, gathered in heaven and earth, and received by parents. For most people, living in a society where we are on the run for a living, we are used to spending every day in a hurry at a rapid pace. Rush out in the morning and return tired at night.
Unconsciously ignoring the people around you, and even ignoring yourself. Although there are many things I want to do, for the sake of work and life, no matter what dreams and wishes I have, I have to put them aside. Sometimes when I look back, I can't help but sigh how many good times I have missed.
People's life is only a few decades, and the longevity is only a hundred years. An ordinary leather bag can't withstand too many wind swords and frost swords, nor can it withstand too many tosses.
How to be kind to yourself is a topic that people have always paid attention to. To be kind to yourself, you must know yourself and understand yourself thoroughly. No matter who you are, whether you are a great sage or a common man, no matter where you live, whether you live in the height of the temple or far away from the rivers and lakes.
Whether it's like a towering mountain or like an inconspicuous stone, you are a unique being. As long as there is a value of its own existence, it should be cherished.
Yes, there are many helplessnesses in people's lives, there are many injustices, and fate is not only not as good as they hope.
Sometimes, they will inadvertently throw themselves in an unsatisfactory pit, give their energy to the desolate air, and make great efforts to achieve the realm that others have spent a minute (or even not a point) to achieve.
Some people have been bullied and wronged because they grow in the shade of a green shade without a big tree, and they don't even have a person or place to talk to. Once you go the wrong way and get lost, no one will give you guidance, but you will fall into the well.
Things are just like that, one by one, concretely and chaotically wrapped around you, torturing you, making you stalk in your heart, as if swallowing iron and indigestible. To these people, all ideals seem to be only dreams, and all good things seem out of reach.
I remember a book called "Be Kind to Yourself", which said: "How beautiful the world you live in is, while enjoying this beautiful world, you must be kind to yourself."
This word reminds us how to cherish ourselves and cherish everything around us, others can be sorry for you, but you can't be sorry for yourself.
Being good to yourself and cherishing yourself is the most basic requirement. As the saying goes, there is nothing more terrible in the world than living in one's own shadow.
Moreover, it is impossible for society to be just for everyone. Being kind to yourself is not the same as letting yourself go. People who indulge themselves will get happiness for a short time, but they will also lose more opportunities for development because of short-sightedness.
A person who can feel warmth and love can actively develop himself. If you can't get a breakthrough for a long time, people may lose their way and even do some extreme behavior.
Whenever this happens, we should think more about and analyze the environment and our own reasons, and not lack confidence in ourselves or in the future. Only in this way can you be worthy of yourself.
If we live in lament all day, opportunity will pass us by in the midst of complaining, and energy will pass with us at the same time. All these unsatisfactory things form part of our lives, and we can't get rid of them, and we can't push them away.
No matter how difficult the situation is, how bitter and miserable it is, as long as we can truly appreciate the dignity and hard-won nature of life, understand the value of existence, we will be touched by our own hearts, we will sincerely feel how beautiful it is to live well, and we will treat ourselves with righteousness.
If you don't lose yourself and are working tirelessly, you should stick to it and spend more time planning for the present and the future. If you blindly blame yourself, you will only wear away your sharpness and make yourself achieve nothing.
Maybe people's lives will have a lot of helplessness, always feel that the mountains fall, rely on the flow of water, no one to help themselves, all day long hard, the harvest is always less than others.
When misunderstood by others, wronged, but can not find the right person to talk to. I went in the wrong direction, lost myself and no one paid attention to it, thinking that I was an "unlucky egg".
All the beauty has nothing to do with oneself, all the dreams are so unattainable to oneself, often lamenting the shortness of life, thus breeding many extreme ideas.
It would be great if you regard your dreams as a precious treasure to train yourself, as a "negative grace" given to you by God, and as a force for self-salvation.
Because we can experience the dignity of being human beings and understand the meaning of living, we can fully realize the value of our own existence.
The confidence established from the heart will make you moved, you will sincerely feel how beautiful life is, you will unload all the spiritual load, and be kind to yourself.
The ancients said, "The heart is hard and the heart is restless." "In real life, some people regard money and status above all else, in order to get ahead, chase fame and profit, compare with each other, this mountain looks at the mountain high, and the footsteps do not stop for a moment.
When well-meaning people remind him to be distressed, he will also use the so-called "people in the jianghu, involuntarily" to find reasons for themselves.
Once people are bound by fame and fortune, their desires are difficult to fill, and they endlessly pursue fame and profit, which will only torture people's hearts and minds, where is there any happiness to speak of?
"Without wind and rain, how can you see the rainbow after the rain?" Failure is the mother of success, and a person's sorrows and ups and downs are nothing. Only by summing up the experience in the process of continuous failure can we grow up as soon as possible.
Especially when encountering difficulties, it is necessary to analyze from multiple angles and aspects, or think in a different position, find out the root cause of the problem, and then solve it.
When people are at a low point, do not be troubled by resentment, anger, hatred, and grief, instead of torturing themselves, it is better to try to find the key to open the heart lock, open the heart lock, push open the heart window, and let the sun enter the heart field.
Whenever you are tired and sleepy or empty and lonely, perhaps a song, a book, a cup of tea, or even a greeting from a friend will be tired and disappear, and the troubles will pass away. The fearless strife of honor and disgrace in the world will turn into smoke in front of you.
Use the self-talk of the soul to soothe the heart of the defeated, add a lot of strength to the sincere and persistent heart, and applaud the self who has repeatedly lost and fought.
In the bright sunshine, hold up your head and leave a picture of your true self for life. The so-called glory and wealth, fame and fortune are like smoke clouds.
As the mad cripple in "Dream of the Red Chamber" sang the "Good Song": "The world knows that the gods and immortals are good, but the merits cannot be forgotten!" Where will the past and the present meet?
A pile of grass is gone! The world knows that the gods and immortals are good, only money can not forget, and in the end there is only hatred and not much, and when the time comes, the eyes are closed.
At first glance, the lyrics seem to be spreading pessimism and nihilism, but on closer examination, they contain thought-provoking philosophies.
We came to earth naked and eventually left naked. Those fame and fortune are not brought by life or brought with them by death. Happiness is a day, pain is a day, why don't we just be happy?
每个人都有运气，有些人相信运气是老天给了，其实换句话说很多人都觉得只有老天才是最靠谱的。
But the reality is not that in our lives, our own luck is to be able to decide that we have nothing to do with others.
So don't believe God, just believe in yourself. A person's luck is determined by the mouth. Good luck has nothing to do with God.
我们需要明白的是，一个人的运气是自己的嘴巴说出来的并不是说，老天觉得你运气不好，其实根本没有这回事。
God is the same for everyone, and God does not have the effort to care for everyone, if you always think that God is interesting to you, you just have to look at God and see what your life is like.
Good luck actually has a lot to do with ourselves, because our mouths are always saying that if we accidentally reveal this secret, others will take advantage of it.
In fact, many things are like this in this world. Don't ask why, sometimes we simply don't take the opportunity and don't find the right time.
When you encounter good things, you keep them well, and when you encounter bad things, you don't need to say them. In our lives, many things are like this.
It's because we don't see ourselves correctly, and eventually a lot of problems arise, and if you don't know how to do what you want to say, don't say anything.
If you want to be lucky, you have to control your mouth, and we must understand that if you want to be lucky in this world, you must control your mouth.
In fact, we can seriously analyze your emotions, your life, your various aspects are not smooth, you are because your mouth casually said outside.
Sometimes your words will attract the attention of others, but others will not say them in their hearts. Don't pretend that others don't know.
In fact, in this world, we have no one to believe in at all. Otherwise, your life will have very serious problems, many people and many things.
Good or bad luck all cares about our mouths and has nothing to do with others. Don't let others not wish god, and don't believe in the mess in this world.
Because there are no ghosts and gods in this world, we can only believe. As long as we can keep privacy for ourselves and talk less, we can generally turn the tide.
The reason why everything in the world can bring us good luck is because we have a good mentality, in fact, if you do nothing, you will not be able to live.
Therefore, in this world, we must understand that only by living a good life and abiding by the rules can we bring good luck.
Being kind to ourselves is a state, which requires us to live a little more detached, a little more relaxed, a little more comfortable. Correctly treat gains and losses, fame and profit, and truly see through, think openly, and put down.
Zhuge Liang has two famous sayings in the Book of Commandments: "There is no clear mind without indifference; there is no distance without tranquility."
Indifference can make people purify their hearts and understand life thoroughly; and tranquility can make people's hearts as quiet as water, cultivate sentiments, and achieve the realm of forgetting things and me.
The complaint is too rich to prevent intestinal breakage, and the wind and objects should be looked at for a long time. There is no knot in the world that cannot be untied, it depends on whether you can let go and whether you want to make sense.
Life is like that, living is a breath, once this breath is gone, people are gone.
Wouldn't it be better if you could be kind to yourself every day, think less about things you shouldn't think about, and think more about the good when you encounter difficulties and setbacks?
Mr. Yang Dai wrote a sentence in "The Two of Us", the years are quiet for a moment, and a place of chicken feathers is a daily routine. In our lives, unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine times.
Life will always experience a lot of things, ups and downs, ups and downs, we can only go with nature, everything with fate, in order to see through life, cultivate their own state of mind.
Especially in this materialistic world, the more we desire something, the more we overwhelm all our expectations, and the slightest flaw, we feel unhappy.
In fact, it is because we put all our energy and expectations on one thing, full of expectations for it, only allow success, not failure, then a little bit of unhappiness, will be very disappointed.
In fact, many things are contrary to our will, and they also make us unable to control.
People are actually bitter enough in this life, if everything is in their hearts, they will not let go and be relieved, we are doomed to live a very painful life.
In fact, we don't have to care too much about what others think, whether you are honest, outstanding, or beautiful, in fact, you can't get everyone's likes.
The world in the world is hot and cold, we see it clearly, and then immerse ourselves in being ourselves, everything goes with the flow, let nature take its course, don't have to think too much, don't have to care too much, we will naturally live happily.
Real life, will always be a chicken feather, life sea, floating and sinking is the norm, gathering and dispersing is also the norm, life is impermanent, when you see the impermanence, life is normal, everything is ordinary.
In the chicken feathers of life, we face it naturally, and if it comes, then it is safe, do not complain, do not accuse, if you bloom, the breeze will come.
Life is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge, you can do yourself well, live your own life, whatever others think.
No matter what others say, people who understand you will naturally understand, and people who don't understand you will have no use in explaining. People who care about you will naturally stay and love you, and people who don't love you will naturally think of it.
Life is like this, many things, not you think, can be complete, many things have uncontrollable factors, what we can do is to do our duty.
Try your best, try hard, then look at Providence, go with the flow, don't mess with your heart, don't get trapped in feelings, don't fear the future, don't think about the past.
Life follows fate, do not live in the eyes of others, be loyal to yourself, live out what you like, what you can't keep, we no longer want, people who can't stay, no longer demand.
Because it is difficult to find a foot in the life, it is difficult to ask for a foot, and those who should be put down must learn to let go, day after day, year after year, come and go, and learn to give up.
Properly clean up the garbage in your heart, but also clean up some things around you, give yourself a clean environment, so that you will make yourself very comfortable.
Life for what happens, to accept calmly, live naturally, although you can't get it, it doesn't matter, because you have worked hard, so you don't have to feel regrets, but look at the circumstances.
Life will always hover between gain and loss, and will always face a lot of convergence and dispersion, although we look away, don't think too much, can not change, just go with the flow, can not have, learn to follow the fate.
The things that life should face cannot be hidden, it is a blessing rather than a curse, and it is a disaster that cannot be avoided. In this life, whether it is good times or bad times, we must learn to practice, because life cannot always be smooth sailing, there is no eternal good times and bad times, always take turns, no matter what the current state is, we should put the right mentality, because fate is sometimes ruthless, sometimes generous, and the mentality determines life.
Only learn to go with the flow, not to complain about the injustice of fate, but also to fall into self-depravity, everything goes with fate, tell yourself that everything will be fine, don't worry, every adversity is actually a practice, although you are kind to yourself and others.
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, instead of lamenting the injustice of fate, it is better to treat it with an open heart. I believe that in the end of hardship, there will be a return to happiness and nourish yourself, in order to keep the clouds open.
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