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As we all know, life is a process of continuous growth and change, so that people can learn more skills in life learning, improve their behavior, so that they can be more easily recognized by the public, and finally get a life they want.
Everyone in life will have an awakening period, and the awakening sooner or later also determines the fate of the individual. It may be because a book, an event, or an experience, under a specific circumstance, really have a clear understanding of themselves, thoroughly understand their own ability and temper, everything from reality, no longer self-deception, no longer muddy nightmares.
Those who are truly awakened will understand some of the truths, hoping that everyone can awaken themselves as soon as possible, know what they want to do, what they want to do, and every awakening in life is a new life.
01: Don't do anything, don't say death
The wonderful thing about life is that the future is unknown, no one can predict what will happen in the future, and what kind of opportunities they will have. Therefore, people who understand the impermanence of the world know: "If you don't say anything, there is room for death, if you don't do something, there is room for the road, and if you don't disperse, there is a rhyme." ”
Those who are really sober will grasp the measure of speaking, will not be quick to speak, give each other a room for maneuver, and finally not only protect themselves, but also take care of the faces of others, so that they will not break their own retreat, when others are in distress, they cannot send charcoal in the snow, nor can they fall into the well, because the feng shui takes turns, and no one knows who will fall next time.
The experience of our colleague Lao Wang is a typical example, three years ago the company's marketing manager Mo got married, the sticker was only sent to a few colleagues who usually have a good relationship, Mo said: After marriage, you may have to go back to your hometown Gansu to develop, please get married, please come to drink a happy wine and dip the joy, the second is when everyone gets together, the colleagues who received the invitation have gone, only Lao Wang did not go.
He said frankly: Mo Zong has returned to his hometown, this personal affection will definitely not be returned, and there will be no communication with him in the future, so he will not waste this money, 500 yuan to go home to buy some ribs is not delicious? Hearing this, everyone laughed and didn't talk.
However, just last Christmas, Mr. Mo suddenly called everyone to dinner, it turned out that he had only stayed in his hometown for half a year, felt that there was no development prospect, and returned to Shenzhen to do cross-border business, and when the company released the data at the end of the year, the performance was gratifying, so he asked everyone to come out to get together, and they could take care of each other in the future.
Later, I heard that Lao Wang privately invited Mo Zong to dinner several times, but he refused for various reasons, and at this time everyone could only laugh and laugh. A person's true awakening is that everything begins to think about the consequences, not about the effort. When there is a "profit", "leave a way back" and "don't say death" thinking, no longer only rely on feelings to act, hidden in the future will be much less, "noble" will be much more.
02: Do not persuade others to be good without suffering
"Do not persuade others to be kind without their suffering" is too important in this society where information is true or false. We've seen too many reversals, overturns, and ruins in the past year. Therefore, it is very important to be able to clearly analyze the true meaning of other people's words.
You can never guess the other side of the web, what some people are plotting, what they are choreographing, what they are really expressing. So before you know the whole picture, don't casually join in the fun and express your position.
As the old saying goes: those who can listen to the doorway, those who will not listen to the hilarity, and those who listen to the hilarity are the most likely to be affected and biased. They tend to believe only what they see in front of their eyes and hear in their ears, and they do not think deeply or are unwilling to believe the facts behind these phenomena.
When you look at a thing, not only staying at the surface of the hilarity, listening to others also begin to analyze the deep meaning of their words, to think deeply about the meaning that others really want to express, you will find that the world is still like this, which is also the beginning of your maturity.
03: Cherish your time and don't be afraid to offend others.
Why are we afraid to reject others? The reasons why people are afraid to reject others can be broadly divided into the following categories: perhaps they are unwilling to feel guilty about themselves, or they are unwilling to face conflict and accept the accusations, dissatisfaction or divisions that may occur.
Psychology believes that people who are afraid of rejecting others are immature in their hearts. I believe that most people have had such an experience: because they dare not refuse and are afraid of offending people, even if their health is uncomfortable, no matter how busy they are at work, they must go to chat with others and gossip, and they dare not refuse those meaningless conversations and social interactions.
You must know: there is no rejection, there is no bottom line, everyone will think that you can do anything, will not care about your thoughts and feelings, it is easier to be ignored and hurt. Therefore, you must not dare to say no because you are afraid of offending people, rejection is learned from the little things in life, and achieve the work of stone piercing with the momentum of water droplets, so that you can establish your own boundaries little by little and let others know your principles.
The fear of offending people here is not to let you go out in a menacing manner to cause trouble, but to make you no longer only promises when facing the requirements of others, not afraid to say your own thoughts and opinions, express your true feelings with a calm attitude, and calmly face the various behaviors made by others.
04: No longer clinging to right and wrong, understand the importance of seeking common ground while reserving differences
Some people say that attachment and non-judgment are actually a kind of shallowness, because they are only willing to believe in things within their subjective thinking, and they are not willing to recognize things that they have not experienced. We all laugh at the short-sightedness of the frog at the bottom of the well, but we can't see ourselves clearly when we change the protagonist.
The world is big, there is no surprise, because different living environments, growth experiences, education levels, creating a group of people with different personalities, temperaments, and qualities, even if they are twins who grow up together, they may form two personalities that are very different.
Since everyone is different, it is extremely normal to get along with contradictions and misunderstandings. Voltaire once said: "Although I do not agree with your point of view, I swear to defend to the death your right to speak." In the face of differences, we can disagree with each other's views, but we cannot deprive the other party of the right to express their opinions. We can not accept the other person's point of view, but also respect his ideas.
Especially in this information age, people-to-people communication is more important. Seeking common ground while reserving differences is the basis for everyone to live in harmony, and there is no need to show their correctness everywhere, nor is there any need to always harshly criticize the wrongs of others. People who can accept and coexist with differences are also a highly confident type of person, they do not think that being recognized by others can reflect their own value, and I will not refute the things you feel are right, and I will not affect my life because of these views.
Many people say that the latest awakening time determines the level of life's future, and people who wake up early have a strong sense of purpose very early, and they themselves have a firm desire to become better, because they will become more conscious and self-disciplined, and it will be easier to succeed. I hope that everyone can wake up at the earliest time and have everything they want as soon as possible.