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preface:
In 2015, Li Jinfeng, a 63-year-old woman in Harbin, pushed her 86-year-old mother onto Central Avenue to beg, while she sat not far away to observe the "harvest" on her mother's side.
Not only that, when Li Jinfeng faced the accusations of the crowd, he actually behaved very wronged, and said, "I am doing this for my mother's good, she is enjoying happiness!" ”
Why is Li Jinfeng so cruel that she uses her mother as a tool for her to make money? And why would she say that her mother was blessed?
First, the begging old man
It happened in the northeast region between the cold winter and the waxing moon, and harbin, which was already extremely cold, coincided with heavy snow falling, and the temperature outside had plummeted to minus 28 degrees, which was extremely cold. Under such a temperature, people's figures became hurried, walking intently with their heads bowed one by one, without any unnecessary communication.
But even those who walk fast will stop for a few seconds when they pass the intersection of Central Avenue and Seventh Avenue. They were not attracted by the goods sold nearby, but because on a nearby stone staircase, an elderly man was sitting on the ground wrapped in a torn blanket.
The white snowflakes fell on her black cotton jacket but were not melted, and soon a thin layer of "frost" accumulated, and the old man had no intention of dusting it off, but the trembling body would shake off some snowflake debris from time to time. Looking closely, there was a small dilapidated box in front of her, and some loose change in it was about to be buried by the snow.
It turned out that she was begging.
Due to the cold weather, people who stop will only stay for a few seconds at most before leaving. Some of them would shake their heads and murmur pity for the old man; others would touch their pockets, find a few pieces of change and throw them into the old man's box, and then continue to hurry.
What's more, in the case of really can't find change, just find a place to buy something, pay more when scanning the code, and then send the change found by the merchant to the old man.
There is a lyric in "The Dedication of Love": "As long as everyone gives a little love, the world will become a beautiful world." ”
At this time on the central street, such a beautiful picture is happening! No one will guess whether the old man is a liar, everyone's idea is very simple, that is, they hope to help the old man go home early.
It is true that kindness cannot be calculated by money, but at this moment, the change in the old man's broken box is the result of the good deeds of everyone, at least at this moment, this money is a symbol of goodness.
Kind passerby
With more and more money in the box, a middle-aged woman named Li Jinfeng entered the field of vision. Only to see her come to the old man's side, without saying a word, she put all the money in the old man's box into the cloth bag in her hand!
A man with a strong sense of justice thought that she was robbing the old man's money, rushed directly to stop her, pushed and shoved, several coins also spilled out, the woman became angry when she saw it, and the two had a serious quarrel.
When the crowd saw the situation, they slowly gathered around, and you accused this middle-aged woman with every word, and there was a big idea that she would not let her go if she did not pay back the money. This also completely angered Li Jinfeng, who shouted impatiently at the man who stopped him:
"What's the matter with you?" Take care of your own, this is my mother, do you need to be nosy here with the dog and the rats? Get out of the way! ”
But the man, apparently unable to believe her claim, asked rhetorically:
"You say this is your mother?" Will someone under the heavens let your mother sit on the ground in this kind of weather and ask for food? She's your mother, why don't you raise her? When the old people were frozen and shivering, they didn't see you say that this is your mother, and when there is money in the box, it becomes your mother? How? Is this money your mother? ”
A voice came from the crowd of onlookers, a middle-aged man who was setting up a stall nearby, who said:
"If you want to say that this is her mother, it is also possible that the reason why this old lady is here is that this woman pushes the old lady over every day with a wheelchair." Didn't you notice that this old lady was the only one in the neighborhood asking for food? That's because the other people who want to eat have been beaten away by this woman! This is truly unique in the world! ”
Hawkers around
As soon as these words were uttered, they caused an uproar. People can't imagine why this middle-aged woman who looks to be in her 60s is so cruel to her elderly mother, after all, everyone will have an old day, aren't they afraid that they will fall into this kind of situation?
In the face of the accusations of the crowd, Li Jinfeng was not happy. She sprinkled all her anger on the man who saw the righteousness and courage, first insulted the man with extremely harsh words, and then said in a yin and yang strange way:
"You say she's so old, how many days can she live?" My mother is not here to suffer, but to be blessed! I've been pretty good to her, I let so many people on Central Avenue feed my mom, are you and I good to him? Besides, what are you jealous of me for? That's what we have! ”
The woman was full of confidence when she said this, but the man was obviously not going to give up, and he continued to fight back:
"Well, let's just say it's your mother, so I want to know, your mother sat on the street in the cold and asked for money, and finally it went into your pocket, right?" Don't you feel guilty about doing this, and can't you just go find a serious job? ”
Li Jinfeng sneered, looked at the man contemptuously, and said a paragraph without a bottom line:
Li Jinfeng
"You don't mean anything by saying this, what age are we?" Isn't it right for them to give some money to their young children? Besides, how come we're not serious about work, we're also very hard, right? Do you know how far and tired we have come to this far? Do you know how thick and stubborn the clothes we wear are? You know what a bitch! ”
When Li Jinfeng said this, he was full of confidence, and the sophistry remarks said that the crowd was ignorant. Then she put the old lady in a wheelchair in full view of everyone and left.
Soon, Li Jinfeng and the old man disappeared into the vast sea of people, and the onlookers dispersed one after another. But the man who clashed with Li Jinfeng stood where he was, thoughtful.
Second, righteous young people
The man, Xu Kun, was a journalist, and he was still immersed in the fallacy that Li Jinfeng had just said. Xu Kun couldn't understand why there were such unfilial children in this world, and the poor life of the old man also made him determined to save the old man!
Xu Kun
Just do it! Xu Kun quickly found the nearby street office and reported the incident to them. Unexpectedly, before he could finish speaking, the staff of the street office sighed softly.
The staff told Xu Kun that the old man's name was Zhang Yaqin, and he was 87 years old this year. Zhang Yaqin worked in the unit when she was young, and until now she has a retirement salary of 1113 yuan per month. The arrogant fat woman that Xu Kun saw was indeed Zhang Yaqin's daughter, her name was Li Jinfeng, and she was 63 years old this year, and her monthly retirement salary was about 1,000 yuan.
Because Zhang Yaqin is received by a retired unit, the street office has also reflected this matter to Zhang Yaqin's receiving unit, which also attaches great importance to it, but after they investigated, they found that the old man has 4 children under his knees, and the retirement salary is paid to the old man's account on time every month.
In addition, the old man actually owns a property, but now her young son's family is living. Therefore, in the final analysis, this matter still belongs to the category of domestic affairs and does not meet the standard of rescue. They can only choose to criticize and educate Li Jinfeng first, and then give suggestions euphemistically, at first Li Jinfeng will respond perfunctorily with two sentences, and then directly stop answering the phone.
When Xu Kun heard this, his heart became more and more uncomfortable, the old man had children and daughters, money and a house, but when he should have enjoyed his old age, he was left on the street by his eldest daughter to beg, so why did the younger son's family who lived in the old man's house ignore the old man?
With such a question, Xu Kun found the home of Zhang Yaqin's young son according to the address given by the staff.
The house under the name of the elderly Zhang Yaqin
The person who opened the door for her was a woman, who was the daughter-in-law of Zhang Yaqin's younger son, and when Xu Kun showed her intentions, the woman directly scolded Li Jinfeng by name, and it seems that the two have a deep grudge.
According to the woman, the old man Zhang Yaqin used to live with the couple, so the house was naturally given to the younger son. However, their eldest sister Li Jinfeng was very dissatisfied with this and repeatedly provoked the relationship between Zhang Yaqin and her daughter-in-law.
Zhang Yaqin gets along very well with her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law on weekdays, and the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is as good as that of mother and daughter, but as long as Zhang Yaqin has seen Li Jinfeng, when she returns home, she will not be happy with her daughter-in-law, and she does not have to think about it to know that it is Li Jinfeng who is talking nonsense in the middle.
Li Jinfeng's purpose is very clear, that is, she hopes that Zhang Yaqin will have a mother-in-law conflict with her daughter-in-law, and then she will add oil and vinegar, and it is best to let the old lady drive the young son's family out of the house, and then she will move here on the grounds of taking care of her mother.
However, although Zhang Yaqin constantly contradicted her second daughter-in-law at her instigation, she never drove her younger son's family out of the house, which was an emergency for Li Jinfeng. In order to achieve this goal, Li Jinfeng also sued Zhang Yaqin's young son and family in court, pulling back and forth for several years, and did not get the results she wanted.
Under such circumstances, Li Jinfeng made another surprise move.
Li Jinfeng proposed to give her twenty thousand yuan, and then hand over her mother's right to support her, and the previous grievances were written off and each day was lived.
Although the daughter-in-law still wants to keep Zhang Yaqin at home, after all, this is her house, but Zhang Yaqin said that she wants to accompany Li Jinfeng, after all, Li Jinfeng is still renting a house by herself, and the two of them can still have a care together.
The little second daughter-in-law saw the situation, and it was not easy to force it, she also thought in her heart, after all, the old lady has hurt the eldest sister Li Jinfeng the most since she was a child, maybe it will be more comfortable to follow her. In the end, the matter ended in this way.
And after they heard that Li Jinfeng took the old woman to beg, they also communicated with Li Jinfeng many times, and the soft and hard ones were used, and in the end there was no result, and this matter became their heart disease over the years.
Li Jinfeng sent her mother to beg
For Zhang Yaqin's daughter-in-law's words, Xu Kun's heart is half-convinced, after all, there are too many doubts in this. Leaving aside anything else, if there is really filial piety, wouldn't it be over to give up the house to the eldest sister, and the couple with the old lady, would there still be this situation today?
Xu Kun thought in his heart that if he wanted to find out the truth of the matter, he still had to talk to the parties, so he decided to go directly to The Central Avenue to find Zhang Yaqin and Li Jinfeng.
Three, unexpected maternal love
The next day, Xu Kun came to the intersection of Central Avenue and Qidao Street early in the morning, and sure enough, he saw the old lady sitting on the ground. He was about to go up and ask for an understanding, but Li Jinfeng came to her first, but she did not want to drive Xu Kun away, but complained to him about the pain.
It turned out that after Xu Kun and her had a conflict that day, there were always people pointing fingers at her these days, which made her heart also feel aggrieved.
Li Jinfeng said with a handful of tears in his nose:
Aggrieved Li Jinfeng
"You know, my mother treats me the dearest, without my mother there would be no me!" We all do this to realize that dream in our hearts! ”
Li Jinfeng was confused in the fog in Xu Kunyun's words, and he looked at the old man sitting in the cold wind and signaled Li Jinfeng to continue.
"My mother is 87 years old this year, there is no house to live in, I feel bad in my heart, I can't sleep... Over the years, in order to buy a house, I have done any work, tired of a body of illness, these two years really can not move. Seeing that the dream of buying a house was far away, my mother discussed with me and told me to take her out to beg... At first, I didn't want to, but the old lady told me about this matter five times, and I was shaken, so I took her out to try..."
Xu Kun was incredulous about such a statement, and she wanted to confirm the authenticity of the matter with the old lady, but under the crowd's watch, the old lady did not say a word. When Li Jinfeng saw this, he helped Zhang Yaqin to a wheelchair and invited Xu Kun to his home to have a look.
In order to find out the truth of the matter, Xu Kun agreed to Li Jinfeng's invitation and was led by Li Jinfeng to the mother and daughter's home.
However, when he arrived at Li Jinfeng's home, Xu Kun was surprised.
Li Jinfeng's rented house is in a residential building not far from Central Avenue, and a small house of only a dozen square meters in total is about to be picked up and piled up, Li Jinfeng said, this is where their mother and daughter live.
A house rented by Li Jinfeng
Xu Kun asked, don't you both have pensions, not to live like this, at this time Li Jinfeng told another version of the story about her mother.
In her version, Zhang Yaqin's relationship with her daughter-in-law is very bad, and when she lives together, she is not less beaten and angry, in this case, Zhang Yaqin secretly begs Li Jinfeng to take her away, and Li Jinfeng is angry that her brother's family occupies the house but is not good enough to support the elderly, so he sues them in court.
After she moved out of her brother's house with her mother, she always wanted to buy a house for her mother's pension, in order to realize this dream, she worked several jobs during the day and went out at night to pick up garbage, but the goal of buying a house was always far away, and finally her mother offered to go out and beg.
For such a statement, Zhang Yaqin also said that this is the case. Don't look at her 87 years old, but in fact, her heart is the same as Spiegel. In the exchange with Xu Kun, the old lady talked about her other children, she said that although the remaining three children are not rich, but at least there is a house to live in, but her eldest daughter is also sixty or seventy years old, or renting a house outside.
Zhang Yaqin also said that she was willing to follow Li Jinfeng, and if it were not for Li Jinfeng taking her over, she would not have been able to enjoy a few days of happiness until she died. Now going out to ask for food is all her willingness, just to help her daughter get a house while she can still move, and for this goal, she is afraid of not being guilty.
Mrs. Zhang Yaqin
But now word has spread outside, saying that her eldest daughter is not filial piety, she feels bad in her heart, among her children, the most filial piety is Li Jinfeng, she does not want her daughter to be wronged.
After Zhang Yaqin said these words, Xu Kun didn't know what to do at all, the truth he had worked so hard to investigate was all the wishful thinking of the old man himself, would he continue to manage this matter? Xu Kun was confused.
In the end, Xu Kunchang breathed a sigh of relief and decided to talk to Li Jinfeng, who asked Li Jinfeng:
"The old mother did this for you, this kindness does not need me to say, you can understand, but have you ever thought that if you wait until your son needs to buy a house, he will also push you to the street to ask for money, what will you think?" 」
Li Jinfeng said that people, it is necessary to take one step at a time, and no one can say what will happen in the future. Just like herself, if there is a better choice, she is definitely not willing to take her old mother to the street to beg, after all, they are all people who want to face. But as a small citizen living at the bottom, many things are not chosen, if one day she has come to this step, then she can only choose to face .......
epilogue:
Mencius said, "The old man and the old man", which probably means that when supporting and honoring one's elders, one should not forget other old people who are not related to oneself.
Obviously, Li Jinfeng's approach is contrary to the filial piety advocated by Mencius, and her treatment of her mother is obviously not "filial piety". Admittedly, Li Jinfeng may indeed make Zhang Yaqin the most filial child, after all, she is also the only child among the four people who is willing to support the old man by her side.
However, in the face of the old man's request to beg, even if others don't understand, can Li Jinfeng himself not understand? My own mother is desperate to help herself earn money to buy a house!
I admit that in the face of many difficulties in life, sometimes we really feel powerless, but this does not mean that we lose the right to choose.
Rather, abandoning the act is itself a choice, a choice that means escape.
When Li Jinfeng first decided to push the old man to the street, she had already chosen to give up, and I think that in the process, her heart gradually changed from the initial torment to obedience, and finally derived a distorted value, so she would say "my mother can't live for a few years anyway".
Perhaps in her inner world, the subtext of this sentence is "I want my mother to live in a big house in her lifetime", but who can understand such an "unspoken meaning"?
Especially Li Jinfeng's view on "filial piety", when most people can't "understand" her meaning, then this view is most likely because her values have been distorted, and she does not think that she is wrong.
"I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but I am only in this mountain", which is probably what it means.
What do you think about that? You are welcome to leave your own insights!