Author 丨 Sauce Auntie
This is the 375th night that Aunt Sauce has accompanied you
Chen Yi is about to turn 30 years old, and compared with her peers who have long been married and have children, she seems particularly lonely.
Although she is based on the principle of not being willing in her feelings, in the eyes of her parents and friends, she obviously has excellent conditions, and the reason why she lags behind others in marriage and love and becomes a "leftover woman" is because she is "too picky".
But Chen Yi did not think so, she hoped that she would marry because of love, not because she should get married. Therefore, in the lifelong event, she and her parents often quarrel without saying two sentences.
For many years, she has always rejected blind dates, always feeling that two people put their respective conditions on the table to compare, the car and house ticket spread out the mode of talking, and their expected love has nothing to do with it.
Therefore, the relatives and friends around her who had the intention of being a matchmaker for her were almost offended by her. But she still didn't want to give up her persistence in the relationship, and she was confident of meeting the person who was destined to meet her.
Image source: Screenshot of "The Leftovers are King", invaded and deleted
But that day, because she forgot to take the documents home temporarily, she saw her parents in the community who looked at the envious expressions on the faces of other children's children, and she suddenly softened her heart.
Coupled with the fact that she was busy with work all day and did not have the opportunity to meet anyone who was related, she saw that she was in the year of establishment, and it was false to say that she did not panic, so she herself began to move her mind on a blind date.
At that time, a friend who had just met learned that Chen Yi was single and proposed to introduce her classmates to her, and Chen Yi agreed to it for the first time.
For the first blind date in her life, Chen Yi bought a new dress, made up exquisite makeup, and deliberately made a new hairstyle, after all, she went to "success", so she did not save the cost of the input.
When he first met Liu Jing, the object of blind date, Chen Yi also thought that all the intentions were worth it.
Because the other party, whether it is external conditions or conversational temperament, is just in line with Chen Yi's expectations, and even the two have a lot of common topics.
The expected embarrassing scene did not happen at all, but more of a comfortable atmosphere of getting along and talking. After eating, Chen Yi also agreed to Liu Jing's invitation to watch a movie, and throughout the day, the two looked like a hot little couple.
In the following week, Liu Jing would gently call her every morning to wake her up, send her a delicate bento at noon, and pick her up on time after work in the evening, and the co-pilot would either prepare flowers for her, or prepare milk tea and desserts.
It can be said that few girls can remain sober and not easily moved under such a fierce pursuit, not to mention Chen Yi, who has been empty for many years.
"Falling in" is simply a predictable outcome. So on the weekend after a week of acquaintance, in the face of Liu Jing's invitation to cook for her at her home, Chen Yi agreed without even thinking about it.
The two men ate food with wine, talked about the past, the present, and the future, and said a lot of heartfelt words through a slight drunkenness. At that time, in Chen Yi's view, Liu Jing was really her "finally waiting for you" .
So on the weekend, she told her parents to go to her girlfriend's house to play, but in fact, she was at Liu Jing's house for two days. Twice a night, it is a direct expression of their "heart-pounding fast".
Chen Yi, who quickly fell in love, thought that his long-term insistence on "not giving up" finally had gratifying results.
Unfortunately, this is only Chen Yi's unilateral cognition.
Because after spending the weekend together, Liu Jing was obviously cold.
What artificial wake-up, love bento, commuting transfers, small surprises and small gifts, all gone, replaced by not answering the phone, replying to the message perfunctory, meeting delays, excuses for overtime...
Chen Yi panicked at once, and although she tried to convince herself that Liu Jing might really be busy, her heart was still not steady. So after work that day, she went to the supermarket to buy vegetables, hoping that Liu Jing would also try her own craft.
But when she knocked on the door for a long time before opening it, Chen Yi was dumbfounded, because a strange woman took the lead in carrying a coat that she had not had time to wear before she entered the door.
The mess on the bedroom bed explained everything, Chen Yi asked who the woman was, Chen Yi couldn't understand why Liu Jing was so kind to her, chen Yi angrily shouted at himself what it was.
She was hoarse because her love was initially linked to betrayal. But Liu Jing was unusually plain, and he asked lightly:
"Did I confess to you?" Do I admit you're my girlfriend? Do I agree that you can come to my house and look for me? ”
"But we're already in that relationship!" In the face of Liu Jing's shameless questioning, Chen Yi was still not dead hearted.
But then Liu Jing's words made Chen Yi completely sober: "I can't marry out when I'm 30 years old, do you really think I'll marry you?" Adults, just play, don't take it too seriously. Besides, you are willing to know me for a week, and don't talk about me any restraint. ”
It turned out that in his eyes, she was just a "leftover woman" who could not marry, but an older single young woman who could be treated casually, but one of his many female friends who could have a relationship.
And his behavior that makes her heart move is just his inertia to make the relationship further. What he gave her was always the same as what he gave to others.
The heartbeat can be fast, but the decision to entrust lifelong must be done slowly.
This is what Aunt Sauce has told everyone over and over again. Because many people are reluctant to take it seriously in the world of flowers and flowers, there are really too many hypocrisy hidden and too many other plans.
Before handing the truth to the other party, we must find out his temperament, find out his character past, and find out whether his pursuit is a whim or thoughtful.
We should try our best to avoid the fact that the tragedy of the Sofiaths can easily occur.
Finally, let's talk about being single at an older age, back to being forced to go on a blind date, and back to the choice of marriage and singleness.
For those parents who are worried about the marriage of their children, Aunt Sauce first expressed her understanding, and then wanted to use the father's classic line in the movie "The Leftovers are King" to persuade:
"She shouldn't marry her parents, she shouldn't be listening to gossip outside, she wants to get married when she hears too much." She should marry someone she likes, the one she loves, the one who is old. The one with his head held high, especially tough, seemed to have won. ”
Because marriage is never the goal, happiness is.
And for those young people who are under pressure and want to hastily promote the process of marriage and love, Aunt Sauce wants to say:
"Marriage is important, that's right, but what matters is the quality of the marriage you love. If you marry for the sake of getting married, if you marry because everyone else is married, then trash marriage is really not as good as a senior single. ”
For those who have always been reluctant to settle down and strive to adhere to the principle in the midst of various doubts, Aunt Sauce borrowed Zhang Ailing's sentence to express twelve points of support:
"I want you to know that there is a person in this world who is always waiting for you, no matter when, no matter where you are, anyway, you know, there is always such a person." 」
Best wishes.