This is the story of a mom with 1029 children.
Her mother's name is Yang Shouwei, and she is the vice president of the Weifang Children's Welfare Institute in Shandong Province. In the past 21 years, 1,029 orphaned children have thrown themselves into her arms, lying on her shoulders, and called her "mother" in a childish voice, and her ideal is to "do our best to compensate the children for the debt of fate."
Waiting outside the door of the operating room
It was her most tormented moment
On January 8, the cold winter wind whistled, but the Weifang Children's Welfare Home was warm as spring, and the children were doing various rehabilitation work under the careful care of the nursing staff's mother. In the 21 years he has worked here, Yang Shouwei has always faced four thresholds: surgery, infectious diseases, death and adoption, each of which involves fresh life and tears between life and death.
Yang Shouwei and the children.
"Little Nini, come on and climb forward."
The toughest of these challenges is surgery. When children come to welfare homes, most of them suffer from rare diseases, and some from a medical point of view, the surgical treatment effect is the best, and it is also the most beneficial to the child's growth. Min Min, the lightest premature baby, came only two pounds and nine two, and her legs were about the same thickness as people's index fingers, and she was only two palms in her hands. She also suffered from a variety of diseases such as severe heart disease, pneumonia, neonatal hyaluronism, and was dying, and was critically ill several times.
In the face of this slap-sized child, Yang Shouwei and her colleagues did not give up and took meticulous care of her. Considering her gastrointestinal insufficiency, Yang Shouwei insisted on feeding her a small amount and many times a day, touching her as much as possible, and when she was about six months old, gradually adding egg yolks, vegetable puree, minced meat and other foods to increase nutrition.
At the age of one, Min Min's weight reached 15 kilograms, and the growth and development indicators reached normal, according to the advice of experts, Yang Shouwei and colleagues took her to the hospital for heart disease repair surgery. Fortunately, Min Min's surgery was very successful. About half a year after the operation, Min Min grew white and fat, lively and healthy, and was later adopted by the family.
Weak "pocket babies" like Min Min are terrified every time they are sent to the operating table. The waiting time outside the operating room is also Yang Shouwei's most painful time. "We also have a child with congenital heart disease, Lele, who went to surgery when she was 3 years old. I sat outside the operating room for more than 8 hours. When the child was pushed out, it was full of tubes, dense, and the heartache was so painful that all 3 of our mothers cried. Yang Shouwei wiped his tears as he spoke, "When the anesthetic has passed, we wiped our tears while holding the child's hands, feet and legs, restraining her movements and preventing the tube from being touched." For 3 days and 3 nights, we were face-to-face, head-to-head, and when we were tired, we took turns sitting and closing our eyes. ”
One candlelight, one light heat. For years, Yang Shouwei seems to have been racing for his life.
In the past 21 years, 467 children have held hands with her, under her care, learned to talk, eat, walk, cure diseases, and find adoptive parents; in the past 21 years, many children have left this world in Yang Shouwei's arms due to serious illnesses.
When the child is adopted, the mother is the happiest
But also endure the pain of parting
Yang Shouwei knows that for children in children's welfare homes, the best way out is to enter the family and return to society. Therefore, the happiest thing in the children's welfare home is that the children are adopted. Even the mothers of these welfare homes have to endure the pain of parting.
In 2014, after living in a children's welfare home for 8 years, Xiaoyu, a girl with ichthyosis who had been cured in a welfare home, was adopted by a caring family. Later, the adoptive parents sent a photo of Xiaoyu, Yang Shouwei carefully looked at the child's innocent and bright smile, recalling the days she was around, from admission to growing up bit by bit, it was really a mixed feeling.
"Every time I look at the pictures, I can't help but cry. Later, I rarely watched it. It's not that I don't want to, it's that I don't dare to look at it again, because I miss her. "When I told Xiaoyu's story, Yang Shouwei's eyes lit up with tears." We do our best to treat children, do rehabilitation training, take special education classes, raise them healthy and healthy, and do everything possible to teach knowledge and skills, all of which are to prepare children for entering the family and entering the social role in the future. ”
To this day, those adopted children often return to Yang Shouwei's dreams. Yang Shouwei knows very well that when children are adopted from children's welfare homes, they are generally four or five years old, and the life of the welfare home is beautiful and not a complete life.
Considering the feelings of adoptive parents and the growth of children, in recent years, all adopted children have not been contacted again, and generally do not accept the active contact of adoptive parents and children. "Just like Tian Qingying, secretary of our Weifang Municipal Party Committee, said, some goodness is presented in a fierce face." Yang Shouwei said. Diluting the memories of children with them is the last gift they can give to their children.
Diligent and diligent
Insist on scientific parenting for 21 years
On the second floor of the welfare home, the reporter saw a variety of instruments that had never been seen before, including more than 10 kinds of protective restraint suits, T-shaped mats for cerebral palsy, and gripping hand rings. It turned out that this was made by Yang Shouwei according to the needs of the children and his colleagues.
For the care of premature children, Yang Shouwei explored three key nursing measures;
In response to the needs of children with cerebral palsy, she designed a "cerebral palsy suit" that is easy to wear and take off;
In response to the needs of children with cleft lip and palate, she designed a "straw type" bottle;
For children who are bedridden for a long time, she designed "O" type pillows;
For children with self-harm behavior, she designed protective "restraint suits".
Yang Shouwei's innovative "oral care" method for children with severe cerebral palsy and the touch wall of infants and young children have been widely promoted.
This Shandong mother, who is full of love in her heart, has also carried out the "family-like" parenting model, recruiting loving couples to form a family with their children in the society, so that children can feel the warmth of the family.
Behind each innovation is a willing to learn. Yang Shouwei knows that to be a good mother of an orphaned and abandoned child, it is far from enough to rely on a single heart of love. Only by picking up books and taking up the weapon of science can she better protect and raise her children.
21 years ago, Yang Shouwei's professional nursing foundation level was not high, and most of his work relied on the help and life experience of old colleagues, which could not meet the needs of children's growth. At that time, once there was an emergency and rare cases, it would be chaotic and panicked.
So, she brought a bunch of nursing textbooks to study, and chewed down pieces of "hard bones". When there is no time, they use holidays to go up; without teachers, they run around and ask for advice. In more than four years, Yang Shouwei has obtained a number of qualification certificates such as orphan and disabled child nurse, senior nursery teacher, nutritionist, rehabilitation health care teacher, Montessori teacher, social worker, social worker supervisor and so on. To this day, she still remembers the nights more than a decade ago when she took the bus to learn Montessori education at her own expense.
"Looking back on these years, I feel that the great potential for my own learning and innovation is forced out by the suffering and illness of children. Our learning and innovation are all to make the children in the welfare home healthier, safer, more homely, and more dignified. On January 8, Yang Shouwei said.
I was a congenital atresia child, I had just had an operation, the doctor uncle created a fistula on my stomach, in order not to let the intestinal fluid erode my skin, my mother was rubbing medicine on me. 」
"Mom, come and see, I've built a new castle."
In the view of Wang Min, a social section member of Weifang Children's Welfare Institute, Yang Jie loves children and respects children more, and she always considers all issues from the perspective of children. She asked the nursing staff mothers to be sure to crouch down and talk to their children. The children's room has greenery all year round. The children who could not move were physically weak, and Sister Yang also tried to find a way to make them move. It took a whole year to find the best way to do it. In Yang Shouwei's view, the child's comfort is the most important significance. As long as he goes to work, Yang Shouwei will put his child's quilt in a place with sunlight.
Yang Shouwei also often takes children to large markets, visit supermarkets, take children to parks, bookstores and other places, and buy food, drink and use for children out of his own pocket. "Every time the restaurant makes a rare thing, Yang Jie always seizes the opportunity to let the children know the food. For example, when steaming crabs, she asked us to take our children to the canteen to meet the crabs. She always treats all children with the concept of home, because the children's welfare home is the home of all children. Wang Min told reporters.
"The slight cheeks are still chubby, the eyes are full of energy, and it is a big beauty at first glance." During this time, your skills can be a lot more, slowly learn to crawl, you can crawl to find your favorite toys, every time you will show a smile on your face, feel a sense of accomplishment. This is a nursing staff mother at the Weifang Children's Welfare Institute in Shandong Province, writing a growth diary for a baby named Weiwei, and the words are full of love. This innovation is also from Yang Shouwei's hand, in order to leave a footprint for the children to grow, even if the child is adopted in the future, the adoptive parents can also know the footprint of the child's life. Many adoptive parents were thrilled to receive this diary.
Gratitude for the socialist system
"We are just the communicators of the warmth of the party and the government"
Some people say that it is the "mother" of the children's welfare home who gives the orphaned children a second life, but Yang Shouwei said: "In fact, I know that we are just the warm communicators of the party and the government!" For 21 years, my children and I have bathed in the glory of the party committee and government every day, immersed in the river of care and care from all walks of life. This great country, this great era, did not abandon my children because they were weak. As a party member, Yang Shouwei deeply felt the great strength of the party and the country and was grateful for this beautiful and upward era. In her view, the fact that orphaned children can have a happy life today is due to the incomparable correctness and superiority of the socialist system.
"Mother Yang is feeding me fruit purees."
"Mom, you've worked hard, we love you!"
During the "July 1st" period, at this important historical moment of our party's centennial birthday, Yang Shouwei, as an outstanding communist party member in the whole country, was publicly commended by the party Central Committee, came to the capital Beijing with honor, participated in a series of celebrations for the 100th anniversary of the founding of the party, and was cordially received by the general secretary and other party and state leaders.
"No matter where I go, no matter when, the only thing that can define me is the word 'mother.'" Yang Shouwei said. Today's Yang Shouwei, walking into the children's welfare home, will still put on his work clothes like 21 years ago, come to the children, and take care of them with heart.
Liu Xingbao, an old colleague who has worked with Yang Shouwei for more than 20 years, commented on her: "'Running between the children first' has become her living habit for many years. Between Comrade Shou Wei and the orphaned child, there is a very simple mother-child relationship. After being promoted to vice president, although various honors were added, she was still watching the child wholeheartedly, and her heart was very quiet. ”
"For the sake of that 'mother', I do not allow my children to be seen as different, and my greatest pursuit and happiness is to do my best to compensate them for the debts of fate, so that they have the right to live a normal life, live a healthy and dignified life." 」 In the cold wind of winter, Yang Shouwei's simple words were loud and clear.
Liu Zhenzhen, a rural mass reporter of the mass newspaper industry