Children are not "obedient", and parents put 5 mantras on their lips, which is better than 10,000 sentences of criticism
Many mothers complain that their children do not like to tidy up, do not love to study, have a bad temper, like to make trouble, and so on.
In fact, there is a problem with the child, and parents should first think about whether their own education methods have deviated.
If your child has a variety of problems, it is recommended that you try these 5 mantras, stick to it for 3 months, and your child will have a big transformation.
Baby, Mom needs you
In life, many parents are omnipotent, arbitrary and strong. They arrange everything as long as the child is obedient.
But years later, they will regret that their children cannot be independent and do not know how to be grateful.
Smart parents always know how to show weakness when necessary, saying this: Mother needs you.
I often say to my daughter warmly: "Mom is so tired today, if only the baby could help Her mother carry the bag!" ”
Even though she has been walking with me for a long time, she will be very happy to help me with my bag.
I said, "Mom has a little stomachache today, can you take care of Mom?" ”
She would help me with snacks, pour me warm water, help me find a hot water bottle.
I said, "Mom wants to hear stories today, but no one tells me!" ”
She would immediately pull out her picture book and read it carefully.
The child enjoys the feeling of being needed, giving him a sense of security and belonging.
Whether you are raising a son or a daughter, you should learn this sentence. The weakness of parents is to skillfully let go and gently push their children to grow.
Baby, you decide for yourself
At the heart of several rebellious periods in a child's life is the pursuit of independent choice.
If children can get more control in their parents, their 2-year-old rebellious period and adolescence will transition more smoothly.
In fact, on issues that do not involve safety, parents can try to give their children more opportunities for independent choice.
Let him choose what color to wear, watch 10 minutes or 15 minutes of TV, play downstairs or write homework first...
Don't be afraid that the child will mess it all up, if you give him enough trust, he will cherish it and will not easily break it.
Self-discipline and responsibility will slowly develop in this process.
Baby, you're doing a great job
People of our generation rarely receive encouragement and praise from their parents and elders in childhood.
Most of them believe that children should do it right, and if they don't do it right, they should criticize it. Therefore, our generation is somewhat inferior.
For example, when a child writes homework, parents should not say "You see that you are not serious about writing at all", but to say: "Mom found that you have several words that are well-written, horizontal and vertical, and one look is seriously written." ”
The child's sense of competence is awakened by the parents little by little, and he will be more conscious and more serious.
Baby, are you happy with your performance?
Among the many good qualities, I am most concerned about whether my daughter has her own independent personality.
I want her to be sober and independent, and not to change her position because of anyone's rendering;
I want her to be confident and proud, and not to change her self-perception because of the evaluation of others.
So, whenever she finishes something, before encouraging her, I ask her, "Are you happy with what you just did?" ”
This is telling her that your judgment of yourself should be put first, and your own feelings are the most important.
Baby, it's okay, it's not a big deal
Many parents believe that their children love to lie because of bad character. In fact, children lie mostly because their parents have overreacted to his mistakes.
If the child makes a mistake, the parents can calmly and calmly tell him: "It doesn't matter, it's not terrible to make a mistake, and the mother will work with you to find a way to remedy it." ”
Let your child know that no matter what happens, Mom and Dad will stand with you, and Mom and Dad love you unconditionally.
In this way, the child will have a sense of security, and he will be willing to tell his parents about any problems in the future.
Parenting is a systematic project, and the more parents do, the better their children will grow.
Blowing, yelling, and punishing may be immediate, but parents love their children, and their plans are far-reaching.
If you want to change your child, of course, you must start by changing yourself. Educating children and guiding children to deal with emotions is never a simple process, and parents need to be patient and lead by example. After all, the road to parenting is a long way to go.
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