Recently, there have been several "letters of renunciation" from elementary school students!
"If I get married, don't come, and I won't attend your funeral!"
"Let's break off our friendship!" What love and hope, pull it down! "I think the child's character should be started first, and then the parents should decide whether to help or not."
My son is still in kindergarten, and he also has conflicts with his classmates from time to time, often this classmate is bad and that classmate is bad. Today this classmate touched him, tomorrow the classmate hit him, and in a few days he will naturally reconcile. I understand that my son's personality is more sensitive, and a little thing in his heart is bigger than the sky. But one thing is better, I will communicate with me when I go home.
If I think it's not a big deal, I will enlighten myself, and if I feel that it is more serious, I will communicate with the teacher and let the teacher help coordinate. For example, I and my girlfriend who graduated from elementary school until high school, only because my score in the college entrance examination exceeded her too much, so she no longer paid attention to me, and I did not want to accommodate her who was so jealous, and cancelled the agreed graduation trip. Now they have families and live in different cities, and there is no longer any connection. People are social animals need to live in groups, there will be contradictions in groups, and how to deal with contradictions is what we need to learn.
In the process of children's growth, these learnings are necessary. If his parents always help him deal with it, then how will he know how to get along with people when he grows up? How to resolve the contradiction? Parents can let go appropriately and let the children handle it on their own. Elementary school students write a book full of rituals. In fact, parents should not be too involved in this kind of thing. The intervention of parents will make things worse, and children are angry and contradictory for a while, and they will soon be reconciled.
Many times adults are not as good as children, emotional intelligence, IQ, and reverse intelligence are not as good as children.
Look at how cute the children are, if they are always cute, this requires parents to give more love to their children. Words are not as good as deeds. The most important thing parents can do for their children is to lead the integrity of the mind, the broad mind and the character of helping others.
As a parent who is manic and restless in dealing with a small matter in front of his children, can the child learn well? Why do you always feel so capable? I think the child's personality should be started first, and then the parents should decide whether to help or not. My son is still in kindergarten, and he also has conflicts with his classmates from time to time, often this classmate is bad and that classmate is bad. Today this classmate touched him, tomorrow the classmate hit him, and in a few days he will naturally reconcile.
I understand that my son's personality is more sensitive, and a little thing in his heart is bigger than the sky. But one thing is better, I will communicate with me when I go home. If I think it's not a big deal, I will enlighten myself, and if I feel that it is more serious, I will communicate with the teacher and let the teacher help coordinate.