Recently, Ren Zeping's team has attracted the attention of the whole network, and his proposal of "letting the central bank print 2 trillion yuan more, specifically used to reward the masses to have children" has been ridiculed by various fancy.
May be monitored by big data, the mobile phone has popped up a lot of push to give birth to the second and third children.
I saw a post like this on a certain platform:
"I am an only child, the child is more than one year old, I am afraid that the child is too lonely in the process of growing up, and when I am old, the pressure of my daughter taking care of us is too great, I want to take advantage of the fact that I am still young and seize the second child, and my parents still have the energy to help take care of it." But the wife has always insisted on not wanting, what to do? ”
The words are full of worry and incomprehension of the wife, which makes the enthusiastic netizens excited, and I can't help but say: Whether to have a second child or not.
Strange reasons for persuasion
I believe that many first-born mothers will have such an experience, when the boss can just catch his breath, he will receive enthusiastic "love" from relatives, friends or pig teammates:
"The child is not tired/ going to kindergarten, it is time to consider the second eldest."
The reasons they give are very legitimate:
"One child is too lonely, two can accompany each other".
If parents are willing to patiently accompany their children to grow up, even if there is only one, the child will not feel lonely.
On the contrary, if parents do not have the time and energy to spend on their children, one child is called lonely, and two children are called group loneliness!
Others will play the banner of the boss:
"You see, the children have said that they want a younger brother and sister."
Can a four- or five-year-old child understand what he means when he says it? In the context of his utterance, was he seduced?
Or, when he wants someone to play with him, he wants a younger brother and sister, and when he wants him to share the little cake in his hand, he is still happy!
People are fickle, let alone children!
Others take a very long-term view:
"Two children, the pressure of old-age care will be less in the future."
There is a paragraph: raising children does not prevent aging, sunscreen is to prevent aging.
Whenever I see the seventy- or eighty-year-old grandmother in the community still holding on to the two sons to take turns to have a second child, I especially want to ask: Is your adoptive child's dream of preventing old age still awake?
We parents this time are all accepting the great changes of the times, let alone the children of the future.
My grandmother and grandfather have not been in good health for the past two years, my mother and their four brothers and sisters, all in one city, can now take turns to take care of the elderly every day. But this situation, just in our generation, is unlikely to happen.
The youth of our generation is a vigorous urbanization, we live in the city, our parents live in the suburbs, this is the fate of the times, the process of history.
Not to mention the next generation, their generation is destined to fly a long way, and when the time comes, the probability of not being in the same city with their parents and not in a country will be very high.
I predict that our generation may be the first people in China's history to truly accept the concept that "the elderly should be in a nursing home, and do not have to rely on children".
The problem of aging is a big issue of the times, and the future pension environment will certainly be much better than it is now.
Therefore, instead of relying on the sharing of the pension, it is better to make more money by yourself, find a high-quality pension community when you are old, and help the children reduce the drag.
There is also an old saying:
Only those who have sons and daughters are called good, and those who are both sons and daughters are called blessings.
Regarding the gender of the child, the older generation is very persistent, and there are many statements, such as:
"If you don't have a son, you will never be able to do it, and it will be a great filial piety."
"Without a son, I will not see my ancestors."
"Only a woman and a child can make up a 'good' word, otherwise it is not perfect."
Well...... All 2022, this concept, I directly do not want to make a comment...
Not having a second child is selfishness
In life, if you directly refuse not to be born, many old mothers will often be tied to a "selfish" high hat, and even change from a five-good youth to a white-eyed wolf, and even gasp for breath.
Although the times have been changing and the status of women is not what it used to be, when it comes to having children and raising children, the whole society tacitly accepts that this is a woman's business.
It's like knowing that the spit on the mother doesn't give me a second child?
Because the final decision on whether to be born or not is in the woman, the biggest pressure on whether to be born or not is also in the woman, and the biggest pot is also in the woman.
But in fact, at present, the division of labor of most families is that they have their own careers. As a result, working mothers are taking care of their families and children.
And dads, simply take care of their careers is enough, they can take their children to play on weekends, and they are considered model husbands in the eyes of others!
But raising children is no big deal, only who cares, who knows!
If you ask Dad:
Do you know how big your child's clothes and shoes are?
Do you know when he will next get vaccinated?
Do you know the last name of your child's kindergarten teacher or homeroom teacher?
Do you know how long your child's after-school interest classes should be renewed?
90% of the answers will be not knowing.
Writer Tang Xiao novel good:
It's so hard to be a mom in China, it's not right for you not to have children for work, and it's not right to just take your children and not work. It's not right for you to ask your family to help with your children, and it's not right for you to take care of your own work with your children.
The mother that this society needs is not only able to earn millions a year, but also to be able to carry a baby alone, to have a second child, and to run a happy marriage.
But Mother is a human being, not a god.
Is it selfish to live the life you want? It is really selfish to ask others to live according to their own wishes.
It is really selfish to have a baby in this way
Those who do not consider factors such as family economy, work conditions, and parenting environment, but have a baby with a head covered are really selfish, especially for children.
Remember the internet celebrity who killed the fish brother.
In 2010, 9-year-old boy Meng Yang became popular on the Internet for a video of killing fish.
In the video, he simply kills fish and scrapes scales, his eyes are sharp, and his movements are sophisticated, which is amazing.
What many people don't know is that Meng Yang has five younger siblings, and in about 10 years, his mother was either pregnant or breastfeeding a child, basically one every other year.
There are too many children, unable to support, can only work hard, and several children are raised in fish basins.
Meng Mu said: "He and I (Meng Father) often quarrel, and when we quarrel, our mood is very low, there are many things, and we can't take care of our children. ”
Meng Father, tired at work, husband and wife discord, bad mood often beat the child, once, he tied Meng Yang with wire to beat, the eyes almost blind.
His parents are busy at work, and Meng Yang has to help kill and sell fish. At the age of 13, he dropped out of school completely, and almost every day after that was spent in a busy and fishy cycle.
Later, he appeared in the news twice: once when he quarreled with his parents and drank medicine to commit suicide, and once when he fought with his father with the people in the vegetable market.
He has been depressed, painful, struggling and unable to get out, and he regrets the most: because he did not study well, he could not recognize the road signs when he went out.
Raising cats and dogs must consider the feelings of cats and dogs, but some parents have children at will.
When the child grows up, he complains: You have not handled your own life well, so why give birth to me and let me suffer with you?
Only then will we truly understand what selfishness is!
Men are the base of women's births
When the movie star Mei Ting gave birth to her first child, she almost died because of the return of amniotic fluid. One child is so thrilling, at the age of 41, she still fought for a second child.
Where does the courage come from?
Once, a family of three appeared at the airport, Mei Ting was responsible for the beauty of the flowers, and the husband was responsible for taking care of the children and dragging luggage throughout the process.
In an interview, Mei Ting revealed that in the first year of giving birth to her second child, every night when the baby's crying sounded, her husband Zeng Jian got up for the first time, hugging and coaxing and rushing milk, all kinds of busy work.
All-inclusive housework, all-inclusive with a baby, and the problem of money are not a problem!
No wonder Mei Ting herself couldn't help but say, "My fate is very good, right?" ”
Teammates actively assumed their own family responsibilities, and the mother had the courage and confidence to have a second child.
Those men who complain that their wives refuse to have a second child may wish to reflect on whether they are Ye Gong in the "Ye Gong Good Dragon".
Before having a baby, holding someone else's child is very much liked. When the child is born, it immediately runs away without a trace.
Yes, compared to "making milk powder for the baby, reading picture books, collecting toys, playing football", sitting on the sofa and brushing the mobile phone, clubbing with friends, it is not fragrant!
If the father himself is completely unprepared for sacrifice, then don't blame the wife for not having a second child.
Not to mention the second child, the third child is also OK
Somehow that question, see a reply:
My wife suddenly agreed to have a second child, I was surprised, and later I learned that it was my father who promised to give my wife 500,000 yuan, and my wife changed her mind. How can I have such a wife? What am I going to do? Do you want to divorce her?
The subtext of this netizen: How can the wife be so snobbish!
The comments section turned out to be one-sided: this wife is very sane!
Although money is not omnipotent, it is impossible to have a second child without money.
I have a girlfriend who still has a good look and a good body after giving birth to three children in a row, and her life is moist and happy, how to do it?
Her husband and father-in-law run a small business that is not too busy, but financially completely worry-free. The mother-in-law has a cheerful and optimistic personality, and especially likes to accompany the baby. I work in a state-owned enterprise and work easily.
Chores and children are properly arranged. She put on makeup every day and went to work with a light body. Come home from work and hug the big one, kiss the little one, and the husband is sweet and sweet.
In such a life, who would refuse to give birth to a crystallization of love!
I think that not to mention the second child, the third child can also be born, as long as the family situation meets one or more of these conditions:
1. The economy is worry-free, and having a second child will not sacrifice the existing quality of life.
2. Have a very competent baby dad who can go up whenever you need it.
3. The husband and wife have harmonious feelings and can give children a warm and loving growth environment.
4. Both husband and wife are conscientious and responsible, and having a second child will not lower the standard of parenting for the first child.
5. The elderly who have the right body and concept can become the stable backer of the little couple.
6. Especially like children, it is difficult to buy their own willingness with money, and they can stand up with tears when they encounter any difficulties. It is not difficult to be a mother, it is difficult to be a responsible mother, and it is even more difficult to be a responsible mother without any help!
If you have the heart to bring a whole new life into this world, it is recommended that you make decisions regardless of gender and no one's urging.
We must be fully prepared psychologically and almost humanally and economically.