In the Chinese music scene in 2003, there were many newcomers.
Sha Baoliang, who has been in the song world for 10 years, finally sang popular with "Dark Incense";
Li Jian, who left the "Mizuki Nianhua", released a personal creation album that exudes aesthetic and humanistic atmosphere, "Like the Year of Water Flow";
Park Shu's "Born like a Summer Flower" was a pursuit of the literary and artistic youth of that era.
Qu Ying, who did not want to be an actor and was not a good singer, sang the song "Acceleration" and quickly appeared on the stage of major performances.
With "Now", Na Ying won two awards of Best Female Singer and Most Popular Female Singer in mainland China in the third edition of the Music Awards.
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On that side, the Chinese music scene like a god fighting is surging up;
On this side, 25 years old, He Jing, who is at the peak of his career, retires from the circle for love.
In the ever-changing entertainment industry, it is not unusual to become popular and retreat.
01
The year He Jing withdrew from the entertainment industry was the second year that she became popular in the mainland and Hong Kong and Taiwan music scenes with "The Moon Steals crying".
In 2001, with this song, she won all the music awards in the mainland, Hong Kong and Taiwan, surpassing Na Ying and Han Hong, and becoming the most expensive female singer in the mainland.
At that time, a performance, 70,000 or 80,000 appearance fees were standard.
Rich, sweet and young, the future is unlimited, at that time, the expectations of people around her were to hope that she would be more refined in her career and have higher musical attainments.
Except for her mother.
"Find a good person and marry" is a mother's highest expectation for her 23-year-old daughter.
The profession of singer, although the scenery is infinite, is wandering and full of uncertainty;
Moreover, the colorful entertainment circle, temptations frequently beckon, a little careless will fall into darkness.
Her mother's concerns were not unfounded.
When she was 18 years old and just became an adult, her singing career had just started, and He Jing stubbornly married Gao Dalin, an 11-year-old musician who was 11 years older than her, despite the opposition and obstruction of her mother and teacher.
At the age of 18, when the love sinus first opened, she was young and naïve, she childishly believed in love at first sight, believed in the hand of the son and the son with the old age.
And the lonely and courageous belief did not bring her a happy ending, and half a year later, the marriage ended in a divorce.
29-year-old Gao Dalin, in love with the 30-year-old, divorced, more understanding of the deep love of shallow love and hatred of Qianbaihui.
He Jing, who is not familiar with the world, cries and makes trouble, but a man is in love with another woman with an iron heart, what else can save his heart?
Having experienced the baptism that love will disappear, the increasingly mature He Jing also understood that the self who regarded love and family as an eternal pursuit in the past was unrealistic.
Men will change their hearts, love will disappear, only career, as long as they work hard, they will be rewarded.
After sorting out her mood, she threw herself into her singing career.
Finally, in 1996, it was on the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, and the road to acting began to be smooth.
02
The career is booming, the money is full of money, and the fans' following and love has not given He Jing's mother a little comfort.
The sadness of traditional women is that they think that the only thing that can become a safe haven is "home".
The mother, who urged her daughter to marry, did not examine that her own seemingly complete home did not bring happiness to her daughter.
The father of the son preference, because of He Jing's birth, his face is becoming increasingly ugly;
Raising a family by one person and eating with three mouths;
Quarrels have become a common thing in this family, and young He Jing, often becomes a victim of her parents' quarrels, and being beaten has become a common thing;
Until the father didn't bother to put up with the mother and daughter anymore and filed for divorce.
At that time, divorce was not as common as it is today, divorced women always had to accept the world's pointing, and the mother who cried into tears may not be able to figure out how to live to this point.
But for the sake of her daughter, the thought of dying turned into determination: "No matter what, we must raise our daughter to adulthood." ”
Maybe it's because it's not easy for a woman to pull a child to grow up;
Maybe it's because I want to have a stable home in my stormy life;
Despite his marriage, he did not become a "safe haven" for himself and his daughter;
But He Jing's mother still projected a beautiful fantasy about the family on her daughter.
He Jing, who was hurt by her first ridiculous marriage, realized: Listen to her mother's words and don't let her get hurt.
The filial piety He Jing began the road of blind date, settled down early, and reassured her mother early.
03
When she married Zhu Xiaodong, a reporter interviewed her, and she said: "Maybe this is true love." ”
At that time, there were not many people who could understand her love.
Zhu Xiaodong, who is four years older than her, looks like a middle-aged man in his 40s, and his appearance is a little ugly.
Two people stood together, like father and daughter.
It is not a good match, and it is the first impression of everyone.
Many fans can't figure out, He Jing, who is sweet and beautiful, why should she marry such a man?
Until Zhu Xiaodong's "giant" stature was exposed.
Everyone, sighed silently.
In the face of materialism and pampering, no one can resist the temptation of vanity.
Zhu Xiaodong's romance with He Jing, until now, there are not many girls who can resist living.
Once, He Jing's birthday, he chartered a club, invited a lot of friends, the hall is full of He Jing's photos, looping her songs, rose petals of various colors from the door all the way to the hall.
Zhu Xiaodong, who was not proud of her, dressed in a white suit, held a large diamond ring, and knelt in front of her: "Xiao Jing, you don't have to play, from the first day I saw you, I had feelings, no matter how far I ran, it was my wife." ”
Rich and romantic, golden and dedicated.
Isn't this the gentle president drama in the TV series? This is what many girls dream of.
Despite the fact that the president is ugly, no one is perfect.
He Jing, who was already dizzy from the romantic attack, had a little uneasiness in his heart.
There are no two people who have been with each other steadily, there is no common experience in daily life, and there is no truth in personality.
Inner uneasiness is inevitable.
No one's day can be forever smoked in romance and pampering, after all, real life is not a TV series.
Peace of mind is the place to be.
But the slightest uneasiness in He Jing's heart was forced under the illusory appearance.
Single-family villas, a lot of nanny drivers, on the one hand, gave He Jing a sense of reality, she thought she had met a successful person with a successful career; on the other hand, she was given a sense of security, the entertainment industry is changing rapidly, which day she is not popular, you can also go home to be a rich and broad wife.
A man who wants to cheat on a woman's love, that's too easy.
Women are sensual animals that overflow with virginity, compassion, and compassion.
04
Married to Zhu Xiaodong, He Jing believes that she has an element of compassion.
Because, Zhu Xiaodong chased her, chasing too hard.
The favor of the people before and after, if it is pretended.
The man who was willing to die for the woman he loved completely satisfied He Jing's vanity.
Before fully accepting Zhu Xiaodong, He Jing mentioned breaking up.
Zhu Xiaodong involuntarily swallowed a whole bottle of sleeping pills and passed out after 10 minutes.
Frightened, He Jing reacted half a day to call an ambulance, and it took dozens of minutes of rescue to get him out of danger.
At that time, He Jing's heart was sad and sweet.
In this world, the chances of meeting a man who is willing to give his life for you are very small.
But He Jing, did not carefully examine this man, this kind of behavior.
Men who are going to commit suicide because of the breakup, isn't this forcing them to die?
Originally, those who spent their time to please can add points;
Isn't the compulsion that can be forced to die extreme?
A man is willing to exchange his life for your love, so what do you pay to exchange his life?
On the day of receiving the marriage license, Zhu Xiaodong invited the staff of the registration office to his home.
As a result, the marriage became a duck on the shelves and had to be married.
Zhu Xiaodong's extremism, perhaps He Jing had been aware of, but they had become too much in the powerful favor, not enough to be taken seriously.
But after marriage, his darkness is suffocating.
He restricted her from going out, restricted her from interacting with insiders, and said, "There are some good people in your circle, the men are rogues, the women are chickens." ”
He Jing was locked up at home, and any performance had to be approved by him and accompanied by him.
His surveillance was everywhere, putting a voice recorder under the bed and secretly asking the babysitter about her whereabouts.
Part of his captivity for He Jing was due to his selfishness and dark jealousy; on the other hand, he didn't want people in the circle who knew him as a person to tell He Jing anything about him.
When he knew that the villa was rented, He Jing cried and laughed.
05
The villa is rented, the business is empty shell, and the work is the cheating of the white wolf with empty gloves;
Everything about Zhu Xiaodong turned out to be fake.
When she realized that Zhu Xiaodong was paranoid and dark, He Jing knew that her marriage was a mistake, but it was still because of vanity, so loving and happy before marriage, and divorced just after marriage, which is not a joke.
Knocking out teeth and swallowing blood, a stomach of bitterness, with the arrival of the child, are also swallowed into the stomach.
He Jing, who has a child, accepts the fact that Zhu Xiaodong has no money and endures his deception, paranoia and darkness.
But Zhu Xiaodong's deception did not stop because of this.
Borrowing money everywhere in the name of He Jing, when He Jing signed, he asked him in fear, is this really a business order?
He looked angry: "Others don't believe that I'm okay, you're my wife, and you don't believe me?" ”
Zhu Xiaodong was well versed in deception.
Perhaps, when he first chased He Jing, he really liked it, and he might chase after it, and he found that using her was also a good choice.
At least you can make your life more colorful.
In November 2007, Zhu Xiaodong, who was arrested and imprisoned for fraud, could no longer hide all his darkness.
Fraud, gambling, raising a lover, tens of millions of debts, He Jing did not dare to think.
When Zhu Xiaodong was begging Bai Lai to chase After He Jing, He Jing's mother had advised her: "Look for her husband don't want to look like anything, just be good to you, you can look at his eyes, other women don't look, looking for a husband you have to find this kind of down-to-earth and stable." ”
This remark, at the end of this marriage farce, is really ironic and helpless to think about.
Three views are positive, good character, should be the first key to love;
And for your own good, this kind of low-cost payment, which man can also do it in a dress.
People are ugly and weird, and in Zhu Xiaodong's body, it is vividly embodied.
On the day of the divorce, He Jing signed an IOU of 3 million yuan, which was Zhu Xiaodong's divorce condition.
Want to get a divorce, take the money in exchange.
In a calculating marriage, this man has never pitied this woman, alone with children, his career is stagnant, his debts have to be repaid, and he has to exploit her for 3 million.
This man's selfishness, from the day he chased her, was actually unmistakable,
It was only under the double catalysis of vanity and maternal love that she chose to turn a blind eye.
Later, He Jing, for the sake of her children, lived the same shaky life as her mother.
Earn money to pay off debts, raise daughters, experience car accidents, get sick, and come to 50 years old.
He also suffered all the sufferings for his original love of vanity and wrong choice.
06
The first marriage, because of childishness and rebellion; the second, because of vanity and compassion.
He Jing never seemed to know what kind of love she wanted in her heart, perhaps because of the unhappiness of her original family, so that she did not understand what true love was.
Because she had never seen the look of happy love.
Halfway through her life, her ups and downs also made her begin to live more really, coming out of the absurd marriage of love and vanity and sinking into life.
Everyone chooses a lover by a different standard, either because of the three views, or because of interest, or because of love at first sight.
But everyone must be clear about a truth, those illusory and deceptive appearances, will certainly be expressed in every word and deed, as long as you are willing to open your eyes, the truth is in front of you.
Don't be blinded by ridiculous love.
(Original is not easy, and see and cherish)
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