This is a one-year-old and 9-month-old Yan Jie, don't look at his appearance, but in fact, he is a powerful little bully.
He had just played with a few children, and soon two of them began to cry, all of which he had hit.
Grandma has always had a headache about this, so she is reluctant to take him out, but the more strict the management, the more fierce Xiao Yanjie will make trouble next time.
This is probably a problem that many children brought by the elderly will encounter, especially some left-behind elderly people, many of the children brought out are either lonely or rebellious, where is the problem?
In order to solve the problem of education for left-behind children, Cai Jianhua from the National Health Commission led a team to do a pilot project in Twelve Ridges Village, Shaanxi Province, and set up an early childhood development center.
This is the first batch of activities for the education of rural children in China, and on the first day of opening the door, parents who were notified came with their children, including many left-behind elderly and left-behind mothers.
Twelve Ridges village is a remote mountain village, and many adults go out to work, leaving their children at home for the elderly to take.
Many elderly people with children are holding and playing, and then coaxing them to eat and sleep, and the Jie family is the most typical representative.
And here's the problem, they think that children who are a few years old can't communicate, usually don't communicate with children, but in fact, children can receive information in a few months.
Just as the so-called 3-year-old sees the old, 0-3 years old is the key period of children's development, 80% of the basic abilities including personality and brain development, basically at this time has been fully formed.
If there is a lack of communication and education at this time, it may affect the foundation of a lifetime.
On this day, the Twelve Ridges Village Child Development Center was officially opened, which contains a variety of recreational and cultural equipment, as well as a caretaker and a nursery teacher.
Professor Luo, a parenter from Peking University, was full of confidence and began to teach parents, but just a moment later the center made a mess of porridge.
The mischievous Yu Jie snatched the other child's things, one child was scratched by his ears, one child was bitten by his nose, and the grandmother helplessly took him out and beat him up, and then apologized to the other parent.
At this time, the professor saw the opportunity to teach, and he found that Yu Jie did not deliberately want to fight, but that he wanted toys and could not express it, so he took the opportunity to do an experiment:
"Do you like glasses, I'll give you to wear, you don't take them, put your hands down, and then, you can't take them, put them here, you can wear them, but you can't take them, you can't move your hands."
There is nothing wrong with children's desire to express their needs, but many elderly people cannot understand it, resulting in children having to do it in the wrong way.
He said that at this time, we must pay attention to the needs of the child, and patiently guide and communicate with him, the child can perceive the attitude of the adult, teach them to meet the needs in the right way, and the child can understand the reason.
And if you blindly indulge or restrain the child, the child will naturally continue to be wrong.
Hearing Professor Luo's words, Grandma Yan Jie suddenly became enlightened, and when she returned home, she and her old partner called Yu Jie's father.
Both old men were happy to have someone paying attention to them and the children.
But at the same time, Grandpa Yan Jie has a big regret, not long ago he was diagnosed with advanced cancer, there is no point in curing it, he can only hang at home, and he can save a little money.
He really wanted to take his granddaughter and Yu Jie a little longer, but his body was getting weaker and weaker, and sometimes he couldn't even hold Yu Jie.
Now all the farm work and the care of the two children in the family fell on Grandma Yu Jie, who was still strong and strong, and she began to use Professor Luo's method to educate Yu Jie.
But in the face of the always mischievous Jie, she still can't help but solve the problem with a beating.
This spring is about to pass in the blink of an eye, Grandpa Yao Jie can no longer stand up, And Grandpa Yan Jie's father rushed back from the field overnight, guiltily guarding his father's bedside.
For not being able to give the old man a good life, Yu Jie's father was very guilty, but grandpa in turn comforted him with limited conditions, as long as they were good in the future.
Father and son were relatively speechless, and finally each sighed helplessly, and on May 23, Grandpa Yu Jie finally passed away.
The family was shrouded in a sad and oppressive atmosphere, and the always mischievous Yan Jie did not understand the meaning of death, but he could already feel the sad atmosphere, he quietly nestled in his grandmother's arms, and this time did not take the initiative to make a mess.
After the funeral, Yu Jie's parents stayed at home for a while, but Yu Jie and his mother were not familiar with each other, and at first he preferred to go around and ignore his grandmother rather than go to his mother, and then it was not easy to get better, and his mother was about to leave.
Because his sister was about to enter primary school, his mother took his sister with him when he left, and his father stayed at home for a while longer, but after burning seven or seven pieces of paper, he also had to go out to work immediately.
In this way, in the end of the great family, only two people were left, Yu Jie and Grandma.
Because he had interrupted going to the children's center before, and He jie did not have his sister as a playmate, he may feel lonely and his temper is more uncontrolled.
On this day, Yu Jie did not eat well, and also broke the plug of the electric fan, and his grandmother lost his temper and scolded him, and he ignored it.
In the afternoon, Grandma took him to the Children's Center, but not long after he went, Yu Jie scratched the face of another child, and Grandma took him home in anger, and the teacher of the center also followed him, wanting to discuss with Grandma what to do.
However, Yu Jie kept crying and crying for Grandpa, and in a fit of anger, Grandma locked him up in the small bedroom and let him cry enough before he came out.
Yan Jie, who was locked up in the small black room, cried very sadly, and finally his grandmother took him out, and he continued to cry for half a day.
Because parents are not around for a long time, always come back and leave, children like Yan Jie are often insecure, sometimes there is no way to express, only some grumpy behavior to show.
And Grandma was afraid that he would cause trouble and looked very tightly, and the more she looked at it, the more tightly Jie jie came back and fell into a dead loop, which was the authorities who were obsessed with bystanders.
On this day, the administrator of the development center, the mother of the day, deliberately took Yu Jie to the home to play with her children, her educational philosophy is diametrically opposed to her grandmother, as long as she does not foul up, she never restricts the child and lets the child make friends by herself.
It turns out that the child does need some freedom, but also in his own way to make friends, if always stick to it, this will not let touch that or let touch, but will make him more curious and more troublesome.
Only by giving him some space to meet normal needs, then he will not always get into trouble.
On this day, director Cai Jianhua, the advocate of the center, also came to visit Grandma Yu Jie, who also has grandchildren, so he knows the difficulty of the elderly with children, especially the elderly in the countryside.
They bear a lot of responsibility, let the children eat enough to wear and warm is already good, other things such as education methods, there is no external force between the difficult to change, and the meaning of the existence of the center is this.
The two old men talked about a lot of common language, and Grandma was also very touched: whichever provided me with experience I accepted, I received, and gradually changed.
In fact, some things are not that the elderly do not learn, but that no one teaches them, and what they fear most is that no one pays attention to them, and no one is willing to take care of them.
Nowadays, Grandma Jie jie goes to the development center every day and is also improving the method of education little by little.
Children brought by the elderly have always been criticized, but this is not only the problem of the elderly, but the problem of all parents and society as a whole.
There were about 51 million children in China in 2017, of which 40%-50% lived in rural areas and lost at the starting line from the beginning, which has different degrees of impact on their future development and even the development of the country.
Elderly grandparents take care of young children, and because of their education and age, they often lack understanding of education, either too doting or too much conservative constraint.
Because of the instability of their work, the parents of the backbone cannot always accompany their children, and in the children's concern and struggle for survival, they can only helplessly compromise to survival.
But for many of us, the meaning of making money lies in our children, and the development of the country in the next 20 years is also in these young children.
Their early education is crucial, and despite the long road, fortunately there is now a group of people who are working to change the barren soil of education in the countryside.
Let the children of poor families receive scientific early education in the most critical three years, form a sound personality, and then be cured by childhood all their lives, rather than being wrapped in the shadow of childhood and curled up.
This job is really meaningful and urgent, and as the documentary ends, we look forward to giving our children two permanent inheritances, one is the root and the other is the wing.