A mother once complained to me that she was increasingly disliked her children and felt that her children were becoming more and more annoying.
Every day to quarrel at home, take him out of the house to argue for toys, eat a meal break for a while to play for a while, lose your temper and adults at every turn, reason with him well is not willing to listen, every time you are angry with yourself yelled at him, but after scolding yourself will regret self-blame, I don't know what to do.
In fact, this is a very normal mentality, and many parents have had this mentality.
So how do we get out of this state?
First of all, we have to think about the reasons for these problems? Whose problem is it?
1. It's the child's problem
Children grow up, their autonomy sprouts, they have rebellious emotions, and they always like to work against adults and deliberately sabotage. Rebellious and willful is a child's growth process must experience things, but also the child gradually towards maturity signs, parents to understand the children behind the rebellion behind the ideas and needs, guide children to correctly express their needs and wishes, in order to reduce the emergence of family conflicts.
2. It's a parent's problem
Parents are also ordinary people and will have their own anxieties and troubles. Work pressure, life pressure makes adults' emotions highly tense, if parents come home from work just to see the child in mischievous trouble, it is easy to control their emotions, yelling at the child.
Therefore, parents should try to avoid bringing bad emotions at work home, educate children with reason, and do not educate children with emotions.
3. It is a problem of family ecological environment
Sometimes the child's problem is just a symptom, and behind it may be a deeper contradiction within the family. In the family, the child is in a disadvantageous position because of weakness, as long as there are disharmonious factors within the family, the first to be hurt must be the child.
There are many families where the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, and the parent-child relationship is also not harmonious. Because adults will transfer their dissatisfaction with their partners to their children, they will control their children if they cannot control their partners.
If you feel that your child has become disliked by you, you can think about whether your family is experiencing these situations. Find the root causes to find a solution.
In the process of children's growth, he will definitely appear for a period of time naughty, rebellious, willful, only parents to carry out the correct guidance, children can change these bad problems.
Every child has a lot of energy, as long as parents do not always stare at the shortcomings of the child, you can see the shining point of the child. Parents should be more patient with their children, and the more encouragement and praise they have for their children, the better their children will become.
In addition, parents must love themselves well, take care of their emotions, know how to love themselves, in order to learn to love others, only the parents' mood is happy, in order to create a healthy and loving family environment for children, and a loving family can cultivate a healthy and excellent child.