The Republic of China period was an era of fierce confrontation between the old and the new. In the Chinese all aspects of the time broke out between the old and the new, and the important field of marriage and love was naturally no exception.
At that time, people still believed in the "words of the matchmaker", and even the influential literati in the new cultural movement could not escape this big net.
Lu Xun's mother set a marriage for him in his youth, that is, Zhu An. She has been waiting for Lu Xun to return from studying in Japan, although Lu Xun is reluctant in his heart, but he can't resist his mother's will, although he married Juan, but the two have never been married.
However, in the Republic of China period, there was also such a couple, the man was a doctor who returned from the United States, and the woman was a small-footed village girl. The marriage between the two is unusually stable and warm, and zhang Ailing called it: "It is a rare happy arranged marriage" Who are they and why is it a rare "happy marriage"
Big Doctor and LittleFoot Village Girl
In the sixth year of the Republic of China, a spirited young man took a tour from the United States to the motherland that had been separated for a long time, and as soon as he returned, he received a warm invitation from Mr. Cai Yuanpei, the president of Peking University, asking him to teach at Peking University and join the new cultural movement together.
This young man is Hu Shi, in the sixth year of the Republic of China, Hu Shi got a doctoral diploma from Cornell University in the United States, deeply influenced by Western culture, he returned to the poor and weak motherland, hoping to use his own strength to change this old society.
Hu Shi, who was twenty-six years old at the time, was of marriageable age, but he never had a girlfriend. In fact, when he was in the United States, he once had a confidant with a red face, but the two were also "affectionate and polite." "There was no transgression.
The reason is that Hu Shi's mother did not want him to find a foreign daughter-in-law, or hoped that he would find a down-to-earth girl to live according to the traditional Chinese marriage, so when Hu Shi was a child, she set a marriage for him, the girl of the Jiang family, Jiang Dongxiu.
Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu made a marriage contract at a young age, waiting for the two sides to grow up and get married smoothly. However, Hu Shi studied well and obtained the qualification to study in the United States at public expense, and as Hu Shi went to the United States, the marriage was shelved.
When Hu Shi returned from the United States, Jiang Dongxiu, who thought he had married someone else, had been waiting for him, because he had waited too long to become an "old girl" of that era. So Hu Shi mentioned the marriage again, and he took gifts to Jiangdong Xiu's house, hoping to meet this wife who had never been seen before.
When the people of the Jiang family saw Hu Shi coming, they asked Jiang Dongxiu to come out to meet her future husband, but Jiang Dongxiu resolutely did not see, in her consciousness, it was very inappropriate for two people to meet directly without marriage, although the elders of the Jiang family wanted to open the curtain on Jiang Dongxiu's bed to let Jiang Dongxiu and Hu Shi meet, but Hu Shi stopped it.
Hu Shi has always been educated as a gentleman, and he will not do anything against the will of women. Although he did not see Jiang Dongxiu's face, Hu Shi did not say anything and went back, but he asked himself in his heart: With such a girl, will you really be happy.
Although he thought about this problem, his filial piety overshadowed the problem itself, Hu Shi was brought up by his mother, and he did not want his mother to be sad.
The two soon married, and after marriage, Jiang Dongxiu completed the job of housewife very competently; she gave birth to two sons after marriage, and she would cook a good dish. For this reason, Hu Shi grew a wave of faces in front of his colleagues.
Some colleagues have no relatives, they drift alone in Beijing North, Jiang Dongxiu also makes the master to celebrate the birthday of others, and personally makes the famous emblem dish "Yipin Pot". Congratulations on their birthdays.
The legendary "tigress"
Hu Shi has always had a rumor that he is afraid of his wife, and even he has happily established the Fear of Wives Association, and the reason why there is such a rumor is also related to an extramarital affair of Hu Shi.
When Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu were married, Hu Shi's cousin Cao Chengying also came to the wedding. Also served as a bridesmaid.
In April 1923, Hu Shi went south to Hangzhou to recuperate, when Cao Chengying was also there, responsible for taking care of Hu Shi's body, Jiang Dongxiu also wrote to Hu Shi after hearing about it: "Pei Sheng (Cao Chengying) takes care of you, I am very relieved, but she is not very good, often go to the stove to do dishes, the weather is too hot, afraid that her body can not stand it, I listened to it very uneasy, please ask you to ask another cook, so as not to make everyone work hard." ”
What Jiang Dongxiu did not know at this time was that her husband and Cao Chengying were chanting poems and making love in the beautiful scenery of Hangzhou, talking about love, and did not seriously "recuperate".
After returning, Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu made a request for divorce.
Jiang Dongxiu understood the truth of the matter, although she was betrayed by two close people in her heart, but she still calmly said: "Don't have to divorce such a twist, wait until I kill two children, and then commit suicide." ”
Saying that he really wanted to kill the child with a knife, He scared Hu Shi to hurry to block it, and was thrown over by Jiang Dongxiu in front of a vase, fortunately Hu Shi hid quickly and did not break the picture.
Since then, the flame of love has gradually been replaced by calm, Hu Shi understands the preciousness of Jiang Dongxiu, he has deeply relied on the care of Jiang Dongxiu, and Cao Chengying, who is also a big miss, has difficulty taking care of Hu Shi's life, perhaps providing spiritual comfort, but people have to live by eating after all.
It wasn't long before Hu Shi sent Cao Chengying to the United States to study. At that time, Cao Chengying was actually pregnant, but Hu Shi's betrayal of her could only choose abortion.
Not only in the case of Cao Chengying, but also in the marriage of Xu Zhimo, Jiang Dongxiu's fierceness can also be seen.
Xu Zhimo, as an amorous prodigal son, first pursued Lin Huiyin, unsuccessfully, and then pursued Lu Xiaoman, only to forget his wife Zhang Youyi, and even let her go to the fetus despite the danger when his wife was pregnant with her second son.
In the end, the two divorced, xu Zhimo hooked up with Lu Xiaoman, who was a "must-see scenery" at that time, when Lu Xiaoman had a husband, and his husband Wang Geng still thought that he was a very good officer, but Lu Xiaoman did not like him.
In order to be able to successfully marry Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo called his literati friends to form a Hongmen banquet and forced Wang Geng to divorce, and after Jiang Dongxiu knew about it, he wrote in a letter to Hu Shi: "You will all write articles, I will not write articles, one day I will write the true face of you people, you are two faces." ”
Xu Zhimo asked Hu Shi to be a witness to the marriage, and Jiang Dongxiu did not allow it, and also locked Hu Shi at home, and Hu Shi still turned over the window to successfully catch the wedding.
summary
People in the world always say that Hu Shi's tolerance and understanding have made this nearly 40-year marriage exceptionally happy, but Jiang Dongxiu's life care and spiritual support are actually the reasons for this happy marriage.
Jiang Dongxiu saw a lot of things about the literati abandoning their wives, and knew that he could not be a resentful woman and let her husband lead the nose, so after knowing Hu Shi, he also actively studied cultural knowledge and let Hu Shi respect her. It eventually led to this happy marriage, which was rare in old China.