A good life requires four kinds of wisdom

Text/Minsheng Weekly

A contented heart

In life, many people are always used to comparison. Sick envy the health of others; married envy the dashing of single young people; have a stable job and envy the freedom of others to say and go...

In fact, no matter how glamorous it looks on the surface, there is an unknown bitterness behind everyone. And if we want to have happiness, we must learn not to compare and live steadily.

In the movie "Wrangler", the heroine Xiuzhi is such a hard-working and contented woman.

In the 1950s, Xiuzhi, who came from Sichuan to the Shulechuan Ranch, had no relatives and nowhere to live, was introduced by his enthusiastic and kind compatriots, and married Xu Lingjun, a bachelor who was fifteen years older than himself. Although Xu Lingjun is cultured, his family is surrounded by disciples, and Xiuzhi does not dislike him.

After marrying Xu Lingjun, Xiuzhi was industrious and capable, raising chickens, ducks and rabbits, taking off the adobe to build the courtyard wall by herself, and also gave Birth to Xu Lingjun a big fat boy, which is a rare good daughter-in-law in the eyes of neighbors. The most touching thing is that in the years when Xu Lingjun fell, she never gave up, never compared the lives of others, and worked hard for her own small family wholeheartedly.

When Xu Lingjun was later assigned to be a teacher at the village primary school, the villagers came to congratulate them. Xiuzhi said: "He is an official, and I am not rare; even if he puts a horse for another twenty years, I will not abandon it." ”

Yang Dai once wrote such a passage: "The heavens will not let all happiness be concentrated on someone, getting love may not get money, having money may not have happiness, getting happiness may not have health, and having health may not be everything as desired." ”

In fact, many of life's troubles come from dissatisfaction. If we always compare ourselves with others, obsessively chasing what we don't have, and ignoring what we already have, it will be difficult to experience happiness throughout our lives.

Only by restraining the greed in the heart, not to compare, and to enjoy what you have, can you truly live happily and calmly in an ordinary life.

Clumsy mouth

Confucius said: "A gentleman is sensitive to words and sensitive to deeds." Truly blessed people are often "clumsy.".

When Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai were young, they had a dispute over the pronunciation of a word. The two argued for a long time and said a lot of hurtful things. When the anger subsided, both of them felt very bored.

In the process of getting along with each other, people are too calculating about right and wrong, prone to quarrels, out of control of emotions, unspeakable, and hurt feelings.

Many people envy qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai's married life, envy such a family atmosphere, and the most important point is to envy them for always being tolerant and considerate of each other.

A harmonious family is not that there is no quarrel, but that no matter how strong the quarrel, it can be resolved in time, and the meaningless quarrel will not be allowed to wear away the fate of family affection. People who live thoroughly never argue about the high and low of their mouths. Even if you win for a while, you can't change the facts.

On the road of life, if you want people to be rich, you must first be rich and noble; if you want to be harmonious, you must first spare people. Do not argue about right and wrong, do not talk about right and wrong, and do not say harsh words.

And angry face

There is a saying in the Book of Rites: "Those who have harmony will have pleasure, and those who have pleasure will have grace." "A person's heart will always be revealed on the face.

Appearance is innate, and spiritual appearance is cultivated. Kind people always have a smile in the corners of their mouths and clear eyes, giving people a sense of comfort and closeness.

Song Qingling, who has been gentle and benevolent all his life, speaks softly, has never blushed with anyone, and is recognized as a good temper.

The writer Xiang Meili once wrote in the book "The Three Sisters of the Song Family": "Madame Sun spoke softly and slowly. "Song Qingling is very good to all the people around him, there is no shelf at all. Every time she went out, she would go downstairs 5 minutes early to wait for the driver. She also often sends money and clothes to those around her who need it.

For the nanny Li Yan'e, she is even more affectionate with the sisters, eating at the same table with her, talking and laughing. Li Yan'e is relatively fat, and Song Qingling has people specially modified a low bed to facilitate her rest. Later, Li Yan'e fell ill, and Song Qingling was very worried, personally took her to Beijing to see her, and asked someone to take care of her.

What kind of mind, what kind of face is displayed.

A person's appearance will be refracted from his heart, and the heart is full of love and warmth, and the face will naturally show an amiable look.

Gratitude

After Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu got engaged, Hu Shi went overseas for ten years, and Jiang Dongxiu took care of Hu Shi's mother for ten years as a wife.

After Hu Shi returned to China, he resolutely married Jiang Dongxiu.

"Hu Shi, who advocated the new cultural movement, finally accepted an arranged marriage and married a small-footed wife!" Once it became a joke of the Republic of China.

Zhang Ailing said that they are a rare example of happiness in old-style marriages. Hu Shi was so handsome and talented, but he stayed with her all his life, did not take concubines, and was so obedient.

He once said to his child, "Your mother can neither read nor write, but she is the kindest woman I know." Hu Shi was very grateful to Jiang Dongxiu for taking care of his mother's kindness, and Jiang Dongxiu did filial piety for him for ten years, and he really did not want to disappoint Jiang Dongxiu.

After decades of marriage, Hu Shi can be described as meek and obedient to Jiang Dongxiu. He even joked that he had joined the "Fear of Wives Association".

He was not afraid of his wife, but he was grateful for his wife and loved her.

A man of good manners has affection in his heart, integrity of character, goodness of heart, and great affection and righteousness. They know how to be grateful, remember each other's goodness, and will not waste everyone's sincerity. Such a person is more worthy of each of us to take the heart to fellowship, to establish friendship or friendship, or love.